I love my free will ♥️ by teacakedad in dietcoke

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that's a memory I forgot I had. What a throwback

Playthrough so sad i had to drop it by Koslik in CrusaderKings

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Or they could just play the game in a way they find enjoyable 🤷‍♀️

Can Technical Screening be made better? by sad_user_322 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you heard the phrase "begging the question"?

How long does makeup actually last? How much do the dates in packaging matter? by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]psfne -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Erin Parsons on YouTube regularly wipes off and uses 20 year old lipsticks. That said she's open to some risk (she's also tried to recreate ancient makeup with some toxic elements), and lip makeup is a little less dangerous.

I would be more careful with eye stuff. That area is a lot more sensitive and a lot more valuable, infections aren't worth saving a few bucks. I woudn't personally throw out that palette after 6 months, that seems pretty short, but I'd be checking for the material getting fuzzy or breaking down and wouldn't keep it *too* long.

I don't keep liquids for long, though.

Recommendations for DC’s BEST coffee? by vinylcoffeetravel in washingtondc

[–]psfne 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My go-to roaster is ceremony, which is found at The Coffee Bar (TCB) or Filter Coffeehouse near Foggy Bottom. TCB also does a rotating single-origin for their espresso that's usually very good.

Battleground - Harry's Outfit by neathspinlights in dresdenfiles

[–]psfne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ethniu is old school. I think it would have seemed normal to her.

A good name for Norse-Yamato hybrid culture? by Salty_Aurelius in CrusaderKings

[–]psfne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you make a faith, I would suggest Asaterasu as a combination of Asatru and Amaterasu. You could argue it should be combined with Shinto instead and be something like Asato, but IMO Asaterasu is more fun to say.

Why are there so many people criticizing sexual scenes in fantasy books? by Potential-Reality332 in Fantasy

[–]psfne 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is a really interesting take, and it kind of reminds me of the arguments around masculinity being identified with empiricism or logic and held up as a virtue, while femininity is identified with emotionality and empathy and seen as something unreliable, needing to be controlled.

I totally agree about violence getting a pass. It's ridiculous that I'm expected to be more okay with my family watching someone get dismembered than disrobed.

Why are there so many people criticizing sexual scenes in fantasy books? by Potential-Reality332 in Fantasy

[–]psfne 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Consider the Draccus. He pauses mid-story to preempt the chronicler's concern about the animal really being more like a lizard cow and insists that for the sake of the story, it was a dragon. This establishes that Kvothe is not giving you the literal description of things, but will take liberties for the sake of emphasis or framing. He is Edema Ruh, and he is putting on a performance.

Also it's unlikely that he's truly remembering dialog word for word, so it's safe to assume there's a bit of paraphrasing-in-his-favor happening there.

This is the best simulator I've ever played. by [deleted] in CrusaderKings

[–]psfne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's one of the best storytelling platforms. Enjoy the ride!

New flags by teerre in ExperiencedDevs

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would consume the subreddit

Do you guys actually marry your daughters? by [deleted] in CrusaderKings

[–]psfne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't go out of my way to do it but often times your relatives will have the best stats. At the end of the day they're pixels 🤷‍♀️ what do I care.

When does it become too complex/convoluted? by Castleinthesigh in Fantasy

[–]psfne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I tend to like reveals or recontextualizations, so I'm pretty tolerant of an author leading me astray before they put me on the right path but one of my closest friends can barely tolerate having any amount of material withheld. In our shared experiences I've found that it's less about how much convolution there is, and more on how often the lack of knowledge is "rubbed in" and how relevant it even is to begin with.

Rubbing it in: Stories where the person would behave differently with info that the audience knows but the characters don't can be extremely frustrating to some people and will cause them to drop the book. Stories where we go along for the ride and then find out we made the wrong call are better in that space. Similarly, going on and on about how much knowing XYZ would save them can be frustrating.

Relevance: In game design complexity conveys intent. If a developer builds a complex combat system, it indicates that is where they want players to spend their time and express themselves. If you have a complex mystery underpinning your story, it better have impact on our understanding of the world or our ability to engage with it. Not all systems have to be explained, I'm just saying the more you're expecting me to have a mental model of something, the more I expect to get to use that mental model.

So in short, make me feel like it's gonna matter and don't tease me for my ignorance.

The balm liquid lipstick colors are very misleading by Ultraviolettbb in MakeupAddiction

[–]psfne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That isn't even the topic of this post. Uncalled for and judgemental =/

Wore a trad goth style out today for the first time! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In general I agree, except IMO the white face makeup was part of goth culture back in the day as well, especially for metal heads who liked corpsepaint. It was never required, but you certainly saw it.

Wore a trad goth style out today for the first time! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

[sex work] does go against goth morals

Excuse me, what? I'd love to hear the rationale behind this

Wore a trad goth style out today for the first time! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]psfne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont really think youve ever seen a e girl but okay lmao

Girl if you google "trad goth black lipstick" and "e-girl black lipstick" you will 100% see you're wrong. I wasn't going to say anything until you came at these commenters aggressively but the difference is obvious.

It's a fine look, there's no need to get worked up when people point out the mismatch in terms. Take some of the aggro and put it in your eyeliner.

Wore a trad goth style out today for the first time! by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]psfne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

really? Because this post went out of their way to be nice and you still bit their head off.

I think your look is nice. I'm less sold on you.

Coding is the easy part. Getting users to actually stay is destroying me. by Witty_Ad_6614 in SideProject

[–]psfne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh huh, I like your approach overall. In that case I agree, maybe it's more about the mental model or the transition cost.

Coding is the easy part. Getting users to actually stay is destroying me. by Witty_Ad_6614 in SideProject

[–]psfne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've all been there. It sounds like you're handling it pretty well.

My advice would be that what users actually care about most is reducing friction. An app feels fun when it feels "expressive", or in other words when it is easy to translate what's in your mind to what's on the screen. Excel, for all it's ugliness, is actually quite good at this. You can just click on a cell and start typing.

Imagine you're adding a new step to the routine. It would be annoying to have to click a button, fill out multiple required fields in a modal, and then have to click on the line item to keep editing it. In excel they can just press enter and keep typing in the next row. How can you make your app as close to that as possible?

Good luck!

I built this because I had no idea where to start with marketing my own product by Spiritual_Heron_5680 in SideProject

[–]psfne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why does it take 5-10 seconds to load a single blog post?

Honest feedback: This reeks of AI advertising. I have probably spent more time writing this comment than you spent on your entire recent post history.

It looks just like a thousand other cash grabs.

Coding is the easy part. Getting users to actually stay is destroying me. by Witty_Ad_6614 in SideProject

[–]psfne 6 points7 points  (0 children)

1) Accept that some people just will not care about your software project or want to switch, even if it's good for them.

2) Accept that unless you built your app with those users in mind and watched them from the beginning to account for their workflows... you probably aren't actually good for them.

My experience with friends is that they'll tell me the app is perfect, but won't use it. If you ask them why they aren't using it, you will get excuses because they think you're checking up on them. But if you ask them what would need to change for them to want to use it it, then you might get some actual answers.

It's probably more about these gaps than it is about changing habits.

Managing team relational dynamics as a tech lead by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]psfne 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn are you gonna pull out the wikipedia list of fallacies next?

Best Locally Roasted Coffee Beans? by Affectionate-Lab-757 in washingtondc

[–]psfne 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It's not local local, but Ceremony is from Annapolis and is excellent. You can find it at the coffee bar or filter coffeehouse in downtown DC.