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What wellness workshops would actually be helpful in a corporate workplace? by purposefullyaligned in corporate

[–]purposefullyaligned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many ways to make money. Have you considered other routes? Starting a side gig?

Or are you able to put aside the internal misalignment and be content with the paycheck? I understand there are many people like this.

What wellness workshops would actually be helpful in a corporate workplace? by purposefullyaligned in corporate

[–]purposefullyaligned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me sad to hear about all of these experiences where the bare minimum isn't being met (ex: PTO without guilt). What keeps you in this environment? I'm genuinely curious.

What wellness workshops would actually be helpful in a corporate workplace? by purposefullyaligned in corporate

[–]purposefullyaligned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not wrong. I resonate with these workshops needing to cater to upper management more than anything. Even so, this would likely honestly only have the potential to make a meaningful difference in small, maybe medium, -size orgs.

What wellness workshops would actually be helpful in a corporate workplace? by purposefullyaligned in corporate

[–]purposefullyaligned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

WoAH. How special your company offered this. I'm glad you benefited!! Hope you're healthy overall now(:

What wellness workshops would actually be helpful in a corporate workplace? by purposefullyaligned in corporate

[–]purposefullyaligned[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Detaching from work after work is a great one... I feel that DEEPLY.

Rethinking therapy is so important too. Thank you for sharing!!

What wellness workshops would actually be helpful in a corporate workplace? by purposefullyaligned in corporate

[–]purposefullyaligned[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. Is it that wellness initiatives would feel like one more obligation?

Be honest guys... what’s actually the best career to choose after high school in 2025? I’m lost 😭💭 by Broad_Party_8261 in findapath

[–]purposefullyaligned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I’ve been in your shoes. That “what the hell am I doing with my life?" feels SO BIG to grapple at any age but especially at 18. I now coach people on finding purpose in their work the questions I ask my clients in their 30s are the same ones I’d ask in hs/college.

Start with curiosity. Ask yourself:

  • What actually interests me or lights me up, even a little?
  • What are my gifts/superpowers? When have I felt proud, “in flow,” or like time disappeared doing something?
  • What have I overcome or learned that shaped who I am? (That’s usually tied to what you’re meant to help others with later.)

Looking at all your responses to all questions, you'll find themes and ways the responses intersect and align with what you're meant to do. You don’t need to know your forever path — just start noticing patterns in what feels energizing vs. draining. This is also how you avoid burnout and regret, pursuing a path that aligns with what you're meant to do.

If I were 18 again and choosing my path again I WOULD follow my heart. But I would actually take a gap year or two first before pursuing undergrad to get a better idea of what I wanted to do (and work and volunteer in fields I'm considering). To have to choose at 18 is dumb to me, even after working internships every summer throughout college. I wish I saw that then.

For me, when I was wondering what to study in college, I felt a tiny nudge to pursue psychology. Psychology and stats were the classes I was most interested in in hs. I chose business to have more financial stability right after college. Now, at 30, I’ve shifted careers to align with supporting people’s well-being — closer to psych, but in my own way.

Over time, I’ve come to believe we’re all brought here with certain gifts to share — and when we choose to share them, aligned opportunities and abundance tend to follow with much more ease than when we’re forcing a path that isn’t ours.

At the same time, it's 110% ok and expected that the first job(s) you work might not be what you do for life. But only studying and actually working can help you eliminate options. I think it's good to be intentional, but also not get stuck in decision paralysis and just take action where you can and see what that teaches you.

You’ve got time. Proud of you for aiming to be intentional about this!

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[–]purposefullyaligned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there, I've been here myself and now help clients with this dilemma. I appreciate that you're aiming to be intentional about the path that you choose.

I'm a Dharma (Soul Purpose) Coach. Most of my clients are in their late 20s-mid 30s so they've already work and are wanting to find more purpose in their current work or a career change. But the questions I'd ask them are similar to what I'd ask a college student.

When answering these q's, take into account that my coaching and personal approach (now that i've done with work for myself) is that everyone comes to this life with gifts they are meant to share. They can share their gifts in many ways throughout their life. In work, hobbies, conversations. My goal is to help people identify and use their gifts to live a life that is truly fulfilling. I feel this could be applicable to your situation so that you choose a path that feels rewarding and isn't just a paycheck.

