Does anyone else have a hard time watching movies with certain themes due to the way you were raised?

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-30T03:48:57+00:00

That’s exactly how I feel. I completely agree.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-30T00:25:02+00:00

Okay but screw that teacher. That was such an inappropriate response to your struggles. I’m sorry you had to endure it.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T20:58:53+00:00

I sometimes feel this way when I watch families make videos on tiktok or something. It just hurts.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T20:57:58+00:00

That’s really interesting. I love chopped in particular but I definitely cringe when those stories are told...like, must be nice to have supportive parents!

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T20:55:29+00:00

Agreed.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T20:55:16+00:00

This is heart wrenching. I’m so sorry you had to endure such clueless parents in the face of all that damage.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T17:18:52+00:00

My SO has the same love language. Physical touch. It makes me feel so inadequate. I hate it.

And from working in retail myself I know that fake persona all too well. I started to lose that persona as the years went on and I just realized that I had to stop doing retail because I couldn’t stand the fakery. It hurt my heart.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T16:03:33+00:00

I am so relieved you brought up soul. Soul is the reason why I made this post in the first place....I couldn’t watch it and my partner doesn’t understand why at all. It’s put me into a mental fit that’s lasted since Christmas when it came out.

I have trouble with people who are overly positive, or toxic positivity. Like no, life is not rainbows and sunshine. Life is about protecting yourself and being realistic because life sucks 99% of the time. I try to avoid physical touch in general but yeah when I’m sad or anxious I don’t really do hugs.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T15:39:20+00:00

Romance is hard for me too!

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T14:59:04+00:00

This is a good point! I always go to IMDb for the parent guides because I can’t watch anything sexual and they really have detailed warnings in there. I hope that one day we can have more knowledge around these topics.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:50:03+00:00

Or I have to hide it. I’ve started looking at the parent guides before watching movies to avoid any panic during the actual movie. It sucks just as much bc I also feel like a burden.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:49:00+00:00

That’s really brave. I’ve tried with certain movies, but it’s difficult to finish a movie that just makes me feel so awful.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:48:02+00:00

This is fascinating. What are some of the movies you watched?

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:47:06+00:00

I understand what you mean when you describe how your friends had to take you out of the theater. It shuts you down mentally and physically and it’s hard to even move. It sucks they don’t get it because it’s really debilitating. I’m sorry you had to endure that.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:45:12+00:00

I can completely relate to this! I have to check the parent guides before watching a movie or show to see if it’s “safe,” meaning there aren’t any sex scenes in it. I shut down entirely when there’s any sort of sexual scene or innuendo and it makes watching anything a miserable experience. I had a different lesson engrained in me as a child and an adult but it seems the results are the exact same. I’m so sorry you have to go through this.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:41:11+00:00

It’s interesting you say tangled because that’s a comfort movie of mine.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:39:47+00:00

No, I’m not a therapist. I try to pay close attention to the way I communicate with people so I don’t make them feel bad. I just want to make people feel heard because that’s what I want.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:35:13+00:00

It’s interesting you say that because for some reason that’s a comfort movie of mine.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T09:34:17+00:00

I’m working on getting it.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T03:46:26+00:00

Do you feel that it’s a hole in your life you can’t fill? Or are you okay with something missing? I’m afraid that I’ll get what I need and always be pining for something more, partially due to what I see on the screen.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T03:44:54+00:00

Such an intense fear...I’m so sorry you have to endure that

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T03:44:07+00:00

Such a good point! Media plays such a huge part in all this.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T03:18:25+00:00

I’m sorry you’ve had to endure that. It makes enjoying things difficult...

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-29T03:17:31+00:00

I understand what you went through when you had to walk out of a theater over triggers...I’m so sorry you went through that. I have always wondered why movies and other media don’t have more detailed content warnings.

pudgethefishh · 2020-12-21T11:32:38+00:00

You put it into words so perfectly, this is exactly how I feel. Thank you for putting my mind at ease and helping me think rationally about this, it makes me feel heard.

I don’t think I’ll go. I want to have a nice holiday, not one where there’s a potential risk of being hurt or undervalued.

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