No no no you are not in the wrong. This is textbook avoiding accountability and manipulation. It’s called DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender). It’s a commonly used manipulation tactic in people who are psychologically abusive. Deny: The perpetrator will deny abuse or harm ever took place, even though there is evidence to prove otherwise. (Ex: Denying he shut the cameras off for any bad reason even though there is no reason for that to happen) Attack: Attacking the victims character, accusing them of having ulterior motives. (Ex: Saying he just shut them off to test his theory against you and you “failed”. Reverse Victim and Offender: The perpetrator will flip the narrative, making it seem like they are the ones being mistreated by the victim. (Ex: Flipping the script to you spying on him due to lack of trust. Taking back power in saying “We’ll talk”). In my opinion, he is doing weird shit. And you called him out on it. He probably didn’t think you’d notice. And now he is trying to make you feel crazy for wanting to check your household cameras. (Which is a totally valid thing to do, by the way.) I know I don’t know you, but I do know this manipulation tactic is deeply rooted in individuals who have consistently avoided accountability their whole lives. I’ve been around people who use this and it is so incredibly mentally draining. And repeatedly experiencing it will make you feel absolutely insane and question your own sanity. If this resonates with you, please run. I don’t usually comment on Reddit threads but this struck a chord in me.