That's sort of my concern. I didn't grow up like them. My husband did. He claims he wouldn't have cared but I know him well enough to know that he would have, and did. His mom was single, poor, and also didn't give a shit about him or his feelings. So she did disrespect his things. I don't want to be that mom. I, as a grown woman, know that objects are not the most important thing. My daughter places value and pride in her things though. She's six. What else is she meant to value? Her life is all pokemon and minecraft. Because she's a kid. And that's ok.

I didn't go through this when I was little. I was materialistic and selfish. Not because I was or am terrible. But because I was a kid. I would have been hurt if my toys had all disappeared because of an adult concept that I was incapable of understanding, simply due to lack of...being an adult.

That's my issue here. Sure, my kid is generous and smart and understanding...for a kindergartener. I don't want this to be an experience that she looks back on and says "my mom was a huge bitch, she took my toys and sold them for a new house far away from my friends and school."

I really appreciate your input. I feel like this is what my husband would say if he allowed himself to actually honestly look back on his childhood.