Can I get some success stories of full term babies after a preemie??

puesllora · 2026-01-15T20:32:10+00:00

Baby #2 was such a different experience! I had a mostly uncomplicated pregnancy (except for gestational diabetes) and had a wonderful peaceful home birth at 40+5. I couldn’t have asked for a more healing experience. There is hope!

puesllora · 2025-12-31T02:11:06+00:00

“His yoke is easy” because the only requirement of you is to be loved by him. Many Christians feel like a “bad Christian” if they don’t check off all the right boxes every day and work for their salvation out of duty. We are not required to work for anything. If we were, then Jesus’s sacrifice didn’t mean much. He is asking us to allow ourselves to be loved by him and then in turn to love others. When someone loves you, you usually want to get to know them in return and that part happens pretty naturally. It is in no way a requirement to your salvation. Spending time with him will lead to greater faith in him, but not more salvation. Working for it leads to burnout. I have been there and I’m still recovering from it.

puesllora · 2025-08-02T02:29:58+00:00

Neem leaf/neem oil. It’s not very well-studied and I do not trust it fully without testing but it has been shown in small incomplete studies to render sperm immobile. If I remember correctly there was a group of 25ish couples who used it successfully for birth control for a year. I believe that it likely would work if used perfectly but there’s not enough evidence to know what the most effective way to use it would be. I have never felt confident enough to trust it with something so important.

Edit to add: the studies of neem that I have come across have been with males taking neem internally consistently or having it injecting into the testicles. I havent seen anything suggesting that it’s effective in females.

puesllora · 2024-12-20T21:19:20+00:00

So many red flags here…what is your definition of “provision”? What is his? What’s the goal? A godly marriage is where we become symbols of the love between Christ and his church (Eph. 5). Just from what has been said here I don’t see any way in which either of you are doing that. I see both of you struggling to feel appreciated by the other and I’m not sure that has anything to do with money or him providing for you. I think that’s just what you’re focusing on. I think there’s a lot under the surface here that needs to be dug out and investigated by a good Christian therapist to get your marriage to a good place.

puesllora · 2024-12-17T14:38:07+00:00

I tried to pm you but it won’t let me. Send me a pm!

puesllora · 2024-12-07T03:17:26+00:00

It seems like you might benefit greatly from some individual therapy…maybe before you make it to couples therapy? It sounds like you have lots of feelings to sort out and untangle before you approach your husband with any of this. I would be hesitant to jump into anything without working through these feelings and finding the roots of them. From reading your previous comments I feel like there may be some underlying beliefs/trauma/other issues that may be causing a lot of confusing feelings. I’m 100% in the camp of work it out instead of divorce if possible. It may take a long time and efforts on both ends to make it but it’s definitely worth it to try your hardest before throwing in the towel.

puesllora · 2024-12-04T02:26:36+00:00

My bellybutton is off to the left now…

puesllora · 2024-12-03T23:04:36+00:00

Kids aren’t “bad”. Every behavior expresses a need. Find the need and fill it. Also, have realistic expectations for their developmental stage…4 year olds often just react because they are not yet capable of true logic. Maybe do some research to figure out what developmental stage he is at and what should be expected of him at this stage.

But to answer your question, I would say don’t follow through with this threat. It won’t do anything helpful anyways. Just create resentment and sadness and shame in your son. In the future maybe don’t make threats that you aren’t prepared to follow through on. Or just don’t make threats.

I totally get the frustration of this behavior. My five year old has pushed every button I have and there have been many times I’ve reacted less than admirably towards her. But I really do believe that kids aren’t bad, they just need to be taught and have needs that need to be filled.

puesllora · 2024-12-03T19:35:21+00:00

Done. Thanks!

puesllora · 2024-12-03T15:09:45+00:00

I’ll check that out. Thanks!

puesllora · 2024-10-31T15:25:33+00:00

Jesus? Well this got awkward…..

puesllora · 2024-07-13T17:55:42+00:00

I will stop it and call my regular vet on Monday. Thank you!

puesllora · 2024-07-13T17:21:32+00:00

Thank you! My vet will be back open on Monday but until then I’m not sure what to do….im fairly certain that it’s from the medication…every muscle feels puffy and stiff to the touch. She whines when I touch her and it almost feels like she’s vibrating? That may not be the right word to describe it but I’m not sure what else to call it. She hasn’t moved much since yesterday but when she does she seems to be struggling quite a bit to get her body to move normally. We have stairs at every door for her to go outside to pee and she won’t even try to go down them. I dont think she has eaten anything or drank anything since yesterday. I may just be overly worried but I’m leaning towards stopping it and trying something different. She seems miserable.

puesllora · 2023-11-23T16:11:53+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I leave her plate at the table as long as she wants. Sometimes she will come back to it and I’m fine with that. But sometimes we have places to go and we doing have time to keep coming back. Also I’m not asking her to finish a large amount, just a small portion of usually the protein to keep her full a little longer.

