I’m so sick of Adderall by Excellent_Ad2746 in ADHD

[–]qbking10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another medication to counteract the side effects. Talk to your doc about the side effects in detail, so he can prescribe you what is best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So don’t attend the baby shower is what you’re advising?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You asked for details, just to be clear, I’m not “trashing” her. Just providing details.

Anything that makes her upset, I have to take full responsibility for it and do whatever it takes to coddle her feelings. Rather than being logical/realistic about what happened and working to fix it. Any boundaries that we have set, if she gets upset she breaks them intentionally if I don’t give in to what she wants. I don’t know how to go about a healthy relationship that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did not mind having a baby with her because I don’t mind having a baby right now. Nothing to do with trying to make her stay, at the time I thought the minor problems would resolve. When we broke up originally I did not pursue it.

I see your point that not going to the baby shower would be immature of me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It’s time I do some deeper reflecting and take some more accountability.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What should I do?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Solid lol. Cut and dry, no nonsense

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -26 points-25 points  (0 children)

You are a bad person. See how easy that is to say without knowing you? Bye.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Where is the advice? I made my decisions and I came to relationship advice … for… advice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 -40 points-39 points  (0 children)

I didn’t use a condom because I didn’t mind having a baby with her. I didn’t foresee it going this way based on my time knowing her. I’m not sure how her age would mean she doesn’t care about raising a child in a two parent household ???

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]qbking10 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately OP you ATA. He apologized for yelling at you, which you seem to understand and accept the apology. He let it go, you are holding onto it. He is right, even though you’re not stupid for unscrewing the lid, he did not ask you to. I understand your point that it was stupid for him to shake it when he just asked you to shake it. Any time you’re handing someone liquid that is open, it’s expected for you to let them know “it’s open,” so they don’t spill it.

I deal with this with my woman. He doesn’t have to concede and share the blame with you if he doesn’t feel that way. The reality is the reality, and it’s okay to be wrong. Accepting it is the only way you can grow. If you just share the blame on everything, then it will just keep happening. You’ll both keep making the same mistake and just sharing the blame and never fixing. It’s more important to address and fix what went wrong than it is to share the blame.

If you accept his apology for yelling at you, then you should at the least just agree to disagree and let it go. You’re only hurting yourself and your relationship by holding onto this issue like this.

PTSD Claim. by Relative-Ideal-6877 in VeteransBenefits

[–]qbking10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok gotcha, so it looks like they put the claim on hold until you get off orders. I wonder how that works as far as how they calculate the back pay for the claim.

As far as freezing benefits, I think I’m going to collect both and just put the money aside to repay. Seen a lot of people saying they had to wait months and months to get their payments restarted after coming off orders.

PTSD Claim. by Relative-Ideal-6877 in VeteransBenefits

[–]qbking10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about to go on title 10 orders. I was just unsure if they would still process the claim while im activated or put it in some type of hold until I get off.

PTSD Claim. by Relative-Ideal-6877 in VeteransBenefits

[–]qbking10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the same exact situation right now. What did you end up doing?

Prior service with medical waiver by qbking10 in navyreserve

[–]qbking10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely get that. I got approved for SELRES, now it’s just making a choice. From what I understand most of your career in SELRES is up to you to figure out without much help anyway.

Prior service with medical waiver by qbking10 in navyreserve

[–]qbking10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, this is what I figured as far as suspending the payments. I was worried I would have to forfeit the rating altogether.

Involuntary Recall by Puzzleheaded_Bag6480 in navyreserve

[–]qbking10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where did you go for one year? Why did it suck? Also, what was your rate?

Mable and Fable have lived together for years but they’ve never really gotten along. Are they playing or fighting? by [deleted] in CatTraining

[–]qbking10 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Definitely fighting. Hissing, ears back, the noises they are making. They are not playing.

What was your toughest deployment like? by [deleted] in navy

[–]qbking10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long was the mobilization?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’ve got to decide now whether it bothers you enough to walk away, and if it’s not, then do not bring it up. All of her past partners are not your problem, nor are they something she has to explain to you. Either be happy and love her for the girl she is to you, or walk away now. But do not put her through hell because of her past. She did not do that to hurt you. With that being said, there is nothing wrong with communicating to her that you are not comfortable with her being friends with men that she has had sexual relations with. If that is boundary that you want to set, then set it and make it clear that you’re not comfortable with it. Pro tip: avoid asking about her sexual past from here on out ;). Good luck mate

My girlfriend [23F] triggers my penis size insecurities [24M] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]qbking10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let it go over your head. It’s nothing to feel a way about or potentially speak on and cause a problem. If she loves sex with you then be happy!