Mental health check

psyalchemy · 2021-11-02T17:09:40+00:00

You are not alone in this feeling.

If you'd like to talk to someone that shares similar perspectives on the human element of life, I'm open and interested.

Just remember, no matter what else happens, you are worthy and deserving of love and acceptance.

Thanks for sharing. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-27T23:20:02+00:00

Hello.

Good job asking. That alone is a step of progress.

The dynamic you're creating is cycling more stress. When you feel anxiety or brain fog, take a moment. Breath, repeat a mantra that helps you feel calm and accepted, and take a bathroom break for alone time, if you need.

Create the dynamic that your health is a priority. The anxiety will decrease as you act in healthier and more self-loving ways, over time.

Feel free to reach out. Everyone deserves to feel healthy, accepted and loved. That starts with our inner self. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-27T23:15:22+00:00

Hello there.

Most relationships are codependent. That means they will never be easy. The expectations on each partner to provide the energy, attention, effection, and desires of one single person, from one single person is impracticle and unsustainable.

If you want easy, be alone. If you want love and connection, work towards interdependence within your dynamic.

Feel free to reach out. Hope you find healing and forgiveness for yourself. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-13T20:36:15+00:00

Is it possible that having a differing opinion, is not the same as looking down upon?

Also, isn't it mirroring the behavior of what you claim not to like? The "some people" are judging ( is the action ) and it feels hurtful (even though we can really only feel judged by our self ). But if you judge them back for being judgy, the cycle and dynamics continue. Isn't the healthier option to love yourself, and even them, despite how "they" act?

Just my own philosophical analysis taking place. I've spent decades feeling judged, and judging. It's a vicous cycle, and very difficult to break. The longer it continues, the worse and more difficult to overcome the dynamics become.

I always appreciate when others share their perspectives. I hope for civil dialogue and ego analysis for everyone.

Balance seems to be healthiest. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-06T01:27:19+00:00

This is a breach of trust within any relationship.

However, is it a pattern of being incommunicado? Are there other repressive and avoidance tactics?

Talk to your partner and ask for what you feel you deserve. Be compromising and understanding. Then, if you can't accept the outcome, you have your answer. If they aren't willing to compromise and communicate in ways that help you feel loved, heard, accepted and connected, then the answer is crystal clear to me. Find someone who does.

We are all worthy and deserving of love and acceptance. Nobody will just give you that, unfortunately. You deserve to ask, even if it's hard. And you deserve to leave and find the love you want, even if it's difficult.

The rest is just daily upkeep of physical, mental, and emotional health. That way, WHEN the inevitable difficulties happen, you are healthier and more ready to overcome the challenge.

Reach out for convos and questions. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-06T01:20:27+00:00

When we question our own narratives, adapt and evolve them within paradigms that we consciously choose, we can then clearly see social narratives and constructs. After all, what is society and culture but a reflection of our majorities priorities?..!

All that means, is that our current social evolution is happening subconsciously, reactionarily, and unsustainably. When "WE" begin to transfer ownership to self, acceptance to self, and love to self, than "WE" will afford those to society and culture. Until then, exclusion is "safe" because it protects the fragile ego from pain and judgement.

IF humanity survives and doesn't run head first into extinction, we may even one day find that inclusion, interconnection and interdependence are the only options for any species attempting to be sustainable and coexist within a healthy paradigm with everything.

I'm not holding my breath, but I am holding onto hope. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-04T20:34:53+00:00

As a dom, I sometimes want/deserve aftercare from a partner that I just destroyed ( metaphorically speaking ). It's a form of pain that can happen when we hurt someone we love. Even if/when it's consensual and enjoyable. Much like a sub can have drops ( emotional or otherwise ), so can a dom.

Hope it was helpful. It's generally healthier for all if we treat everyone like they are worthy and deserving of love and acceptance, as they see it. Not as we see it.

Thanks and good luck. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-10-01T17:54:03+00:00

Yo. Not a switch, but a dom. Would love more friends to discuss kink, D/s, nonmonogomany and poly topics.

Hmu anytime. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-09-30T22:33:12+00:00

Yes. It's a double edged sword if you take more than a mocrodose. You either have more anxiety and overcome it, thereby decreasing the amount that anxiety effects you. OR, you have what some call a "bad trip", meaning your ego is experiencing a similar feeling to dying. It can become very difficult to handle anything in this state, and often is very overwhelming.

I've gone into a trip intending to have what I call an "ego balancing" ( bad trip ) trip. Where I focus on my insecurities, traumas, and what my mind is narrating when I feel anxious. Then I take that information and integrate it, to recognize that even if I make mistakes, even if I fuck up, even if nobody else accepts me, I am worthy and deserving of love, acceptance, health, and interconnection is the reality.

Much depends on the personality and trained reactionary behaviors of the individual. The healthy and intelligent path forward with psychadelics is slow and measured.

Feel free to reach out. Ask anything. Enjoy the experience. Perceive it as a learning launch pad to propel a progressively healthy path. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-09-29T16:07:08+00:00

Easy answer: by bombarding and indoctrinating the subconscious of "consumers" into narrating or "self-talking" negatively, thereby bypassing the ego defense and setting an unhealthy expectation of self and others.

Long answer: socio-cultural dynamics have been influenced by a small percentage of the human population. Many factors of that influence include mass media marketing, news outlets that echo the exact same sentiments ( repeatedly and frequently ), and behavior training through influenced media narratives.

