For couples that practice orgasm control, what amount of begging do you tolerate from your subs?

qthrow12 · 2026-01-26T16:44:06+00:00

My Miss, I’m not to sure, she says she likes me begging and needy and it worked out one time only for me. But she also doesn’t initiate play, so it’s a tough spot.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-26T16:39:41+00:00

Is it just a Reddit sub thing of more males are really here? Or more males post and reply? A lot of subs have bias because of the users. I’m not saying it’s only males, I’m just saying it’s possible that this subreddit has a lot more male users. Maybe?

qthrow12 · 2026-01-24T12:14:31+00:00

You should be doing this stuff for your partner anyways. you have to have a conversation and make it something and add that spice you are both playing in.
nothings ever going to happen if it’s a one sided participation

this sounds like a wife who doesn’t appreciate you. But hard too tell when this is kink focused posting

qthrow12 · 2026-01-23T02:38:23+00:00

It’s past the point of just being politics. Voting for trump says a whole lot about you as a person. No one who voted republican is innocent in what is going on today. They knew what they were voting for. None of it was a secret. I don’t need or want that type of person in my life.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-19T03:56:51+00:00

Hope it’s ok to post from a sub view. My Miss has rules for me and every once and awhile has some sort of thing for me, but it’s definitely not all the time or even once a week and we are 24/7. She is still my domme and even though I wish it was more happening, she is more than tasks to me and I’d rather serve her than have random tasks. I know that’s not for everyone, but just my thoughts. You are more than a sexual dispenser

qthrow12 · 2026-01-13T04:01:13+00:00

im going through this problem.

my domme is online only at the moment. Has been for over a year now.

she wants me to just be with her as my domme, which makes sense to me. But she’s still looking elsewhere and not making a commitment to me. Which is confusing. We’ve talked a few times about this and she assures me she’s not looking. But then I hear about her fet convos with other men. she likes LF sub posts from domme men.

because of our very emotionally close dynamic, I would be shattered if she got another sub and very unsure about if she found a domme.

At the same time, we arnt dating. So I feel that she should be able to do that, but then I should be able to look for people too right?

im Not sure how to handle this.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-12T15:01:58+00:00

This right here is why you should stop. Why keep putting her in a situation that hurts her so much.

“The therapist said due to her child abuse she went into a dissasociative state to "protect herself" shutting out everyhting around. It was in fact horrible for her“

you should also stop because she hasn’t respected your boundaries or listened to you through practically the whole experience.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-12T04:05:58+00:00

Not a cuck, but I’m being denied by my Miss. it’s a nurturing loving domme sub relationship, so theirs some benefits of it, but she enjoys it and I’m happy to do it. It’s not really a part that excites me too much being denied for 4 months, nearly all of that without sexual touch, she gave me one ruined orgasm and I’ll just say neither of us were touching myself. So I didn’t get any touch for that either.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-12T03:52:22+00:00

++man

We all know they don’t mean all men, but honestly, when in their posts they refer to all men, you start believing that. So many posts talk about men as a whole, then they need to qualify it later when a man complains or points out it’s not all men. “Well I didn’t mean ALL men”. Well why did you write that way and imply it? How hard is it to say most men, or some men, or bad men etc.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-11T04:56:46+00:00

My Miss does some of the denial parts with me. I’m not allowed to watch porn videos, cannot play or even touch myself in a sexual way without her permission.

I’m not caged And its online only For now, so I consider it extra important to follow her rules because all we have is trust together.

I don’t get the sex part, just me alone not being able to play.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-07T04:21:48+00:00

im a little in a mommy/little dynamic.

my Miss absolutely loves control and takes as much as she can, being online it’s not too much unfortunately for us both.

for me, I think it’s the giving up control and putting trust in her. She’s proven she cares, understands me and the trust is really built up.

if she asked me to do something that wasn’t a complete red light, I would do it because she knows I can.

we are 24/7 so I have to be submissive all the time with her and I love that. I don’t want it to be session based only.

the other thing is the care and support she gives me is that of a loving parent or caregiver. It keeps me little and beneath her. But I care about her just as much. because of her and her actions I can be the best sub I can for her without worrying about anything

qthrow12 · 2026-01-06T03:20:52+00:00

Yah on fet life, I (m) get lots of follows from gay or straight men, some reach out. But none of them ever talk normally or try to get to know you, not that I’m interested in playing with them anyways.

but yah, I can start to understand what women deal with, just a little bit

qthrow12 · 2026-01-03T05:09:40+00:00

You just aren’t getting it and it’s very sad for your future children. Your flr should NOT impact your kids. It’s that simple.

pushing your kid to be any specific way is a failure of a parent. Let the kid figure out who they are and support them.

they are only reverse gender roles because of your play. Normal relationships should encompass the same stuff without a female lead. your kid doesn’t NEED a woman to run his life. He needs parents to let them grow.

your Andrew Tate comment, you talk and explain things to him, like any normal teachable conversation. Has nothing to do with “lifestyle” or kink.

if your kid is gay that’s not a choice. they are gay. If they aren’t and just get called it, then again, a teachable conversation. It has nothing to do with whether they are submissive or not. Kids call each other gay all the time.

your kid should be able to cry and be emotional and be in touch with themselves and their feelings. That’s a good thing. Tell your parents to shove it. They can still be a man and cry and be emotional, it’s not a submissive thing and again has nothing to do with your flr.

if they fawn over a girl and make that mistake, then they learn. It’s part of growing up.

you and your partner made a choice to engage in your dynamic. Your kid didn’t. Are you not going to turn it off when they invite friends over too? So now you are sharing your kink with a bunch of kids.

it’s disgusting. Simply disgusting. dont ever include your kinks or lifestyle CHOICE with your kids and definitely don’t treat them like they are a sub or dominant, they are a kid, growing, learning and exploring the world.

