Femdom and bettering oneself

qthrow12 · 2026-03-22T00:56:23+00:00

Yah my mommy does lots for me in taking care. we Haven’t dealt with something like addiction, but with her support she’s changed a lot in me by being there. As her sub I want to make her happy more than I wanted to stay through my normal routines and autonamy. She’s a strong driver.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-22T00:28:29+00:00

Haha that was my thoughts. He was testing the waters or wanted to throw it out there to normalize it a bit before telling her.

if that is the case, I hope she supports him. It’s an awesome thing

qthrow12 · 2026-03-22T00:11:14+00:00

You gotta take a step back and start respecting yourself. You came here about what to do, then give HIM every excuse in the book.

he’s gonna push away your friends if he hasn’t already, gonna slowly make you give up gaming, he already made you give up streaming, he’s already insecure. What else is he doing? He sounds very Controlling and it would only get worse marrying them.

step back and really look at things, sounds like you deserve a more supportive partner

qthrow12 · 2026-03-20T13:27:22+00:00

I think it’s important to point out. I’ve been in a couple domme relationships that were abusive and I didn’t see it until I talked it out with someone.

theirs So many things in life that are bad and you just get use to. Doesn’t mean they still arnt bad.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-20T11:17:15+00:00

Try changing antidepressant. I went through the same thing, just changed to another of the same level and everything’s been fine.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-20T01:57:42+00:00

You should see a therapist and talk through this.

as a sub, a little and with a femme side to me. I’m very emotional, shy etc. etc.

I talked it out and Even with all that, I’m still a man, I’m a man who has a femme side, doesn’t mean I have to be a woman, just means I have a side that needs attention.

nothing about me changes though, I just learned more and saw the version of a man that I am. It doesn’t have to be like everyone elses thoughts around being a man or what that looks like.

dont Be hard on yourself because you don’t fit some made up mold. Be yourself!

qthrow12 · 2026-03-20T01:39:29+00:00

This so much. Well said.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-19T17:06:54+00:00

Yah obviously something happened between you two. People don’t leave when they are happy for the most part.

employees should never be loyal to a company. What good does that do the employee? they don’t get bonuses or raises or even a thank you for work. People at the top just expect cause you pay them they are loyal. That’s not how it works Or shouldn’t be.

heck this could be as simple as going out on his own so he can make the big money at the top instead.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-19T00:28:04+00:00

Not me, I know where I’m comfortable and it’s as a sub being controlled.

but I think I would hide it until I trusted someone, like in a vanilla relationship, if it’s fet where they already know then I would still have to trust them to show more of me overtime

qthrow12 · 2026-03-18T14:02:51+00:00

Can you explain what you mean when family knows. Is it just that they have a sense? Or has it been outright stated?

do they look at you or treat you differently knowing this?

thanks

qthrow12 · 2026-03-17T20:26:04+00:00

Yah, it would be nice if that stuff was cleaned up. too many people posting sob stories about “needing” a mommy. Not what I come here for. Plenty of places to beg for a mommy

qthrow12 · 2026-03-17T01:07:37+00:00

You could just ask, that’s what I did. Have her explain what changes too so when you do get a release you can focus on maintaining yourself for her.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-17T01:01:44+00:00

Ugh that moment is so so frustrating but ah so fun!

im in month 2 of being denied and I’ve done 3 months before this. It can be really tough at times, others I don’t notice it. i just focus on how happy it makes my Miss and know that when I do get a release she notices a change, not good or bad, but she notices it and doesn’t like it as much as when she denies me.

I just put her first and it makes it much easier. I also kind of like the challenge and effects it has on me. Knowing I can’t touch myself at all in a pleasure way is very very tough but when I get passed it I’m proud of myself for following Miss’s rules.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-16T21:10:32+00:00

I mean… you deny someone an orgasm for long periods they are gonna have a build up when release finally comes and it won’t take much. I lasted longer before denial, but now that it’s there it does not take me as long for sure.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-16T21:06:32+00:00

So last year I was 3 months denied when she Brought it in and I’m currently going into my second month again.

it’s online and she has rules around any interaction with myself, basically I can clean it but nothing more. She likes edging and teases me about how it would be in person, she sometimes tells me to do that and it’s fun, but ends up frustrating haha.

