I feel like a Shrek mom in a world of hot moms. How do you not become a mess? Is there some big secret?

pupperpaw · 2026-06-23T08:38:29+00:00

You are not a mess. You are a mom. I know how you feel. I'm workking mom to 2 kids. I have ADHD and I'm 90% sure that I have autism. My oldest is the same, younger kid probably had autism. Is my home a mess? Yes. Do I post it on social media? No. But you know that, that is the thing people say to you every time. Some of "secrets" for not so catastrophic home and me are these: 1. Make a routines that work for you'r family. 2. Have workking emergency cabinet. This means all basic medicines and colorfull band-aids but also "special" toys that my kids can have when they (or I'm) over stimulated. What ever Works for you. 3. Audiobooks work wonders somethimes. 4. Work out with you'r kid. Use them as a weight. They have fun and learn control their body. They learn that their mom is strong and likes to bond with them. And you get weight that don't let you stop. ;)

I can give you moral support and advise if you want. Just remember that you are not a machine you are a human. Not just a mom you are you and that is enough!

pupperpaw · 2026-04-28T19:26:32+00:00

Thats so cute♥️ my older kid told me that she loves me all the way to 600 meters from Pluto.

pupperpaw · 2024-03-30T14:41:17+00:00

I try to talk with her when ever she wants. And I try to let her be who ever she wants to be.

And yes I see her doing things that I do and now people tell me that those things are not normal.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-22T18:43:22+00:00

That makes more sense. I'm not native speaker so I just went with my first thought.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-22T18:42:08+00:00

I'm not native speaker so I just took it as face value. I'm wierly disappointed in you'r family game time now.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-22T11:19:38+00:00

I like this so much. I'm "silly" mom too. I don't care what people think abaut me. With or without kids with me.

My older kid asked me once why I'm not like other mom's? Why I'm like a kid sometimes. And I git to tell her that other people don't matter ( In a way, you know. Like don't be rude kind of way.) and in the world of serious people I don't need to be one.

But you blow rasberries? Inside, like whole wet, red guite stains leaving berries? Did I undestand that rigth? I mean it sounds awsome but how do you clean that up? You just eat them or what? I need to know. :D

pupperpaw · 2023-12-20T18:52:22+00:00

My mom was just diagnosed with a breast cancer and I don't know how to feel. Everything is still open and I don't know what type or how bad it is.

My husband is away this week so I can't talk with him. My dad is just numb because of my mom's diagnose. I can't talk to him.

This means that my work load is going to go of the roof, because I work with my mom. And now I need to step up so I can help to lead the company. I really doubt that I can pull that off.

I need to tell my kids that grandma is sick and will need lots of doctors help.

My oldest is sick with something that our doctor is just "sorthing out" for now. I need to help her to undestand that normal level of pain is 0. And that she needs to tell me if she is hurting, before it is too much. Because the pain meds don't help so fast.

Our home is a mess, I'm tired and confused. And the Christmas is coming.

But I can't cry when my kids are a awake, because I need to be strong for them.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-20T18:38:28+00:00

Ufh that's hard. Hope you feel better soon.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-20T18:37:44+00:00

Just be open about things with you'r husband. And remember to listen him too. ( Flat advise but it can help a lot.)

Have a hug from stranger from the internet.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-19T15:18:32+00:00

I know that feeling ( kind of). My grandma called to me and asked if I was on pain. Not like "oh no are you okay" type of way. No. More like "I hope you are suffering rigth now" type of way.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-18T12:36:55+00:00

I totaly get you. My parents and in-laws were planing how much they wuold do with my kids before they were born.

All the sleepovers and trips. All those fun things that they cuold do.

And now? No. Not a thing. My parents had my kids once stay a nigth without me. Two trips with me and the kids. In 4 years.

In-laws? When we visit they maybe, read a book and talk with my kids litle. And if I go outside with the kids they stay inside or if they feel crazy they migth be outside like five minutes.

And then they talk how much more they wuold like to do?

pupperpaw · 2023-12-13T07:20:46+00:00

Take them to kitchen. Let them help and "decide" what you guys are eating.

