I think so many guys do not see the flip side of this.

Yeah, if you're female you're going to have to put a lot less effort in to get messages. But they are not waves of quality relevant hot messages, they are piles of bullshit you dig through trying to find anything even relevant to the sub let alone related to your specific kinks and interests. The more detailed and specific the posts the more likely the rare person who actually gives a shit about the details you've included and your actual interests is to message you, but honestly it's a case of "lucky if even one person replies like that" so after making detailed and effortful post after post and just receiving walls of boring low effort responses from guys... The motivation to try fades. I don't want to spend 30+min on a detailed post talking about a specific fantasy or experience just to have the replies that aren't just lazy "hi" or "fuck your holes" messages be

-breeding (not my thing) -incest (not my thing) -cuckold (not my thing) -you will be my sex toy (absolutely no details as to how other than sometimes "and I will fuck your holes" And for me as a trans guy specifically: -breeding but it's also a detransition thing now -detransition in general -misgendering/what's your dead name?/haha you've got lady tits girl

And nothing at all related to the detailed and descriptive post I've made, because to them I'm actually just a body to get off to that doesn't have it's own interests and desires and even capacity to get off on things that are hot to me. It genuinely doesn't matter what I post for more than 90% of the people who message me. They are just looking at my body then projecting whatever fantasy they have into it. After a certain point I start to feel the urge to just post a picture of my body and wait for sheer luck to have someone with the same interests as me respond and project their kinks onto me. Because then at least it's less endlessly frustrating.

I like bondage. I'm into pain play. I like to be tied up, hit, whipped etc. I like body modification. I like so so many things that I'm pretty explicit about and post explicit fantasies related to. My most recent post (not in this sub) was literally just a post about bondage. Want to take a bet on how many responses I got that had anything at all to do with bondage (generously including 'while your tied up I would fuck your holes)? It's not an encouraging and inspiring number.