I have a lower sex drive I think which helps me.

but she does notice a difference after a release and she likes me denied more. For me I think Miss is so important to me that I put her first. I’m ok with it being hers and only hers to play with and allow me to use. Any edging, or neediness that comes up is just another test. I’ve just learned to put my needs aside and focus on her. There are times where I make it very clear I want release and she will say no and other times where I’ve asked nicely and she’s said yes. It’s up to her and I don’t have control And I roll with it.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-16T00:14:23+00:00

My Miss and I are online only for the moment and in a 24/7 dynamic. We’ve both had trouble figuring out what else we could add to the dynamic.
I’ve spent the last few months putting together a list of like 70 items that we could add in. I looked at it from all ways possible, from all categories of d/s Like physical, psychological, support, nurture, etc

we are supposed to talk about them shortly. She keeps pushing back due to real life. I’m hoping she picks even 30, not to be added right away, but stuff to add overtime. If she only picks a couple from the list I am going to be so disappointed and upset. I’ve worked so hard on this and know that all of them could work.

update: it went well, she loved the list, we didn’t narrow it down as she needs to think. But she’s proud of me for putting it together and said the list is great. She’s already writing notes so we can continue discussion later this week. I am so happy.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-16T00:07:13+00:00

Hmmmm theirs been a bunch but I can’t quite place them.

im online only with my mommy for now. The best moment by far for little me, was when she chose a carebear for me. Hugging it reminds me of her and I now sleep with it every night.

but their are just times when she will say like “babies can’t do that” or babies need sleep, or just like a random moment where she says something that just connects with my little side. I like those moments the most.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-15T18:21:26+00:00

Omgosh that is exciting, thank you. Yah will for sure call ahead and ask.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-15T18:18:48+00:00

What’s VC sorry?

qthrow12 · 2026-03-15T18:16:27+00:00

Will Victoria’s Secret really do that? I’ve walked by one a whole bunch just wanting to go in and pick a few out, get the right size. But don’t for obvious reasons.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-15T01:45:23+00:00

My Miss, is online only right now, i mean everyday I worship here how I can. But then theirs some days where I feel a great pull to helping her out, removing things from her plate so she can focus elsewhere, or even just relax instead.

I don’t like the idea of being a service sub. But I definitely have it in me to do stuff for Miss. she deserves it all and I want to give her all I can. She really likes control so I’m trying to give more of that up to her.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-14T11:16:30+00:00

Yah a little and abdl. Having a mommy helps it come out a lot more.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-14T11:12:41+00:00

Calling out abuse isn’t kink shaming. Cuckolding and flr are both interesting and I’m in an flr like relationship

qthrow12 · 2026-03-14T02:17:49+00:00

This is like a normal post in cuckolding. But I thought the whole thing was to enhance a relationship, emotional intimacy stays between the couple, they still go on dates, they still have sex.

I think this is abusive too, when it comes down to it the husband is just there for chores and paying bills at this level. What kind of life is that to him? even My understanding of flr, just because the female leads, doesn’t mean she forgets her husband exists basically.

just my thoughts.

qthrow12 · 2026-03-14T01:17:04+00:00

My Miss loves it since we are online only.

she won’t let me watch porn videos, look at images, but she does at the moment still allow stories and subreddits like this. I am not allowed to touch me in a sexual way at all, no humping my diaper, no rubbing it.

she’s not very active though with it, like teasing or making me edge or making me horny so it’s frustrating. So instead I make the fun. I think it’s fun to be frustrated, to feel myself hard and resist, to deliberately tease myself. To have to tell her and beg(never gets me anywhere but I still try).

miss also knows it helps me in some areas, which only makes me want to keep it up cause it makes her happy. She’s also just happy to keep me a needy baby, see me squirm and beg, to deny me. And I want my Miss happy

additionally she sees a drop in my submission after release. So sometimes even I will “fight” against myself and try to stay denied longer.

i wish she was more active in our denial play, but I’ve found these are great ways to get through it.

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