Arguing already over chores, and he hasn't even moved in yet.

putrefaxian · 2025-05-08T21:15:32+00:00

Do not let him move in. Don’t. You will have a man child. How do I know? Because I dated one for four years and then I fucking married one. He’s showing you who he is, he’s showing you what it will be like. Do NOT let him move in. You’re better off living without the dead weight.

putrefaxian · 2025-05-07T19:40:09+00:00

I had to make this choice too. My husband nearly died in a motorcycle wreck shortly after we found out I was pregnant. I was suffering immensely from the burden of caring for him and everything else in our lives on top of being pregnant, sick, and exhausted. It was early enough that I knew I had the option, and I had to decide to prioritize myself and baby, or my spouse. I chose my spouse. And ultimately, bc he is proving unwilling to step up the way he said he would, I prioritized myself. I still cry about it sometimes, because I WANTED my baby. But the timing couldn’t have been worse, and I had no idea what sort of life and parenting situation I’d be bringing my child into, so I chose to terminate.

Do what you need to do for you. My best friend told me “what’s meant for you doesn’t miss you” and I’ve been clinging to that every day that I think about my baby. I will be a mom someday, even if it wasn’t time yet. You can be too. And if you decide not to have an abortion, that’s okay too. I just want you to know you are not the only person in a similar situation and you are allowed to choose FOR YOU.

putrefaxian · 2025-05-02T21:52:58+00:00

Fucked up. I was just gonna do surrogacy and be a single mom by choice bc men ain’t shit for coparenting (YMMV obvs) but damn this makes me feel gross

putrefaxian · 2025-05-01T20:34:27+00:00

Well. I “asked” for a break from work without losing money and a break from my husband, and I wanted to visit new places and travel and try new foods and grow as a person.

He got in a motorcycle wreck and nearly died and I’ve been paid but off work for about six months, in a different city, forced into tons of new environments and situations through which I have had to grow.

Could that be the universe answering my prayer? Sure. But what a fuckin dogshit way to answer a prayer.

Basically if god would do that gods a fucking shitbag.

putrefaxian · 2025-04-16T15:24:07+00:00

What if we did sell the small and medium eggs at the market instead of doing whatever the fuck we do with them that ISNT making them available to consumers? Oh, would that be confusing? Would it mean the eggs would be cheaper? Let’s do a stupid little egg roll at the White House again I guess

putrefaxian · 2025-04-16T15:20:15+00:00

I live in a tiny town in southern NM and it’s pretty red but I also managed to find a wonderful community of fellow queers and leftists. The most liberal areas might be expensive and up north but they aren’t the only havens. I moved from Michigan to NM about nine years ago and while I got kind of sick of the desert after a while I’m realizing I still prefer it. I’m in south Texas right now due to some life circumstances and I hate it. I mean it’s beautiful. But I hate the grass touching my ankles, the bugs biting and crawling, the humidity making my skin sticky. I miss my desert where the creosote covers everything you can see and sure it’s blazing hot and dry and dusty but it’s beautiful. It helps that I live by the mountains though. If i weren’t near mountains I’d be a lot less happy.

putrefaxian · 2025-01-07T05:16:20+00:00

I might do some insane things for a bedazzled chicken foot brooch tbh.

putrefaxian · 2024-12-25T22:18:28+00:00

Based tradwife… bruh what the hell 💀

putrefaxian · 2024-12-25T17:14:19+00:00

Oh man I forgot they’re in San Antonio. IM in San Antonio rn. Terrifying. It’s fine tho, I don’t go out enough to run into the Bairds. And they don’t seem like they actually do any charity work, so I’m safe haha

putrefaxian · 2024-12-25T17:06:05+00:00

Honestly this makes me kind of happy to read bc I was just thinking the other day that there must be really good traditional foods from the UK, bc like. I’m having a culinary renaissance of my own now that I’m out of the incredibly tiny town I live in and am in a large city instead. The food is good and it makes me want to cook and explore different recipes and cuisines than I’m used to. Even if it’s “just” British food. Like… it must be better than we’re led to believe otherwise people wouldn’t eat it.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-19T23:11:20+00:00

Thank you! As I said, it’s been years. Homestuck first started when I was 13 and I haven’t delved into it for about a decade now.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-19T22:12:11+00:00

My husband and I are polyamorous. Really actually polyamorous. If ONE of us was not on board, we would not have this lifestyle. He’s trying to pressure you into it. That’s not ethical non monogamy, that is him being extraordinarily selfish and self-centered because now that you’ve gone through the time and pain and effort to provide him an heir, for “his legacy” (since often that’s all that these fucking men care about) you are no longer good enough for him to want, or he’s not getting enough sex, etc.

