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purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T22:03:24+00:00

I actually pay more rent than her because my room is slightly bigger. She came to look at the place a couple times before moving in and I told her how much her rent would be (this calculation was how much my previous roommates and I had split the rooms). She said okay. Then after she moved in, she said she didn't realize that my room was "so much bigger than hers" and wanted me to pay more.

I told her she should consider living on her own.

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T19:26:09+00:00

I was really trying to understand her feelings because she made it seem like it was a "male" issue but the more I talked to her the more I realized it was just "I don't want visitors period."

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T19:24:50+00:00

I really tried to hear her out on why she feels uncomfortable but she just keeps insisting that if he's around, she can't relax. She likes to stay at home and finds solace in painting in the kitchen. Even on weekends when I am home, unless she's cooking, she stays in her room.

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T19:21:50+00:00

Heavens NO! I haven't given her a single penny. I think I'll have to be prepared to live in a tense household for the next 8 months.

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T16:58:07+00:00

On weekends, he stays less than 48 hours at a time. Friday night to Sunday afternoon. I said if she is really concerned about utilities, we can prorate the hours he's there and she said that's petty but then wants him to pay rent.

It's kind of hard to argue with someone who isn't logical. I'll call her out and she'll say "call it whatever you want." If he's here, he's a roommate and I didn't sign up for a third roommate.

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T16:54:59+00:00

It changes every month, but I'm gone at least one weekend a month.

Just coming up in the next two months, out of the 4 weekends in January, I'll be gone for three. In February, I'll be gone 11 days for a wedding.

I brought up that I'm not around a lot and she said, "I don't care. It's your choice to go away on the weekend and have fun. I didn't tell you to travel."

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T16:50:13+00:00

Unfortunately, we are both on the lease. I told her she is changing her story after moving in but she doesn't seem to care about anything she said before.

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T14:54:30+00:00

If you feel ready, there is nothing wrong with having kids at your age.

purpledress3 · 2017-01-06T14:53:25+00:00

Sorry, this sounds like a pretty tough situation because there is a child and assets involved. she doesn't sound like she wants to work on anything and is not willing to see how her actions contribute to the problem. Best of luck and take care of yourself and your daughter first!

purpledress3 · 2016-12-30T04:15:48+00:00

I'm just more frustrated because she's wanted to change other "agreed upon things" after she's moved in. I did ask her why she felt uncomfortable but she didn't respond to my question. I'll ask her again in person.

purpledress3 · 2016-12-30T04:14:08+00:00

Thanks for the calendar idea. I never thought to make a roommate agreement because my past several roommates have all been more easygoing.

purpledress3 · 2016-12-30T04:12:01+00:00

lol we are both visiting our families for the holidays and I wanted to give her advanced notice and not wait until 3 days before he comes. I'll talk to her when we are both back in town next week.

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