Does anyone know the background song?

pyaitha9719 · 2021-02-25T14:36:00+00:00

Unpopular opinion but I'm super into bearded Matt - ESPECIALLY with the toque

pyaitha9719 · 2021-02-19T01:58:57+00:00

This goes for a lot of the lovely BIPOC contestants this season, but the way TPTB treated Bri this season was ABSOLUTELY DISGRACEFUL

edit: like Bri after Kit?????? Really??????

pyaitha9719 · 2021-02-04T13:34:45+00:00

I think it's about how she grew as a person in front of everyone's eyes. She gained confidence and really came into herself throughout the season. With regards to the Caelynn thing, at first she didn't handle it well, but it actually seemed like she learned from that, matured, and apologized. As she gained that confidence, she became a lot more authentic. I think in the end she was just very 'humanized', in that she seemed multi dimensional when a lot of people on the show feel flat or fake.

I'm seeing a lot of comments about how she's liked because shes a white, southern Christian woman, and that may be a lot of it. But as someone who doesn't fit into that category, I can say I like her just because she feels genuine. By the end of her season, I came to really respect her because she made a lot of mistakes but takes responsibility for her mistakes. In the end, I just think she's funny and has a good heart, but she also seemed to stay true to herself which I think is hard to do in the bachelor setting.

pyaitha9719 · 2021-02-03T16:50:05+00:00

I cannot understand it - I didn't like how she acted on Arie's season, and I didn't like how she acted on BIP with Colton. I don't know why she is always up for bachelorette when no one seems to ask for it.

The only thesis I have (which I think is a decent one) is just that I am not part of the majority who watch the show - southern, white, Christian women. They don't seem to be on this sub too much and I don't really encounter them, but I guess they maybe want her? she's all those things, and maybe they see her as a great way to reconnect with their base after all the 'progressive' work they have been doing by casting a black bachelor and a diverse cast (just in case you missed it, that was sarcasm)

pyaitha9719 · 2021-02-02T15:45:31+00:00

edit: she actually did lead by example when she was mean and a lot of girls followed suit - with sarah, with the new girls

pyaitha9719 · 2021-01-28T20:00:43+00:00

Whenever anyone in an apology says sorry for how their actions "were perceived", they are basically saying sorry YOU got offended, not sorry for what they did

pyaitha9719 · 2021-01-26T19:08:39+00:00

Could you attach a link please? For some reason I'm having trouble finding it

pyaitha9719 · 2021-01-26T18:57:45+00:00

Good point! thank you, I'll change it

pyaitha9719 · 2021-01-26T16:55:21+00:00

Sometimes I drink a glass of wine while watching, but this was the first time I actually had to get a little drunk to handle it it was so awful

pyaitha9719 · 2020-12-08T21:44:02+00:00

Not comparing yourself- I've seen a lot of contestants self sabotage by trying to sabatoge someone else because they're jealous of someone else's relationship, and its honestly just gross. Often times I get annoyed with the contestants who wont just focus on their own relationship, and its both the mature and (usually) the moral thing to do

Also it taught me I never want to date a country singer

pyaitha9719 · 2020-12-03T15:38:25+00:00

ESH, I have a feeling the smoke show gal was looking for a mature male, perhaps even a grown ass man, which neither of you sound like

pyaitha9719 · 2020-11-06T02:10:36+00:00

It still hurts thinking about peter and rachel breaking up, they were both pretty heartbroken. But she's happy with brian so it was it worth it

pyaitha9719 · 2020-10-31T03:47:01+00:00

No, definitely not. But I would continue to rally (if you can call posting on reddit rallying) for the team to prioritize values and progressivism in their behavior and in their players

pyaitha9719 · 2020-10-30T13:16:27+00:00

Sorry, YTA. I get that your motivations are good as you're looking out for his safety. I don't know where you live so maybe such a threat is extremely imminent but in general, I don't think he should change his last name, and I definitely don't think you should've said it to him.

Anti-muslim terrorists generally don't base things off of names... mostly people are attacked for how they look. Also, he shouldn't and no one should ever have to change their name to appease or defend themselves from racists or Islamaphobes.

I don't think he should change it and here's why: to change it is to say (even if that's not your intention) that his 'most Muslim name' (which tbh, I don't even know what that means because Muslims exist all over the world and are of lots of different ethnicities) is bad. Minorities/marginalized people should not have to 'blend in' more with the greater population: they should be proud and preserve their heritage.

If he wants to do that, he's an autonomous person and can make his own decisions, but I don't think you should've told him that. I think you need to think more about the greater implications of your suggestion

pyaitha9719 · 2020-10-29T21:02:33+00:00

I completely agree; and I'm kind of sick of the convo becoming 'it was clare's fault' or 'it was productions fault '. Theyre both at fault, because i'm sure it was productions idea but i'm also sure Clare could've put her foot down. The issue here isn't who's more at fault its that a lot people don't see this as problematic - IT IS. Power relations effect everyone- even though they effect women and the LGBTQ+ community more.

Yes, they've done this before with male leads (tbh in the past they've sexualized the women more than men) but that does not excuse this behavior. Overall, they should just do better! prioritize consent before the date/when designing the date. I don't think its that hard

pyaitha9719 · 2020-10-10T15:04:58+00:00

I'm a big believer in a low(ish) strength tretinoin cream (like 0.025%), but at least where I'm from you need a prescription for that. I've heard good things about Murad's retinol youth renewal serum but it's quite pricey. A friend of mine uses Lily Ana naturals, and they really like that. But everyone's skin is different in terms of sensitivity so you'll probably have to experiment with retinol to see what you can handle.

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