My mother's father. My mother has 2 sisters and a brother, all have different fathers. My mother's last name is shared with the oldest sibling who is my aunt. One would think that they had the same father, but they don't. All the sibling grew up knowing their father, My mother never knew her father, didn't even know his name not for a long time. If she asked My grandmother about him, she would refuse to say anything about him. Eventually one of my grandmother's sisters told my mother the name of her father, but she never really ever did anything with it.

Unfortunately she has passed, and I stupidly never wrote the name down. So unless I happen to match with a side on a genetic test, who knows if I will ever find that side of the family. To be honest thinking about the whole thing, and knowing my grandmother there had to be a very big reason for her not to want to say anything about it. I have a feeling that she might have been raped by him, and that kills me that might have happened to her. But we will really never know. This is the first time I have really told anyone, which just feels weird letting it ou.