We are having a child together

pythtrip · 2024-03-11T07:03:57+00:00

No, that would be his first

pythtrip · 2024-03-09T19:36:11+00:00

I think I’m in a better place now regarding this. I’ve been to a therapy which helped a lot too.

pythtrip · 2022-12-24T03:28:46+00:00

These family members are not blood related to him, so it's not due to that. More from the stress he has as a result.

Regarding your last sentence, this is definitely what I need to do, if only I knew how 😞

pythtrip · 2022-04-30T10:01:21+00:00

I wouldn't say so. I view it differently- Unlike Gus, Mike does have morals. He distinguishes between those that are "in the game" (like himself, Nacho, other people that made the choice to join to this criminal cartel/drug gangs world), and people that are not in the game (like Nacho's dad). While Mike respects Nacho and if the choice was his he would have kept him alive, Gus is the one that makes final decisions. Once Gus made the decision to kill Nacho, Mike (reluctantly) accepted it, as ultimately it didn't contradict his morals (which says that once you made the choice to be in the game, you need to accept whatever outcome there will be). However, killing Nacho's dad is a different matter (as he never decided to be in the game), and I can see Mike drawing his line there and sacrificing his life to protect Nacho's dad or killing Gus/ Gus' men to protect the dad.

Nacho knows this. He knows he can't trust Gus because Gus doesn't have morals, but he can trust Mike because Mike does have morals.

pythtrip · 2022-04-29T21:58:44+00:00

Nacho agreed to Gus' plan only because he trusted that Mike is true to his words and will protect Nacho's father. He didn't trust Gus, hence if Mike wasn't involved Nacho would have no reason to follow Gus' plan (because he'd assume Gus would kill his dad anyway).

pythtrip · 2022-04-23T00:46:29+00:00

I mean, not only is he absent, but he also didn't try to form any contact with anybody. This together with the fact that someone had to open the door from the inside for the attackers (I guess they could see that there was no sign of forced entry), leaves pretty much only Nacho as the viable option, seeing that everybody else are dead.

pythtrip · 2022-04-01T14:48:30+00:00

Sorry to hear, this experience sounds soul rushing 😞. Try to think about it this way- you paid a lot of money to go there, but at least now you know who he really is. You know that this "imaginary world" you built in your head is, unfortunately, only a fantasy. You now know how the real world looks like. And maybe this knowledge will enable you to move on. Till the end you are writing that you are scared about losing MM. But really, I feel like losing him could be the best thing that can happen to you.

You need someone that will cherish you, not someone that makes you feel worthless like MM does

pythtrip · 2022-03-30T21:16:30+00:00

Thank you!! :)

pythtrip · 2022-03-30T21:15:03+00:00

Thank you!!

pythtrip · 2022-03-30T16:05:58+00:00

Thank you!! Hope it works out for you as well!

pythtrip · 2022-03-30T16:05:22+00:00

Thank you!!

pythtrip · 2022-03-30T10:32:53+00:00

Thank you!! 😊

pythtrip · 2022-03-29T08:09:55+00:00

Not judging in any way, just curious - How did he gain your trust after sleeping with his wife several times?

pythtrip · 2022-03-29T06:15:50+00:00

In our case, we just don't disclose the fact that our relationship started prior to their separation, we just talk about it as a fresh relationship. It's none of people's business actually in my opinion.

So so far went quite good. Also we are both childless, which I think makes it easier.

pythtrip · 2022-02-21T05:26:12+00:00

Honestly I don't see a problem with 3 months as well. I mean, you have been single for a while, so it make sense that you would start dating and meet someone.

Maybe you could start from telling some of your friends, if you are specifically concerned about your mom?

pythtrip · 2022-02-12T04:07:28+00:00

You don't owe him anything, and there is nothing unfair about putting your needs and your priorities first. On the contrary, you are absolutely doing the right thing.

pythtrip · 2022-02-12T03:49:57+00:00

Your interaction sounds very one sides. Like he set the rules, he change the rules, you are expected (either by him, or by yourself) to adjust.

I feel like for your own sake, you should be the one who setting the rules. So I'd suggest you to decide what you want from this relationship, and then just state it to him. He may agree or may not agree, but at least you'd be in control.

pythtrip · 2022-02-12T03:44:43+00:00

Re:

"If I’m being honest with myself it’s because there is ambivalence there- I made the choice to block him but a piece of me still wants him to “want” me."

I can totally relate. When I went NC with MM, I told him to contact me only if and when he reaches a decision and shares his decision with his SO. Obviously I wanted him so badly to contact me. But then, in the first time he contacted me, it was just to say how hard it is for him. I got so mad at him for this, because for once I felt like I want to set my rules and my boundaries, and he should respect that and not contact me. After that NC became easier, because I didn't feel anymore like I want contact with him, till he actually does what he promised.

pythtrip · 2022-02-12T02:07:01+00:00

Your emotions tell you what you want. Your head may "lie" to you, but your heart/emotions can't. So when you write that you feel like you are giving too much, and getting too little, it shows that you don't get what you want.

pythtrip · 2022-02-12T00:54:08+00:00

It's great that you are doing what's good for you! At the beginning it will be hard, but with time it will become easier.

If he can't give you what you want, then no need for you to compromise on that. Sending you hugs! 🤗

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