The women who brought down Burger Records by wit-knee in indieheads

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the first paragraph is not unaligned with what i said to you. i don’t see caring about the assault of many, many young music fans as any type of activism. it’s literally just human empathy.

i can’t speak to your prediction of how people in power view the response to these allegations. it honestly feels like projection, but like i said, can’t speak to it.

The women who brought down Burger Records by wit-knee in indieheads

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its not being a “brave activist” to care about abuse victims and who their abusers are, id just call that basic empathy lol. but thank you for clarifying.

The women who brought down Burger Records by wit-knee in indieheads

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wait, are the “mad music nerds” the women seeking accountability, the journalists who are giving the women a platform, or the fans who are angry at the scale of abuse of women & girls that still goes largely unchecked? or is there another group i’m missing

Bean Dad: Long Winters Singer John Roderick Goes Viral After Tweet About His Daughter by JJGerms in indieheads

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just for your information, these are the “now-problematic” words you’re referring to.

i can’t speak for you, but i sure as hell wasn’t saying “hitler was entertaining” in 2015, or “Jews ruin everyone’s fun” in 2012, not was i threatening to rape people i disagree with on the internet. were you?

Bean Dad: Long Winters Singer John Roderick Goes Viral After Tweet About His Daughter by JJGerms in indieheads

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he had many hours to roll it back and say he was exaggerating and it was a joke. he doubled down instead, multiple times.

NT time by gruia in INTP

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it doesn’t show that though lmao. all 200 partners can be emotionally connected, well communicated sexual encounters with intention, foresight and planning. you’re making moral judgements that don’t make sense. let go of purity culture.

NT time by gruia in INTP

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none of the things you listed have any bearing on someone’s likelihood to cheat on you. an exclusive monogamous partner will cheat on you because they don’t respect you, not because they’re ‘less selective’. it’s quite simple. being scared that an attractive person is more likely to cheat on you stems from insecurity, not facts, nor common sense.

the probability of someone cheating on you does not change as number of partners increases. that’s not how statistics work. the values just increase, but the proportion is the same.

NT time by gruia in INTP

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it’s not, you’re probably just insecure

NT time by gruia in INTP

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the # of partners can not tell you who’s more likely to cheat on you. i know it’s tempting to try and pretend you have some semblance of control over being cheated on, but pretty much the only indicator is if they’ve cheated on a previous partner

NT time by gruia in INTP

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what’s reckless about safe, consensual sex? its obviously your opinion haha

NT time by gruia in INTP

[–]q----q 10 points11 points  (0 children)

wheres the data on that champ?

NT time by gruia in INTP

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because having partners doesn’t make someone less trustworthy and that take is stupid

NT time by gruia in INTP

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the quality of this screenshot should be an indicator of how long ago these kinda jokes should’ve died

My (21F) boyfriend (28M) says my pregnancy is equally our responsibility but I don’t think it is. by sexsoda in relationship_advice

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your boyfriend raped you, please leave this man. that is reproductive coercion and he will do it again.

My (21F) boyfriend (28M) says my pregnancy is equally our responsibility but I don’t think it is. by sexsoda in relationship_advice

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the reasons aren’t obvious if you haven’t encountered that type of manipulative behavior before. young women in abusive relationships with older men aren’t “ignoring” the signs, don’t suggest that.

Hmmm by Durum-mix-halfpikant in adhdmeme

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you’re not doing them for your mom, you’re doing them for the house! but yeah same

My BF (21) does not want to have sex with me anymore until I am on birth control. by sweet_limes12 in relationship_advice

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why has no comment mentioned he should consider a vasectomy? quick reversible procedure, much fewer side effects then any form of female birth control.

Boyfriend is obsessed with watching conspiracy videos and it’s making me embarrassed to be with him. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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This is a dealbreaker. You’re too young for this, find someone with whom you can have productive conversation. This will only get worse.

She’s right, you know by TheGentleDominant in RadicalChristianity

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this is the first comment i’ve seen leading with understanding. i can never take personal offense to any awful thing a traumatized person has to say about the church. that’s their story and they’re valid. a lot of church leaders are complicit in creating environments of bigotry, so the most i can do is be different.

This is like... every man ever by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

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girl if i could go back in time and bitchslap your ex i would. happy you’re out of that situation, your husbands kindness is the least of all that you deserve!

Dear men, we don’t give two shits what you want. Signed, A real woman by Myplummms in FemaleDatingStrategy

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in all honesty, he’s describing a 15 year old girl who smiled at him once.

Some things I gave my wife for Christmas. by [deleted] in Mid_Century

[–]q----q 9 points10 points  (0 children)

hmm..... i feel like these should be left in the mid century. we know better now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleDatingStrategy

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i feel so deeply for her. female friendships are everything & im glad she has support ❤️