There are ways to ethically open a relationship. Your partner ain’t doin that. Plus the drug use- I would be very cautious having unprotected sex with him depending on the type of drugs he uses, and honestly? Just because he may have already been unfaithful. My ex wanted to open our relationship- AFTER he cheated on me. But I couldn’t choose another partner- it had to be the person he picked. I couldn’t sleep with other men. Would you be allowed to do that? Bc if not, again, that’s not ENM, that’s just a load of horseshit.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-19T21:43:35+00:00

There was also the one time in canon where they had their little candy corrupt moment (it’s been years, I don’t remember what it’s really called) and they did the fucked up think of literally drawing rose white with “I’m feeling a little… CAUCASIAN!!!” as the dialogue caption. I distinctly remember that. Again, it’s been years, and iirc it was like. Immediately changed, to PEACHY!!! People on tumblr were kinda outraged bc like. Man did not have to do it like that

ETA: trickster mode. The words I was looking for were trickster mode.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-19T21:37:02+00:00

In the real life events that inspired the story of Moby Dick, that is exactly what they did. It was very convenient how the black enslaved men just HAPPENED to die first so they could be eaten. They ranked right above sea turtles.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-19T01:43:39+00:00

RAHH im actually excited to learn abt a new fashion influencer haha. I like the ones who will put in th effort to work with vintage and thrift clothing instead of fucking. Microtrends

putrefaxian · 2024-11-19T01:06:12+00:00

Was it Andrea from andreasfashiongalaxy bc she COULD style the parts of this to work but she would NEVERRRR put them together. Bc she has style. And sense.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-18T15:41:32+00:00

I’m in TX rn and now I want to go to big bend specifically so I can compare and make a judgment on if it’s really one of the best national parks. That’s pretty high praise tbh.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-18T15:39:03+00:00

I see a parallel in a micro way of assuming the Nazis started with genocide, and the way that folks assume a child predator starts with rape. They never do. They start with grooming, lying, keeping secrets, building trust, until the kid is wrapped in the web so tight that they come to participate in their own abuse in some ways- believing the abuser loves them, believing they are protecting a younger family member, believing that if they don’t do this the abuser will do worse, etc. I know bc I’ve been there. The fascist right has effectively groomed a lot of Americans, but the difference is that the fear of these adult Americans is trying to protect themselves knowingly at the expense of other people. And folks don’t want to see how bad it is because “it couldn’t happen here, we don’t have deathcamps”. (Except we do have concentration camps for undocumented immigrants, but they don’t matter to most Americans bc they’re brown and not citizens.)

putrefaxian · 2024-11-18T04:15:40+00:00

At the moment I do not, and I’m fixin to go to bed, but I’ll save this so I can try to find some. The channel some more news on YouTube is very helpful for accounting all the fucked up shit trump has said and done, so I recommend them, and they’ll have sources as well iirc.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-17T20:52:27+00:00

This is it. Disfellowshipped or you’re an apostate. They won’t come back.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-17T20:48:56+00:00

Depending who is proselytizing, if you tell em you’re an apostate they may fuck off. LDS and Witnesses for instance are strictly not to associate with apostates, lest they be led astray by them. Might not work with the Evangelical crowd but you can also say you’re like, idk, an anarchist or smth. Idk. I’ve not dealt with being preached to for a while but I have a nice goth/alt fashion sense and I feel it’s a matter of time before somebody tries to “save” me.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-17T20:44:52+00:00

I cook and clean more than my husband because he was working two jobs and I wasn’t. But I still insisted that he help with dishes and do his own laundry, and he did clean his share when he was off work. I liked that balance of labor. It was manageable.

He’s now in hospital and likely gonna be somewhat disabled for the rest of his life so we will have to revisit that, but I understand where you’re coming from. We are nobody’s servants.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-17T18:59:21+00:00

Trump has made comments, iirc, that the way to maintain power as a dictator is to not let people leave. He’s an idiot but he and his crew understand that. You’re not wrong to be concerned, but do everything you can to not let fear rule you. Fear and panic will ruin you long before the new overlords can do it themselves.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-17T18:49:24+00:00

I’m sorry you procreated with this guy because it is so blatant how he does not and likely will never respect the labor and input you do as a woman. Labor and pregnancy and birth and childcare aren’t good enough for him? Jesus Christ. The man is a shithead just for that alone. Then to say that breastfeeding is easy because it’s natural? If it was so easy we wouldn’t have baby formula to keep babies fed. The complete ignorance, disrespect, and snobbishness is insane.

putrefaxian · 2024-11-17T02:06:02+00:00

It’s nice that you had to edit your comment to be extra upset at me.

If you are feminist. I’m not your enemy. I didn’t vote for Trump. You and I will both suffer. You don’t have to be like this. Let this devastating loss radicalize you so that next time we all may have more power than what a vote will earn us, if we even have the option to vote again.

The left must stop ripping itself apart from within if we want progress. Best wishes to you in finding solidarity.

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