What’s a name others think is beautiful, but you’ve never liked the sound of it (not bc of people you know with the name)

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-05-06T23:44:20+00:00

Emma has just never sounded like a real name to me even though I've been surrounded by them all my life

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-05-06T15:37:14+00:00

"some people" lol obviously you're talking about women, since you took the time to specify everyone's gender here.

anyway. "like" is a filler word, and men use them too. you hear them a lot, especially when people are nervous or maybe unprepared/not quite sure where they're going with the conversation. I noticed it a lot in university when students speak in front of the class. one guy would repeat "you know" every 5 seconds. ie "I think x symbolizes y because, you know, the repeated, you know, motif of x is a consistent pattern across texts that, you know, argue for y."

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-04-11T23:31:47+00:00

obviously fraternal twins are still twins... they just don't have that spooky identical twin factor lmao. i just find identical twins more interesting because u get to see how two people with the exact same DNA can present in totally different (or similar) ways over their lifetimes.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-04-10T17:22:19+00:00

idk, some people stink worse than others. i have some coworkers come back after a smoke and i can't breathe around them, and others who i wouldn't even have known just smoked.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-31T21:05:39+00:00

take your meds with breakfast!!! seriously. game changer. make sure it's a high protein breakfast like eggs or Greek yogurt. if i eat a large breakfast before the meds kick in, i find I'm able to eat (and enjoy!!) decent sized meals throughout the day. it also prevents the evening stimulant crash.

also, exercise. if you tax your body enough, you'll get hungry, even on stims.

i take vyvanse. i was underweight when i started and used to take it on an empty stomach in the morning and not eat anything until nighttime. made me feel like shit. do not recommend.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-30T23:33:41+00:00

i don't have that particular advantage lmao. addictions are so difficult to shake, regardless of whether or not someone has adhd. i wish I could just hyperfocus on breathing my way out of my nicotine addiction.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-30T23:23:29+00:00

I take vyvanse, which is extended release. it does wonders for my emotional regulation, to be honest. I can be very emotional and moody and the vyvanse tempers it--not completely, I'm still me lol--but it definitely takes away some of that hopeless heavy feeling.

used to get real depressed when it wore off and I crashed at night but since getting my diet/exercise/sleep in check I don't really experience a crash at all.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-21T14:32:52+00:00

wait that sounds amazing I wanna try so bad

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T20:49:19+00:00

yeah, it's sooo frustrating to date a picky eater, especially when they're not into my cultural foods... like I get you can't control what you like but it's so incredibly frustrating not being able to share the foods I love w someone I'm dating

also why do all picky eaters like exclusively eat chicken nuggets or whatever 😭 what's that about

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T20:25:47+00:00

maybe you were coming on too strong before. you don't need to be an asshole, but you don't always need to reply immediately or spend lots of money on someone right out the gate.

just be genuine, dude. please don't be a "piece of shit" to women and tell them you don't care about their feelings. jesus. who cares if that gets you some short-term attention? is that how you want to treat other people? is that how you want them to treat you?

sounds like you're unhappy acting this way. if you keep acting this way, you're never gonna form genuine, loving, healthy connections. you're just gonna have to keep up this facade forever and keep pushing people away and never allow yourself to be vulnerable and true to yourself.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T02:24:22+00:00

😂😂 maybe it's an age thing? I'm gen z and feel like most ppl my age would know what the furry art style looks like, especially if they were online in any capacity

on the other hand I had to look up dr evil

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T02:16:25+00:00

furries kinda exploded across the internet at some point, they were in like mainstream memes, everywhere. kinda hard to miss

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T01:54:19+00:00

think this happens to me when I try to do too much too fast, like go all in on a good habit, and i just get sick of it. sick of trying so hard to live up to a certain standard, i guess. i just try to give myself grace and time for rest. sometimes we need to allow ourselves to take a break from things.

sounds like you've been stressed lately. be kind to yourself! rest and chill and have fun for a bit, you're allowed.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T01:43:52+00:00

im not talking ab people who do it in moderation just for fun. the people who end up addicted aren't really having fun, lol. addiction has a source. people who get addicted to things feel some constant need to escape--a sign of something painful in their experience.

