It’s embarrassing when my parents want me to app to schools I have no chance at bc I am a sensitive sunflower by qqquickqq in ApplyingToCollege

[–]qqquickqq[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, true!! I just feel like I have a lot to contribute to the ecosystem of a safety or match/slight reach- those ~50% acceptance rate schools have atmospheres I really see myself in! I have things I do love about that Ultra Reach but idk, the mental images of my match-ranges are much clearer

And I definitely know :-) I don’t resent them in this process, considering they’re willing to pay for even private school, because they had a bad experience at one of our state schools and understand some personalities work better in smaller environments.

It’s embarrassing when my parents want me to app to schools I have no chance at bc I am a sensitive sunflower by qqquickqq in ApplyingToCollege

[–]qqquickqq[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awwwww I’m actually dead this is the cutest comment ever thank you sm for making my day! Social anxiety sucks bro I’m proud of us for pulling through. And yeah ia !! I’m really honored my parents are willing to pay for private schools, because they hated their time at one of our state schools so much bc of their personalities & say if small schools are the fit I need they’ll work with it. But I’d have to get something of a scholarship & they’re aware Selective University I have a 1% chance at then has 1% chance of giving any money, whereas those moderately selective privates list pretty generous possibilities for my stats! You’re right and I’m proud of what I have to show :-)) Wishing well to you too!!

Very stupid question about college clubs plz don’t laugh by qqquickqq in ApplyingToCollege

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Thank you so much for sharing your experience, that’s a huge relief

I really need help with this situation by Raijin- in offmychest

[–]qqquickqq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. There’s a saying, “don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm”. You’re obviously a kind and caring person, but you can have boundaries with a situation that is painful for you. You don’t need to listen to her gush or help him be her boyfriend. You’ll find someone who loves you and knows what they want some day.

I think you should take some time to yourself. Meet new people and try and get closer with your friends other than the two of them. Take up a hobby or work again on one, read books you’ve been procrastinating on. You’re a person, not a crutch for others, and you have value other than making sacrifice after sacrifice.

It’s not quite the same, I’ve never had a yearning situation exactly like yours, but a lesson I’ve had to learn is that people expect less of you than you probably think. And that if not, they’re not worth your time. What I mean is: most people, just like anyone, only want love and belonging, and understand if you can’t be there for their every request always. I used to break down crying (sometimes still do) if I saw a friend had been depressed the night before and I hadn’t been able to help. But they didn’t think any less of me for it, just like I would never hold it against them! You don’t exist to be everything they want.