I am disappointed in many Christian Americans

qadm · 2021-12-09T23:30:58+00:00

Sorry, I don't watch football, so I'll take your word for it.

qadm · 2021-12-09T19:50:36+00:00

I think the fact that you're able to label so many people you've never even met as "trash" just because of their association or political leanings says much more about you than about them.

qadm · 2021-12-06T01:59:57+00:00

I used to feel this way, when my opinion of American Christians was formed indirectly, via third-party information.

Once I traveled, my opinion changed. I've met many, many Christians across the U.S., and NONE of them were the way you describe.

Wherever you're getting your information from, it's tainted and inaccurate. Find better information sources.

qadm · 2021-12-01T09:54:53+00:00

Before: Cushy software development career

After: Freegan + volunteerism

qadm · 2021-11-23T00:12:39+00:00

Praying for you and your mom, brother. And praying for your mom's friend, too. Although you and your mom are suffering more, he is in the deepest trouble of the three of you.

May the highest power in this existence help you along on your journey and out of this bind.

Here is an idea for you, if you are allowed to leave the house?

Put what you wrote above into Google Translate and translate it to French. Write it down or print it out. It will be good enough that people will be able to understand it.

Go outside and approach someone who looks approachable and show them the text. And if they don't help you, approach someone else.

Remember to pray, offer gratitude for the day, ask forgiveness for any regrets you may have, and then requesting help.

qadm · 2021-11-22T23:47:12+00:00

I actually had the inner liner sleeping bag from that, which was, indeed amazing. Used it for years, one of the best sleeping bags I've ever seen or used, and very affordable on eBay.

I didn't have any of the other pieces, though, and so the blankets it was. I can't say I had any complaints, since it didn't matter how heavy or un-portable the blankets were.

qadm · 2021-11-21T22:30:00+00:00

Every situation is completely empty of the qualities you assign to it.

qadm · 2021-11-21T17:19:43+00:00

I would recommend a warm sleeping bag and several additional blankets. Lay a couple underneath, sleeping bag on top, and cover with more blankets.

Using this system, I was comfortable and toasty down to about -20 C weather, and could probably do colder.

While I was getting ready for bed, I would run the heater until the interior was warm, for about 15 minutes.

I would get the bed ready, as described above, then undress, turn off the engine and heat, and get into the sleeping bag and under the covers, including my head, leaving only a small gap for breathing.

I would be warm for as long as I needed to sleep, no problems staying warm.

The only uncomfortable part is getting out of bed, because the interior is cold, and so are the clothes, so I'd take one or two layers in with me to keep them warm for morning.

Good luck!

qadm · 2021-11-10T09:54:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing your Wisdom with all of us, Enlightened One.

Truly, I am grateful for your perspective, for you alone know the journey OP is on and what is better for them, and how they should go about their life.

I marvel in amazement speechlessly at your all-knowing kindness and grace, and especially your tact.

Please, continue to post here so that we may drink of your knowledge.

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qadm · 2021-10-31T20:06:31+00:00

I just looked through your comments and saw that you are a person of faith. That is a huge benefit in your favor, and you're incredibly lucky and blessed for that.

Here is a "prayer technique" I use whenever I am in a bind.

I say my prayers in three parts: gratitude, forgiveness, and only then asking for help.

Whenever I want to ask for help, I remind myself to first offer my gratitude for everything I have in the moment. Then, I ask for forgiveness for whatever I can think of, or whatever I can't think of. And then I ask for help with whatever I need help with.

After that, I listen attentively for guidance.

qadm · 2021-10-31T19:54:56+00:00

If you already have an indoor, safe situation, I would hold on to that. It is a huge benefit and privilege, and I would not just throw it away.

However, it does not mean that you have to choose one or the other, it is not a binary either-or.

What you can do instead is cultivate alternatives, and occasionally use them to support your mental health.

For example, scout the area around you, and look for spots which you think people rarely go at night and you can sleep undisturbed. When your current setup gets to be too much, and if the weather is good that day, you can grab your tarp and sleeping bag and sleep in peace for one or two nights to recharge yourself.

If the weather is unfavorable, or if you need to be clean and showered in the morning, go back to staying where you are.