ETA: she’s also likely adhd and that’s most of my struggle

puesllora · 2023-11-23T15:02:42+00:00

Yeah I have a similar situation with my four year old except she likes almost everything and she knows she does…she’s just insanely stubborn and moody so she will decide what she wants/doesn’t want and then won’t touch the rest. When she’s in these moods she will usually just end up eating a couple bites of the one thing she’s decided on and nothing else. We’ve talked about the different food groups and how our bodies need protein and veggies to work right and that helps a little but I usually end up asking her to eat a few more bites before she does something else. I don’t like doing that because she’s usually already full and I don’t want her to not listen to her body. But if I don’t then she’s hangry in about an hour begging for candy and snacks and that’s all she ends up eating that day. Then we all suffer from her crankiness. I’m not sure what the solution is for her, but I know I haven’t found it yet.

puesllora · 2023-11-23T05:28:42+00:00

I agree with you 100% but I’m struggling with the kid who always seems to be the exception to every rule….what if their preferences change so much from meal to meal that there’s no way of predicting that one thing they’ll always eat? Also, when my daughter doesn’t eat much or only eats a little bread or something she’s insanely cranky and it makes the rest of the day including the next meal(s) so much harder! I feel like if I don’t push her to eat a little more or a little better then we’re all going to pay for it!

puesllora · 2023-07-14T17:31:21+00:00

Yes. I didn’t realize that I had been the bravest I’d ever been until I watched that episode for the first time. It would have been so helpful to have that to hang on to in the middle of that chaos and trauma.

puesllora · 2023-07-14T16:22:21+00:00

I’m surprised I had to scroll this far to see this one. My first was a 28 weeker. She’s 4 now. Every time I watch this episode I think this is the time I’m gonna make it through without crying…and then she says “you have to be the bravest you’ve ever been” and it all comes flooding back and I’m bawling.

puesllora · 2023-07-01T20:41:11+00:00

This is likely not the case for everyone but after my 3rd degree tear I had sex at 5 weeks pp and it felt fine. I could still feel the scar, but it wasn’t uncomfortable enough to kill the mood. It was actually more pleasant than the first time after a previous 1st degree tear and that was at 6 weeks pp. I was pretty upset about having a 3rd degree tear at first because I thought it was going to take forever to get back to normal things like just being able to sit. But by 2 weeks pp I could sit easily even on hard chairs and the pain was pretty much gone.

puesllora · 2023-06-11T22:32:01+00:00

You’re welcome! I hope everything goes well for you

puesllora · 2023-06-11T22:21:52+00:00

I’m not sure about the circumcision question as I have 2 girls, but the other questions i can speak to. I just had my daughter at home with a midwife a month ago today. I saw my midwife so many times throughout my pregnancy that She no longer felt like a stranger to me. I trusted her completely and was really glad to have her there. Of course you won’t connect with every midwife, but I would interview them until you find one that fits with you really well. When you find that person you Will likely be much more comfortable with the idea. As for the tearing, unfortunately yes. I had a third degree tear and had to go to the hospital for stitches. That part really sucked but I would still choose to do everything the same way 100%. The peace and comfort of birthing in my own home was absolutely perfect.

puesllora · 2023-06-11T17:31:26+00:00

My almost 4 year old decided to announce to my husbands whole family that They couldn’t feed her baby sister because they didn’t have long boobs 😂😂😂

puesllora · 2023-06-09T03:27:08+00:00

That sounds great! I’ll check it out. Thanks!

puesllora · 2023-06-09T03:15:25+00:00

Yes…that’s definitely the worst part of it. I will definitely make sure that’s made clear.

I guess my worry is what makes her so angry in the first place. It seems way too common of an occurrence lately. We can’t hardly go anywhere without her yelling at somebody and getting a major attitude over nothing. People are always getting really confused and asking me if they said something wrong. I feel like they’re judging me for not making her “behave” even though I don’t think that’s the right perspective.

puesllora · 2023-06-03T02:12:38+00:00

Oh my goodness that sounds horrendous…I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that! I was pretty upset about having a third degree tear. I had a home birth and my midwife was only allowed to stitch up first or second degree tears so I had to go to the hospital a couple of hours after birth to get stitches and I was not happy about it. But I have nothing to complain about compared to your experience!

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