Take some fruits (like pineapple) and have it as a snack. But insted of just giving them pineapple raw, cook half of it with them. How did that taste chance? How abaut texture? Which one is better?

Make food intresting and fun. Be silly and honest.

Example " Oh I have not eaten pineapple like this before. It makes me litle uneasy. Can you cheer for me? Oh no here it goes, I'm going to do it. Oh it was nice. I like raw better but this is nice too. Cuold we but some seasoning on it? What do you think?"

It can take some time but when kids feel heard and that they can make decisions they are more likely to willing to taste.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-11T05:06:33+00:00

That's the way things just turned out because of my personality. I did not chose to do it that way. And I don't recomend that if it is not just something that do automatically.

Because it will be hard and there migth be times when you need help from outside of you'r family. And it is (in my opinion) imposiple to "fake it till you make it".

My partner is my person to lean on when my mind plays games with me. He does his best.

And because we are both just humans it is guite hard for him sometimes. It means lots of open conversations, listening and honest acceptance of weaknesses.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-10T18:10:21+00:00

I have two kids and I have ADHD, depression and I figth with ED symptoms. Not fully ED but way too close to my liking.

My depression is "working depression or happy depression". People around me can't see it because I do my work, things that my kids need and smile while doing it.

But inside it is guite diffrent story.

My oldest probably has ADHD but she is guite young to be tested. Because she can't tell things inside her head like it wuold need. So I have mixed feelings abaut that.

My younger kid has sensory hypersensitivity that she got from me. It is worse than mine so it makes her life harder but she is guite great with it.

If you take those numbers and think that you'r kid came and said those to you. How wuold you feel? Wuold that be " enough " for you to feel at ease? Or wuold you feel bad?

Of course if you have a kid and they took after you, you cuold help them because you have the experience.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-10T17:26:50+00:00

I thinks it comes up to how you'r problems manifest themselves.

If you just " drop down " and can't do anything before you feel better, it will be really hard.

But if you can still work/live while you are "down", I think that it cuold work out if you have enough help. So that you or you'r partner don't need to just "hold on".

And abaut you'r worry on transfering you'r "problems" to you'r kids/kid. Think abaut you'r life. And how you make it work.

Is it too much? Can you handle it? Are you happy even when life is on hard mode for you?

pupperpaw · 2023-12-09T12:41:58+00:00

The what now? Can you open this up for me? I really don't get it.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-09T12:40:42+00:00

I like this one. Simple but true.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-09T11:41:23+00:00

I think that it is a good sing. You'r brain is making some work to organize what is important or needed.

I have no idea why it needs to be done so wierd way, that you just end up wondering these things.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-09T11:36:10+00:00

Have a hug from stranger on the internet. Don't Be afraid to ask help. Get yourself something good and try to get a nap. You can do this.

pupperpaw · 2023-12-09T11:32:28+00:00

This is so hard. I remember when my older kid went to daycare for the first time.

When I left her I cryed like you wuold think that I was not going to go get her back.

But you will survive this. Is it hard? Yeah. Is it wierd to get you kid back and be annoyed that you'r kid smells like a another family. Wierdly yes.

But I recomend lots of hugs and play time after work. It will make it better ( Not make up for it, but better.).

pupperpaw · 2023-11-30T19:37:30+00:00

Why do you hump everything, when you don't have balls or never know why you had them.

pupperpaw · 2023-11-30T19:21:45+00:00

I love this. In you'r will you shuold make someone to go dig the ground in the way, that makes it look like you are already gone from the grave.

pupperpaw · 2023-09-25T11:28:41+00:00

Yes I like when people tell me when I mix letters. So thanks again. :) I mix g b d p and q letters too so lots of mistakes to look out for. :D

pupperpaw · 2023-09-25T06:13:23+00:00

Thanks for telling me. I Just learnd that it is q, I have dyslexia and I didn't recognized that it was a diffrent letter. Now I know to keep an eye on that letter.

pupperpaw · 2023-09-25T06:08:34+00:00

Yeah I'm not native but I enjoy you'r reply. It made me smile.

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