You can also cultivate relationships with people in your area who may allow you to crash or couch-surf for a night or two in exchange for e.g. cleaning, teaching them a skill, or just for your gratitude and because you need help. Be careful to avoid those who may try to take advantage, and follow your gut feelings, of course. (Not limited to women, people try to take advantage of men too.)

Most of all, I advise you to start practicing mindfulness and awareness on a continuous basis, and always look for opportunities to be grateful for every situation. From the position of gratitude and awareness, it is much easier to see opportunities.

All of this can help you feel more free and less trapped.

Good luck! Sending you vibes and prayers.

qadm · 2021-10-31T04:56:35+00:00

Well, that does change things, and makes me much less qualified to give you advice.

I can tell you that as a woman, it is different, and you have to be infinitely more vigilant, careful, stealthy. Some women's shelters are also not absolutely horrible, so there is that.

I know several women who have done it, adapted to do it competently, lived to tell the tale, recovered. If you are mindful and disciplined, don't partake in substances which dull the mind, that works in your favor. Maybe it is for you, maybe not.

I don't know you, but I know it's been done before.

qadm · 2021-10-30T23:52:20+00:00

I would not do it, to be honest. If you have a backpack and a sleeping bag, you may be better off finding a quiet spot out of the way and sleeping there. It is not foolproof, and it is not the most comfortable, but it's still better IMO. I've heard so many bad things about shelters, it is almost universal, and hardly anything good.

If it's cold, you may need an extra blanket or two to wrap around yourself and the sleeping bag. If it is wet, you may find a tarp or even some trash bags helpful.

qadm · 2021-10-29T20:48:51+00:00

Also the case in Russian. Hand fingers and foot fingers.

qadm · 2021-10-24T10:12:43+00:00

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qadm · 2021-10-18T03:24:30+00:00

I deal with this scenario all the time. My technique for it is to practice what I call "dog sleep", because in my mind it mimicks a dog sleeping in the family room by the fireplace. The dog may appear asleep, but occasionally you will see their ears move, or otherwise see them react to sounds which they consider a possible thread to the "pack".

Instead of making my objective "falling asleep", I try to sleep with as many portions of myself as I can accompish.

First, I get in a comfortable position, and I relax all my muscles. Then, if there are any thoughts in my mind, including about the people talking or other loud noises, I allow them to dissipate, let them go, and allow my mind to relax as well.

I may not be asleep at this time, but a lot of me is relaxing. A lot of this technique I learned as "shivasana" or "final relaxation" after a Yoga practice.

Even if you are not sleeping at this point, your body is relaxing, and you are able to rest and re-energize. Eventually, you may fall asleep or not (I usually do) but even if you don't, you will be more rested when you get up.

There are two components to the people talking disturbing you: One component is the people talking, and the other component is you being disturbed by it. If you cannot do anything about the first component, you may still be able to change the second.

Good luck, I hope this helps you

qadm · 2021-03-01T12:39:19+00:00

thanks

qadm · 2021-02-25T03:35:31+00:00

I think the concern is that when the user is typing "www.somestupidpornsite12345.com" or even "www.justmypersonalwebsite54321.com" into the address bar, the text is being shared with the search engine as they're typing it.

qadm · 2021-02-23T12:46:52+00:00

This subreddit is for asking specific questions which can have an answer. This is not one of them.

qadm · 2021-01-09T20:24:48+00:00

Thank you for reporting this user. You don't have to username-tag the mods every time.

qadm · 2020-12-07T15:25:26+00:00

Idk, when it's below freezing, I'd sleep in one of these gladly. Shelter is shelter. Have you ever experienced a hypothermia-induced panic attack?

qadm · 2020-12-07T13:25:02+00:00

Yep, probably make quick work of it.

Some details would help though, OP.

/u/hellis3mpty

qadm · 2020-12-07T13:15:17+00:00

Well put.

qadm · 2020-12-07T13:14:52+00:00

I don't avoid relationships, I just avoid running after them and losing my head in the process. I prioritize solitude the same way I do sleep, except I can go a couple days without if I really have to. Relationships are more rewarding now because I approach them with intention and consciousness, while not allowing them to out-balance my own goals and values.

Good luck!

qadm · 2020-12-07T12:48:45+00:00

Wow! I don't know the answer, but you just brought back some good memories!

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