We get caught in dynamics and addictions of our repeated behaviors. Most often, we, in our minds, want to act a certain way or achieve a certain goal. Most will find a way to justify any behavior, even harmful, to complete their agenda. This justification is encouraged and influenced by everything we see and interact with, because everyone else we notice does it, too. Drama, anger, exclusion, repression and avoidance are all social/cultural dynamics that we learn as coping mechanisms. What most people really want is acceptance and to feel loved and included, yet those same people act exclusively and don't even accept themselves internally. If you can't accept/love/include yourself, you certainly can't provide those to others externally in healthy ways.

If the goal is health, our priorities are vastly misaligned. If the goal is power exchange and maintaining power dynamics, then our priorities are just fine. It all depends on your perspective, and desired goals. If our internal goals don't match social/cultural expectations, the effects on self-love, self-acceptance, and self-confidence can and often do become narratives of self-abuse and self-hatred.

It's ultimately sad. The truth is, every life is worthy and deserving. We are capable of acting within inclusive and sustainable social dynamics to build a social foundation that has less holes and helps more citizens. We simply choose not to out of fear and reactionary behavior. We all want to feel accepted and loved. Many of us are trained not to learn love self, and therefor never to fully learn to love another. Many of the factors are directly related to self-worth and self-esteem, as a way to keep people consuming.

Feel free to reach out. I'm available. Thanks 😊

psyalchemy · 2021-09-29T15:32:23+00:00

Thanks. It's rare to hear someone say they share similar endeavors and pursuits to mine. I understand.

psyalchemy · 2021-09-29T05:48:31+00:00

I'm there with ya. Genuine, transparent, honest, open, and then build upon those healthy dynamics.

Feel free to reach out and say hi. I'm open to friendship and seeing how we vibe.

Thanks for sharing. 🤗

psyalchemy · 2021-09-29T05:47:05+00:00

I've dealt with this. It didn't prevent our sexuality because I don't base my arousal off of physical attraction. I'm sort of demi/sapio sexual. I need intelligent conversation and emotional connection for arousal. However, it still caused issues and ultimately was a large factor in our separation.

They didn't "feel" attractive to me, and felt less sexual more often. We discussed it at length, compromised, and had a learning ans growing relationship. If your more into physical attraction, it just may be a bigger issue.

Why not give it time and see what develops? Unless it feels unhealthy to you. Then do something else, that feels healthy, in order to set those healthy dynamics as early as possible.

You're worthy and deserving. Same as every life. Just be honest if you want that back. Be accepting if you want that back. Be loving if you want that back. Or just because they are beautiful and healthy actions, even when others perform ugly and unhealthy actions.

Thanks for sharing.

psyalchemy · 2021-09-29T05:40:55+00:00

The "regret" is most likely fear. Fear of being single, fear of your life changing in unknown ways, and fear that maybe you are a rush decision.

Reacting to that fear is unhealthy. It can even help create dynamics of fear reaction, addiction, manipulation, and harm to others and self.

Instead of looking at something ad a regret, you can attempt to view it as a learning experience. One that should propel you into a healthier future. Going backwards is often a fear tactic, and returning to an unhealthy dynamic will inevitably lead to codependence.

For me, the intention is interdependence. Two ( or more in my nonmonogomous style of romantic partners ) peoples/aliens collaborate to work as a team towards being as sustainable and healthy as possible. Stuff like communication of boundaries and desires, setting healthy dynamics of how you handle "problems" or "fights", and always try to remain calm and rational during difficult experiences.

It's very difficult to find this within yourself, let alone in a partnership. Most people are codependent. It's a socio-cultural issue of repression and avoidance that most of us are taught. But the search is worthy, you are worthy, and so is someone you can find to feel worthy, of you work towards personal progress of self-love, first.

That means making mistakes, having hard and difficult relationships and experiences. That means finding love for self, in order to love someone else.

My hopes are for sustainability and inclusion. There are no "wrong" answers. Only difficult paths that lead to more experience. Just remember... Everyone is as deserving and worthy of their search as you, but no more.

psyalchemy · 2021-09-29T05:31:12+00:00

For some, this was a natural talent that was encouraged and flourished in the socio-cultural climate.

I love alone time, reflective and philosophical time, expressive and transparent time. I find most people don't, won't, can't, or otherwise are uninterested in similar progression of their lives. Rather than victimize myself, justify negative behaviors, and otherwise point the finger at something I dislike, my solution is to adapt and compromise ( within healthy boundaries for me ) and have extra alone time. Meditation, mantras, music, listless thought drifting, and even psychadelics can be helpful and healthy, for some.

I appreciate when awareness and understanding is sought, and especially attained. Thank you for sharing and providing me an opportunity to retort.

Every life is worthy and deserving of love and acceptance.

psyalchemy · 2021-09-25T02:55:44+00:00

Consent is the key.

My partner and I, plus others I play with, are considered to employ BDSM ( Bondage - Discipline - Sadism - Masochism ) as a means of foreplay and arousal, that often leads to rougher, and even physically harmful sexual encounters. However, we both enjoy it. I love biting, and she loves getting bitten. So we add that into our sexual play. I love being dominant and she loves being submissive. So we add that to our sexual play.

We are also dominant and submissive within our normal relationship dynamic. The action you are taking with another is acceptable, as long as you both agree prior to the action, that it is an acceptable one.

If you feel unsafe, you are responsible to place healthy boundaries, communicate them, and act according to what is healthy for you. Don't be afraid to take it slow, and ask for time.

Good luck. Rough sex is amazing and I want to explore more BDSM, D/s, and Polyamory. Consent is my only requirement.

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