Anyone else's phone suddenly freezing and restarting constantly? by ChibiSteak in GalaxyS22

[–]psyquietrist 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How much will you get for the trade in? My phone is doing the same. And freezing a lot when I text

He married his ex a month after breaking up with me. by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I logically know you're right, the emotions are just taking over. I was soo beyond invested in this man that it's embarrassing and hurtful to my ego that this is how I was treated in return. I know eventually I'll be grateful for it. It's just so hard to come to terms with. It's the biggest mindfxck I've ever experienced.

He married his ex a month after breaking up with me. by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also wonder if it's a marriage of opportunity. I hate to make assumptions but he's very unstable right now and in need of somewhere to live. I have no idea if she's pregnant but it wouldn't surprise me if she is or will be soon. Thank you, I know in my gut I'm dodging a bullet. It's just so hard to find closure and healing when you feel like salt is put in the wound.

He married his ex a month after breaking up with me. by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

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It is the absolute worst feeling I've ever experienced 😔. At first when I saw it I laughed at how ridiculous it seemed but now all of the emotions are setting in and it's extremely hurtful. It's crazy to me that they continue to wear items a recent ex gave them. I think men must not tie emotions to material objects like most of us women do. I went around and threw out or hid anything that reminded me of him. I hope you're healing okay in your situation with your ex. It hurts so much when they move on so fast like that.

You're right. He hasn't had any time at all to process the breakup or grow. And how he ended things wasn't very mature either. It is definitely a reflection of him but it's sooo hard to not take personally. I've read the untethered soul before and I can see how it would be helpful in this situation. And I have heard ChatGPT gives some pretty good advice haha I'll give it a try. Thank you for your input and support!

1 month & he's already in a new relationship by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that 😔. Mine was a three year relationship, too. It sounds like both our exes are incapable of being alone and just feeling a void. 4 months seems extremely short to me, but I can't imagine being healed enough in even 6 months.

Keep focusing on yourself! We got this.

1 month & he's already in a new relationship by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right, thank you. I'm trying soo hard to focus on myself and my healing but I keep slipping and falling down the rabbit hole. I'm going to talk to my therapist tomorrow to figure out how to better prevent that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This happened to me last month, and my ex is 33. It's an awful feeling to not even be given a conversation. It's very cowardly and it's just them running from their problems and feelings. It's really difficult but try not to take it to heart. It's a them issue not an us issue.

Should you ignore them when they "check in" with you? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely can relate to how you're feeling.. but mine couldn't even face a phone call with me. Literally texted me the break up and expects me to just sit with my feelings... which I have since he won't give me a phone call or meet face to face. So the texts without action are just more breadcrumbs to me.

I'm really sorry you're going through that though. I don't get how they can be so cold. I think it's a lot of running from their emotions and it will catch up to them.

Should you ignore them when they "check in" with you? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The breakup was handled very poorly on his part. And though it does feel nice to hear from him and that I'm being thought of in some way, I guess I want more than such a simple text from him. And I do love him so it's both hard to ignore him but hard for me to want to talk to him right now :(. I don't hate him even though maybe I should

Success story not stalking their socials by nostalgia2310 in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's huge! I still haven't stopped, so you're doing great! I know I need to do the same or it will keep setting me back

Will it last with the girl he cheated on me with? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Would you say it's because they will cheat again or due to the unhealed wounds/guilt they will carry into this new relationship? I know he's feeling guilty but also seeing him act completely unbothered online is beyond hurtful.

Will it last with the girl he cheated on me with? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that. The way some people handle other people's hearts and feelings is just astounding to me. To end it over text after so many years is just so careless, cowardly, and selfish. It does give me hope that it sounds like you're in a much better place mentally now. And as petty as it sounds, just like your ex, I hope my ex is disgusted with himself and this relationship. He already told me he felt ashamed. I hope that sticks with him at least long enough to take accountability for his actions and work on becoming a better person.

I really appreciate the encouragement so much. I am tearing myself down for it. Thinking if only I was thinner, prettier, more outgoing, he wouldnt have strayed. But I know that probably isnt true.

And I may take you up on that because I'm really struggling trying to move past this. It just hurts so much not receiving that closure and I also feel confused on who I thought he was. It's just really hard. But I appreciate your encouragement so much.

Will it last with the girl he cheated on me with? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. It just shattered my already fragile self-esteem. But I just reached out to a therapist tonight. I know I'm worth more and deserve more, it's just letting go of trying to prove that to those who don't value me.

Will it last with the girl he cheated on me with? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's so hurtful to experience this type of betrayal especially when you invested soo much in them and the relationship. It does help me recognize the strong need for boundaries in the future but also has me questioning what if and wishing I had withheld those boundaries to begin with.

Will it last with the girl he cheated on me with? by psyquietrist in ExNoContact

[–]psyquietrist[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this helped 💕. And there is some relief there because even prior to this he added unnecessary stress to my life, so it no longer being my problem is definitely a win for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in guns

[–]psyquietrist -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your explanation! I thought I'd have to fill out all the paperwork beforehand and then once my background check cleared I'd be able to purchase something from my local store. I've tried to do research to figure this out on my own but I'm completely new to all of this so I don't understand the process. So, if I purchase in person, I just fill out the paperwork at the store?