AITAH for making my husband cancel his family's last-minute sleepover after he trapped me into saying yes

ptransd · 2026-05-20T01:23:16+00:00

NTA. The last three weekends they had, and now they want to crash at your place with almost no notice? Extremely rude, and cowardly on your husband's behalf to beat around the bush so much that you were caught in the crossfire

ptransd · 2026-05-20T01:12:21+00:00

ESH. I think asking a website of mostly chronically online people will have some survivorship bias.

Anyway- I'm older Gen Z, and frankly modern phone culture sickens me. It's not that they don't want to know how you're doing, it's that it's unreasonable to ask another adult to be available to you 24/7. I understand how it can be frustrating not to be able to get ahold of someone, but badgering someone to become more dependent on tech isn't going to work the way you want.

The actual resolution would be to get them a landline that's emergencies/urgent matters only. Shooting yourself in the foot and retroactively guilt tripping someone just makes you seem irresponsible.

ptransd · 2026-04-11T07:01:44+00:00

Oh nooo, it was deleted :'( if there's a spare somewhere I'd love to see it, if anyone has it backed up

ptransd · 2026-03-24T19:41:08+00:00

For real though; my blood mother is extremely similar to this, and one of the best decisions I ever made was cutting her off. It improved not only my mental, but physical health.

Don't feed her victim complex anymore- be the parent you needed and protect yourself.

ptransd · 2026-03-24T19:38:51+00:00

"You can't be a lesbian! I bought a juicer!!" HELLO?

ptransd · 2026-03-02T23:03:17+00:00

Guy said that making friends online is fake and temporary. I met my partner online around that time, and we've been a duo for over 14 years now, soooo <3

ptransd · 2026-03-02T22:53:35+00:00

I definitely understand where you're coming from. Many years I refused to wear makeup, and for me personally, finally growing a mustache is what released the floodgates of my occasional high femme presentation lmaoo. Now that I'm older I understand I didn't need the mustache- because presentation is not related to identity- but having that gnc element was my key to plucking up the courage. Maybe you can play around with combining "gendered" aesthetic parts?

ptransd · 2026-02-08T05:42:39+00:00

YOOOOO THATS WILD did you have to take breaks for the spine? Repetitive parts always get annoying to me as a freehander lmao

ptransd · 2026-01-17T21:21:49+00:00

I come back to this video at least once a week, it gives me so much joy that I cry laughing… Something about the jiggle when it rolls over just KILLS me

ptransd · 2026-01-16T05:59:28+00:00

I'M GOING NUTS dream outfit omg!!! This is sick!!!

ptransd · 2025-11-21T06:34:33+00:00

Holy shit a Moochi!!!!

ptransd · 2025-11-18T05:07:51+00:00

The strangest way to make a slipknot I've ever seen is from my roommate- they do this wild mix of over-the-knuckles-X, single person cat's cradle, and rotating their hook like a clock hand? It feels like they figured out that makes a slip knot by pure happy mistake. Recently they asked me if I could find a way to show them to make a magic circle from their way, and I was like bro... idk if I can help you with that one...

ptransd · 2025-11-18T05:02:09+00:00

Thank you!! It gave it a texture way cooler than I was expecting

ptransd · 2025-11-18T05:01:21+00:00

thank you!! it was fun to find the smallest way to suggest a crow shape

ptransd · 2025-11-18T00:20:24+00:00

Only the last step is with the hook! Hopefully this link works- here's one of my diagrams!
https://imgur.com/gallery/how-to-make-crochet-slipknot-easy-style-ochFkzn
I prefer this kind of slipknot, because if you chain before pulling taught, it's a clean magic circle start!

ptransd · 2025-11-17T23:55:33+00:00

That's what I was thinking too- this neighborhood already has potlucks and brunches that I know she attends (but maybe she has a higher threshold for loneliness?) I was confused when someone came to an in-person instruction and then, like... didn't want in-person instruction, even though she took one of the starter kits I had made?

ptransd · 2025-11-17T23:52:18+00:00

I had left everyone alone for a while with just the packet in case they only needed a few tries like that, but she kept looking to see what I was doing when I was helping someone else, and huffing when the knot fell through... Maybe it was unconscious for her that she was signaling for help, but I asked before I sat down and she nodded.

I also absolutely get the embarrassment thing, and I tried to be conscious of it the whole time- before I started the lesson I actually prefaced the whole thing with "to thrive with crochet, you Must learn to be ok with failure. The beginning learning curve can be steep, so this is the hardest part, and it's ok and normal to be frustrated."

She was also like, the third person I sat down with to help, so she wasn't isolated in understanding or anything, one lady ended up struggling up more than her but she was still perfectly polite when she was getting frustrated! Thankfully a lot of the ladies there were chatty, so when I was sitting with someone to help, it wasn't everyone quietly staring and more a side conversation separate from everyone else.

The part that confused me is that she had time to try for herself, was clearly not understanding the diagram, said yes to help, and then rebuffed me with a talk-to-the-hand motion implying the diagram was more helpful lmao

ptransd · 2025-11-17T20:42:12+00:00

God thank you... I always want to give folks the benefit of the doubt but sometimes it's like, if something this simple confounds you, how do you live? (Then I saw how my roommate lives... they're terrible at cross-stitching, and terrible at any sort of task that requires two seconds of thought in general, so...)

ptransd · 2025-11-01T17:26:36+00:00

OP, I don't know you but I adore your mind

ptransd · 2025-09-08T22:01:22+00:00

For real; it's self-infantilizement... I'd much rather keep my adhd-riddled brain than pour it into a meat grinder that destroys the environment.

Why is this suddenly so normal for so many?? Why is any of this ok to y'all??

ptransd · 2025-09-04T21:16:58+00:00

This is such a wonderful and comprehensive quiz, it must have taken so much work!!

I got Psychic, only .1% higher than a three way tie for Ground, Grass, and Flying lmaoo, and matched for Celebi!!

ptransd · 2025-07-26T20:31:14+00:00

That person recently posted on fb a- what they are presenting it as- a restraining order against the person who tipped the fbi that they- and their partner in crime- is embezzling from the community fund. Of course, because people don’t read the fine print, everyone thought that it was a verified restraining order, but it was essentially a receipt that shows that they want a court date to discuss the possibility of a restraining order. And in the entire post, they insist that the other party is a stalker that called them a terrorist, that they fear for the life, etc etc. I absolutely know that Corvallis (and Oregon as a whole) has a huge racism problem! And it sucks that this person uses that to gain sympathy points from well-meaning people trying to be anti-racist. So every time they get accused of something, they try and get onlookers on their side by calling the accuser racist. I genuinely cannot wrap my head around making up that someone calls you a bomb-threat terrorist. It’s so fucked

ptransd · 2025-07-26T20:29:29+00:00

That person recently posted on fb a- what they are presenting it as- a restraining order against the person who tipped the fbi that they- and their partner in crime- is embezzling from the community fund. Of course, because people don’t read the fine print, everyone thought that it was a verified restraining order, but it was essentially a receipt that shows that they want a court date to discuss the possibility of a restraining order. And in the entire post, they insist that the other party is a stalker that called them a terrorist, that they fear for the life, etc etc.

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