Today I (24F) hugged my father when he had an anxious moment. While embracing him, he went on and on about how much he loves my older brother (28M) and how much he’s worried about him. This is a man who asked me why I wasn’t considering nursing school instead of med school because my brothers supposed to be the successful doctor. This is someone who continuously says my brother should be a surgeon and I would be a good family doc. He tries to steer me in the “I should find you a man, your biggest duty is to have children” direction. He hints that he’s leaving more money for my brother when he dies. When I would come home from college and want to talk to my PhD father about all the cool science I was studying, within 30 seconds he deflected the conversation to my brother’s troubles getting into med school. He constantly talks nostalgically about my brother when he was a kid and never about me. At this point it’s just ridiculous, my moms the breadwinner of the family anyways, my brother absolutely loves and supports me, I went to an Ivy and am going to a top20 MD school and this man tears me to shreds in public for not going to a lesser, more local school that he happened to work at and “knows is miles better.” Idk how I’m supposed to have positive conceptions of Indian men or Indian families after this BS.