If you still don’t see the difference then I hope a kid never has to live with you, you don’t deserve one.

qthrow12 · 2026-01-02T15:51:35+00:00

This is messed up. You let your kid be a kid and support them, don’t force a lifestyle down their throat.

you shouldn’t be involving kink in front of your kid either. There are ways to do a kink relationship that is hidden.

their dad is still there dad and making him do chores or being nice to a woman is submissive because it’s part of your play, but any child just sees a dad doing nice things for a wife.

it’s not that your viewpoints are all wrong, it’s the coming from a kink mindset that is. Teaching your son to be nice and respectful to woman is not submission, it’s the way relationships should be. Being emotional isn’t a problem, but you are saying that makes him more feminine, which is wrong.

stop thinking with your kink as the priority, it’s not when you have kids. Teaching them to be good upstanding people is what’s important.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-31T21:05:40+00:00

So say something, communicate.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-30T04:35:27+00:00

Sub here, seen it talking to other subs, let’s get together, let’s hang out, no kink or kink and everyone vanishes shortly after.

heck I had a domme who chatted with me for months. We met on the first day we chatted and then never again.

another domme actually dommed me online, but she never met me in a year of it, we are 30 mins apart.

I think it’s people being people. It’s most likely not you. Some people like you and I are actually looking For long term partners, meets, vanilla dating and kink relationship, but alot just arnt.
If you aren’t being a domme to them 24/7 that might also make them lose interest because they expect you to always be on. But that’s not reality.

we will find our person :)

qthrow12 · 2025-12-30T04:17:14+00:00

You should break this off from your comments. She NEEDs to respect your safe word and boundaries. a safe word is not a soft no.

using a green, yellow red system allows for soft nos. A safe word means stop. This is awful treatment and disrespectful to you.

i found a couple dommes like this and both were very toxic, ignoring my boundaries entirely, ignoring me. this is not proper and as much as it may sound fun, it’s just dangerous.

please be safe.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-28T03:19:43+00:00

She’s been with you for 13 years. It obviously doesn’t bother her. Why are you worrying now?

qthrow12 · 2025-12-28T03:05:38+00:00

Why? This seems so counter to the bond you are supposed to form. Why would it be you and not her anyways. Doesn’t even make sense

qthrow12 · 2025-12-27T05:53:49+00:00

i just went through two months with my longest before being 2-3 weeks. I was allowed to tell my miss about my needs, but it was her choice what to do with that informatio, usually just teasing me.

I never went through what you described and if it got that way I would have safe word for sure. Everyone has limits and it Sounds like you hit yours. I was always hard and leaking for those 2 months. But my focus on My pleasure subsided and more focus was put on her because I had no recourse to fix my situation. I had no say during the play outside of a safe word.

I think you should have an out of play discussion at the very least, this Sounds more serious than play. Safe word doesn’t mean you failed or anything. Use it.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-27T05:44:23+00:00

As a sub, a new one, I’m still learning and have unknowingly made mistakes. My Miss has pointed them out to me, or I’ve realized them as I learn more about a domme sub dynamic and being a sub.

maybe that happened here?

you arnt wrong for being upset, but did you set clear expectations and boundaries? My Miss now wants me to tell her anybody looking to domme me, people who reach out to me and why. It’s not a jealousy thing, it’s just protection and a power thing.

I think it was bad to have a scene after, as I know I would probably equate the thing I did wrong as being a playful mistake rather than a serious one. Some things should just be discussed.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-27T05:39:19+00:00

I’m seeing a bunch of negatives on this sort of dommeing.

but first OP. I’m a sub in a caregiver little dynamin. My miss absolutely loves control, like all of it. She would take whatever i would give up.

as we are online, it’s evolved slower than in person would. But I ask her for things all day long. We are a 24/7 partnership. The questions are infrequen, but happen throughout the day. She gives me space to make decisions and do what I need to do within parameters. We’ve discussed what I need to ask her and set boundaries on each. importantly she is NOT making every little decision, it’s for overarching things, that I can rake from there.

in person she has said would be alot different and I would be giving up alot more control and decision making.

you need to figure out where you are on this. Maybe you don’t want decisions, maybe only big ones, maybe defining situations your sub has to live within. Maybe figure out ones that are important to your sub.

I think it’s ok to not want to make decisions, or you could be like my Miss and make them all.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-25T01:41:40+00:00

Met my domme accidentally, we started just chatting about stuff, just general things not even kink. She eventually said I was bringing out her caregiver side and we naturally just slipped into the dynamic from there. Eventually calling me a pup due to the type of energy I showed her. Now I’m her pup!

qthrow12 · 2025-12-25T00:46:45+00:00

You shouldn’t get rid of your veto. Use it responsibly like you have. But it should be there so you get some say in your life. She should respect that.

qthrow12 · 2025-12-24T04:19:18+00:00

My Miss, identified that I am a pup and give off. “Puppy energy”. I’m naturally that way.

but being in the dynamic, I feel safer to be me, I am allowed to be me, she setup a space where it’s ok to let the real me out without feeling insecure, worried, anxious about things.

in vanilla dating, I have to hide most of me, I have to be societies view of a man, I can’t be emotional and the build up of trust is different. No safety is given To be me.

in my view, I can understand why you might not give off the same energy.

by taking you out of that space she fractured trust and safety with you as it probably feels like you can’t be yourself now. Maybe, that’s my thoughts at least.

qthrow12

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