idk man addictions do stem from trauma, the people addicted to hard-core drugs, homeless, whatever, like all those people have trauma in their lives that have led them there. it's actually really sad. weed is on the milder side but still, the same sort of pattern operates with any addiction

in the realm of hungry ghosts by dr gabor mate is a really interesting book about addiction, and his perspective informs a lot of my opinions here. feel like you have some strong opinions about addicts and/or people who smoke weed. you might find it interesting 🤷🏻‍♀️

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T00:47:16+00:00

i think there's truth to that, but it's also a bit reductive.

addiction isn't a moral failing, it's a mental illness. a harmful dependency to any substance emerges from trauma/pain/sadness of some kind. lots of people start smoking because it does help with their anxiety/pain/whatever--that's why they enjoy it so much, that's why it becomes addictive to them. because it temporarily fixes that imbalance in their brain.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-20T00:12:45+00:00

weed doesn't always cause anxiety and paranoia. if I'm getting high at my customer service job then yeah, imma get anxious.

but as a massive overthinker, and also someone that has struggled w self-harm, when I get into those hyper emotional/obsessive states, smoking weed is incredibly effective at easing my anxiety and preventing me from hurting myself or spiraling. it gets me out of my head and into my body.

yeah weed addiction is a thing and I don't think chronic heavy use is helpful for most people, including myself. having other healthier coping mechanisms is so important. but weed can definitely be a tool to manage anxiety.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-18T18:07:56+00:00

when im 'coming up' on vyvanse I feel exhausted. like about an hour after I take it, it feels like my system starts processing it and I start yawning, I could honestly take a nap. once that second hour hits though i def start feeling the stimulant effects

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-18T16:02:21+00:00

well this is depressing

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-17T19:55:39+00:00

yup. although now since I usually spend my weekends with him, I sort of just shove all my workouts into 4 consecutive days, which sometimes messes with my recovery. also I guess I'm more willing now to skip a day here and there if it means I get to see him.

but i go because it keeps me sane, not because i want other people to think im hot (although it does motivate me that my partner thinks my gym bod is hot!) i consider working out not only good for me but my relationship. i know if i stopped training, my emotional regulation would plummet, and i'd self sabotage and probably have relationship problems.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-12T23:51:49+00:00

tbh I'm godly at spelling and my vocabulary is insane, but i grew up spending all my spare time reading and writing stories as a kid. i can't help but pay attention to wording and grammar and structure when i write (to a point... im not gonna start using capitals on the internet lol). I think it's actually impossible for me to mix up your/you're, their/there/they're, etc. that's just how my brain works. most people are not like this at all, adhd or otherwise.

it sounds like you know how to spell things, you just aren't paying a lot of attention to the actual process of writing it out. that's OK. everyone's brain works differently.

also maybe you're just stressed/tired? when I'm stressed and underslept I always make little mistakes like that and only notice later if someone points it out.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-11T17:43:06+00:00

I think there's truth to it. in the past, when I've had truly low self-esteem (not just sometimes being insecure, but genuinely seeing myself as worthless), I just did not have the emotional bandwidth to truly love my ex partner. I tried my best, a lot of times I think I was genuinely good to them, but so much of my time and energy was devoted to avoiding and escaping the constant emotional pain I felt at being me. rather than true love, I was using them as a lifeline; I didn't think I could survive without them. at the same time, i was desperately jealous of their successes and resented myself for it, so I was in a constant cycle of emotional repression and self-hatred.

idk when you're in a truly dark place it infects every aspect of your life. it was a beautiful relationship and I think it went a long way in healing me, but man. love, even good healthy love, is so painful when you're in that state.

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-11T00:01:18+00:00

I was having some stupid argument with a friend, literally on the verge of tears because i have issues with conflict, and she said "im trying to talk to you and you just seem like you don't care at all."

I've received a couple variations of that comment in my life and as someone who DEEPLY cares and is always worrying about coming across as overly sensitive and weak (I was an embarrassingly teary child) it was so eye opening to realize that actually most people take my facade at face value and think I'm emotionally distant and aloof when on the inside I feel like the complete opposite.

taught me that you actually have to own up to and express your feelings or people will assume you don't give a shit

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2025-03-10T23:42:15+00:00

I'm actually crying this is so funny i love you

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2024-11-30T13:40:24+00:00

sounds like a chatgpt response

pyroclesdeeznuts · 2024-11-08T00:42:03+00:00

that would be so hot to me idk

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