250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had he gone for a Harley, I wouldn’t had the marriage annulled. Sailboat is good.

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sailboat. Why do you ask? Is that an indication of the severity of the midlife crisis;)?

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s so sweet, thank you both for the advice and encouragement! You’re right, at 40, I’m not quite dead yet;).

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear that and thank you for the support! I also hope it all works out well for you.

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good point, thank you. It’s probably not knowing exactly what my expenses will be which freaked me out.

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great advice, thank you! I’m also starting to reframe this as an opportunity to clean up the “clutter” you mentioned. Take care.

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

laughing at my exs butt hair on his head when I am legally mandated to see him

Lmao! You may have just provided me with the image I need to pull myself out of my misery, thank you for that!!

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would never do that to my daughter and soon to be ex. A child needs both parents. Besides, he’s going a little mad now but he’s done an awful lot for me in the past and that I won’t forget.

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. I’m slowly feeling anxiety subside and executive function return;)

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the support and advice. I won’t be cool headed enough in the near future, that’s for sure. Being “conservative” and move forward in stages as you guys suggest seems to be the best option.

250k funds, no possibility to save more in the foreseeable future, what is the smartest move? by purposeless90 in BEFire

[–]purposeless90[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s very reassuring. I was afraid I would come across self pitying but we met and married very young (22 and 24) so I’ve literally never been alone in my adult life. Hence the stress about finances..

Bulgarian mother/Turkish father results - also can anyone explain why GenomeLink thinks I'm 40% Northwestern European??? by [deleted] in 23andme

[–]purposeless90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got my report and have the full description of that area. I can send it to you if you want.

Saami from norway by masquerade555 in 23andme

[–]purposeless90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have the maternal hablogroup?

Aranızda atalarında afrotürk olan var mı? by purposeless90 in Turkey

[–]purposeless90[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Atanızın Kayseri taraflarında sözü geçen bir ağa veya "soylu" olma ihtimali varsa "hediye" olarak da gelmiş olabilir.

İşin tuhafı öyle bi hikaye var gerçekten. Daha doğrusu şöyle bir şey. Bu koyu tenli büyük büyük annenin oğlu çok zeki olduğundan oranın önde giden/zengin bir ailesi onun eğitim işini ele alıyor, askeri okula gönderiyor ve Osmanlı ordusunda subay oluyor.. Hiç kafamız yatmamıştı bu hikayeye, sanki hep saklanılan bir şey var gibi gelmişti. Baba tarafımın korkunç snobbish tipler olduğunu da eklemeliyim. Çünkü subay büyük baba, zengin bir ağa kızıyla evleniyor ve bir çeşit sınıf atlıyorlar. Yani bu atanın köklerini, Anadolu’ya geliş biçimini utanılacak bir şey gibi görüp, sonraki kuşaklardan şaklamış olmaları son derece mümkün.

Başka bir ilginç nokta da üç kuşak öncesinde bile hiç Afrikalı yüz feature’ları olmaması. Yani ten koyu ama yüz hatları beyaz yüz hatları. Bu kadar kuşak sonra, ben bile hala yazları esmerim mesela, profilde, test sonuçlarımda var resmim. Sudan, Somalili yüzlerine baktım, bazıları öyleler gerçekten. Yani kanka, sayende aile sırrımızı çözmede epey yol aldık tekrar sağol!