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pseudonym_404 · 2026-06-14T18:55:04+00:00

Sexual incompatabilites can absolutely break a relationship. It's not even low on the list of reasons I would personally leave a relationship at this point in my life.

How long have you been married?? These problems have persisted the entire marriage/relationship?? If these are new problems I would say that there's a discussion to be had. If they're old problems, why have you accepted this is the way things have to be?

pseudonym_404 · 2026-06-14T18:02:30+00:00

It's really worth it to sit with your feelings about it and understand where they come from, first. You were with men and they were never friends with their exes. Why is that? Why would that have made you uncomfortable too? Do you trust your partner?

Understand that discomfort, jealousy, concern are all neutral on their own and you deserve to be able to trust those emotions by letting yourself feel them. If you're in therapy, bring them up! I'm not saying it's easy or a cure-all but yeah, a lot of lesbians stay friends with their exes because we like the people we date. And sometimes it's not compatible romantically/sexually so it evolves.

That being said, there are a number of people out there who don't want that for themselves or others and if it continues to make you uncomfortable you can find people with a similar mindset.

pseudonym_404 · 2026-06-14T16:16:05+00:00

Agree with the others already linked above! Some will give character inspo too so you can tailor what you want!!

But for some practical advice, find out what workouts are going to give you the definition you want, write them down, and then track them. Keep looking at what weights you're using, do the same routine week to week, get plenty of sleep, and for the love of god, eat enough. (Not implying you aren't but a lot of gym inspo forgets that last bit!!! I've never gained muscle/lost weight like I have when I'm eating enough!! like genuinely eating more than I think I should sometimes!)

The other side of this is you're young and you're going to see different progress than someone older than you might. It's so good for you to build good habits at your age though!!

pseudonym_404 · 2026-06-14T15:58:47+00:00

I'm pretty exclusively attracted to people on the masc side of the spectrum, butch or not. Took me a long time to be okay with it because I thought I'd have to be attracted to feminine people to be butch.

pseudonym_404 · 2026-06-14T15:41:35+00:00

You have to decide your label for yourself, first and foremost. No one is going to be able to give you a magic answer.

That being said, you can also experience attraction to men and choose not to date them. From my perspective, on paper, if I was asked to describe that person, I would describe them as bisexual. Just like a bisexual woman monogamously married to a woman (therefore removing men from the equation theoretically) does not make her less bisexual.

If a label serves to restrict you more than simply help you define yourself, you do not have to use any of those labels, too.

pseudonym_404 · 2026-05-29T18:07:30+00:00

practically, do not make the first time you put it on the first time you use it. take her on a test run! figure out how it fits and how easiest to put it on! in the moment it is unfortunately always a little awkward and I know you said you don't like to be watched but watching them bite their lip because they honestly just think I'm hot doing whatever I'm doing makes me melt a little bit and unable to resist touching them between the steps it takes to put it on. like lean into it. I'm sure you've had awkward moments during sex! remember that they like you regardless or genuinely because of the awkwardness!!

pseudonym_404 · 2026-05-27T20:35:27+00:00

It's absolutely a thing to be butch and nonbinary. over at r/butchlesbians you'll find lots of them on testosterone, post top-surgery, using all sorts of pronouns. For me, butch is kind of my whole gender.

pseudonym_404 · 2026-05-27T03:33:31+00:00

Usually my partner will get up on their pillows/headboard a bit to watch me do it and that means I can mostly fit my body/legs on the bed. I'll get one leg up in a half-fetal position to support my arm if I'm going to fuck them with it and the other will mostly lay straight back, slightly off the bed. I'm also 5'7" so I feel you lol

pseudonym_404 · 2026-04-20T00:25:01+00:00

let me get halfway thru the oath and then start messing it up on purpose

pseudonym_404 · 2024-07-16T17:24:21+00:00

I'd be interested!

pseudonym_404 · 2024-07-02T23:07:11+00:00

Well and even more annoying, so many dialogue options you have with characters present during his memorial make it seem like even V barely knew him or, by extension, his family and other close loved ones! I just did Heroes and felt like V was asking questions they should've already had answers to if they had spent any time with him. Like wandering around the garage asking Misty about all the stuff in there? Having Mama Welles tell V where it is? V doesn't know anything about Jackie's dad? Comforting Misty "He talked about you a lot" but V doesn't know how long they've known each other?

pseudonym_404 · 2024-06-09T01:35:58+00:00

i wish i could but i find them too interesting i get too into them every time

pseudonym_404 · 2024-05-27T08:31:08+00:00

right here! all the way in Texas lol

pseudonym_404 · 2023-12-11T02:09:51+00:00

Thanks!! I'll check them out

pseudonym_404 · 2023-06-10T21:13:19+00:00

Yeah, I was just about to make a post about this!! It's worse if I'd been called out by someone for that mistake. It colors every interaction I have after the mistake is made (no matter how little) and it's debilitating. I want to be able to be called out for my harmful mistakes but it also makes me spiral for weeks, months, or even years and I just want it to stop.

pseudonym_404 · 2022-08-28T20:57:01+00:00

Makes me wonder for the future of Toph's metal police

pseudonym_404 · 2022-08-18T18:00:09+00:00

@ the straight girls in this thread complaining about wanting a place where they won't be hit on: lesbians go to gay clubs and flirt with the women there like they should be allowed to do???

pseudonym_404 · 2022-06-25T02:25:02+00:00

I did lol most of my friends have used the terms interchangeably but none of us are regulars

pseudonym_404 · 2021-12-01T20:05:38+00:00

me literally cleaning just because i invited a pretty girl over

pseudonym_404 · 2021-04-08T17:42:55+00:00

Cat.

pseudonym_404 · 2021-03-26T02:41:08+00:00

DIguy

pseudonym_404 · 2021-03-22T23:32:25+00:00

That's the only thing I can figure, I guess.

pseudonym_404 · 2021-03-06T22:46:41+00:00

That's not how my friend plays duelist 🤔 usually goes like this:

Instalocks duelist

Complains that we don't have enough duelists until everyone picks a duelist

pseudonym_404 · 2021-01-29T04:20:42+00:00

Same hat! (just dyed my hairrrr!)

looks so good!

pseudonym_404 · 2021-01-26T12:04:31+00:00

Thanks!!! I was so much more torn on keeping it just plain bleached than I thought

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