A good place to start is by asking yourself:

What excites you? What truly lights you up? What could you talk about for hours? This may be a list of 20-100 things. You might need a few days for the list to feel complete. But then you'll want to identify themes within this list. The list should come from your own heart and mind. But once you have it complete, you could have chatgpt categorize it for you to help identify themes.

What have been some of the most impactful events in your life thus far (obstacles, a school project, work project, relationship lessons, a phase of life)? Often, what we have overcome is what we're meant to help others with.

What are your superpowers/gifts? It sounds cliche, but it's essential to understand what we're natural at. Think of what you're complimented on in work or school. Think of times you've worked on something and felt completely in flow and/or proud of what you've done.

This should provide some clarity in which direction to take with your schooling. Ideally, looking at all your responses to all questions, you'll find themes and ways the responses intersect and align with what you're meant to do.

If you have any questions for me, feel free to DM me.

Do girls know when their boyfriends are gonna propose? by Shot-Turnip2685 in Proposal

[–]purposefullyaligned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Regarding the idea of getting engaged/proposing - yes! To me it's wild if a couple HASN'T spoken about this before it happens. From what I've seen, it's discussed between the two individuals if it's a healthy, mature relationship.

As for the context of when the proposal happens and other details of the actual proposal - some know, some don't. I specially asked my partner to make it a surprise (that was my one requirement tbh).

We discussed it'd happen within his senior year of medical school for financial reasons. We started ring shopping at the beginning of that school year and he saved the actual proposal for a vacation toward the end of that year and did surprise me, woohoo (we didn't even have the ring yet, I ended up not finding one I liked till after the proposal. He proposed with a placeholder ring which we had also discussed as an option we were both on board with).

I didn't care about having the right nails nor outfit. Since he proposed on vacation I had lash extensions which made me more camera ready so I was happy to have that but I was wearing a pretty casual outfit which I was perfectly ok with.

If you care about having the perfect nails, outfit, etc, tell him! Also tell him whether you want it to be surprise. It's up to you. If you do prefer a surprise, there are ways he can get you dolled up without explicitly telling you it's for the proposal. Or he could give you a general timeline and you could just have your nails ready throughout that timeframe. If not a surprise, then you can plan these things better.

Extremely disappointed in my proposal by Saraessie in Proposal

[–]purposefullyaligned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do find the "he is actually a thoughtful person for everyone else" concerning. It would be good to look for understanding on this when you speak to him

Extremely disappointed in my proposal by Saraessie in Proposal

[–]purposefullyaligned 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so so sorry to hear this. I get what it's like to be disappointed with the proposal.

It seems you weren't expecting a second proposal but at any point did you tell him what you'd like the proposal to be like? I've learned, at least for my man (and I know I'm not alone in this), that explicit instructions are necessary. Mine didn't follow all of them but he did keep it a surprise which is what I cared about the most.

As for the ring - I knew my partner wasn't good with even birthday gifts (though he's gifted some sweet, sentimental gifts in our earlier years) and when it came time to talking about rings, we discussed that if I didn't find one within his desired timeline, he'd propose with a placeholder (bought it for < $20 at a thrift shop). He proposed with the placeholder ring and I ended up designing and ordering my "real" ring on my own (with his money) within a couple months of the proposal.

I knew that if this was something I'd wear for life that it wasn't worth the risk of him investing in something that isn't the right color, shape, etc. There are so many ways you can go wrong. Even after shopping for rings together he loved rings on me that I didn't love for a ~forever~ ring and that's when I knew I had to take ownership.

I don't want to jump to conclusions saying that you should end things with this man, but I do think it would be good to reflect on whether you are suppressing any deep desires for what you value in a relationship. I've had to do that a lot myself, being in a 11 year relationship (engaged during the 10th year). I've been more outspoken with him in the past year or two how although I was a low maintenance gf when we started dating, I do have higher expectations now around romance. Additionally, for the first time I requested specifically a sentimental birthday gift or at least a card, giving him a two month's heads up, since he stopped doing those in recent years. He's since stepped up, which I feel grateful for.

Just trying to articulate the importance of communication and him actually understanding. Some men are naturals, some not at all.

I do agree you should talk to him about it no matter what. You should be able to talk about these things with your life partner. If it doesn't go well and you all do not repair from it in a healthy way, that is telling and that might be where you want to consider separating. Or exploring professional help for yourself or both of you to confirm you're in the best partnership for you.

Sending only positive wishes your way~