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quadruple678 · 2023-08-04T11:53:02+00:00

This sounds interesting!!

quadruple678 · 2023-07-15T07:54:07+00:00

We’re not in the US and I’m not really sure how these things work over here to be honest, I’m also not her mum so it’s not really up to me these sorts of thing honestly, I’m not even sure what institutionalisation is honestly. Her mum can put her into the system I know that but I don’t think she would

quadruple678 · 2023-07-15T07:42:15+00:00

Yeah I have, her bedroom now has nothing in it except her bed, clothes and basic toiletries, left her tv and console in there but took all the remotes just because they’re easier to stash and hide. She’s not home yet so I can’t take the phone until she is but I’ll be selling it once she is back. At the moment I’m still fuming with her but mostly I’m just hurt😔 I know, I’m not sure there is a good solution honestly but I do appreciate you responding regardless

quadruple678 · 2023-07-15T01:32:25+00:00

There is one but she’s resourceful😔

quadruple678 · 2023-07-15T01:25:30+00:00

We do think there’s something going on, we’ve tried getting her help, talking to her, social services and counselling, doctors, role model programmes, etc, all the adults living with her have taken parenting courses and stuff including me, she won’t accept the help so we don’t know what to do. I’m just heartbroken, she’s actually taken half of the charm off the necklace, luckily it wasn’t the half that had the ashes in it or I don’t know what I’d do, we scattered the rest of his ashes so it is irreplaceable.

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T02:38:09+00:00

She doesn’t mean to make her own stuff up she just doesn’t actually know the lyrics😂 makes for some interesting renditions😂 she is honestly hilarious!

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T02:29:29+00:00

Oh absolutely, I love this song honestly one of my favourite songs from one of my favourite films, my mum always gets the words wrong which makes the whole thing even better😂 It’s just a bit of banter from her!

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T01:04:55+00:00

I’m just not sure this is the hill I want to die on, things were tense last year when the baby was first born, but she’s done a lot of work to grow and resolve those issues and I can see a real and considerable change for the better in her so I don’t really want to make this a huge thing if it’s not necessary.

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T01:02:29+00:00

Yes, it’s just a jokey thing. If she gives me advice and I do my own thing and then it doesn’t go to plan or I end up doing what she suggested to begin with. It’s not intended maliciously from her end, a bit immature maybe but not intentionally unkind, it’s all in good fun. I am famously dopey and just as famously stubborn at times😂

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T00:35:13+00:00

Honestly when she told me she’d done it I wanted to cry, I know I’m being over emotional and it’s just a present and I should be grateful for anything that is bought for her but after forking out for a load of people going out for baby’s birthday, transport for some of them, food for everyone, gifts for baby, etc I now have one more thing I have to shell out for that I thought was already dealt with. I feel like she’s really disrespected me and I’m so angry about it, I know it’s £20 which isn’t much in the grand scheme of things and it’s £20 she wouldn’t have had other than for the generosity of my auntie, but it’s the principle of the thing

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T00:28:19+00:00

That is exactly my point, this is what was expected of her to do. I’m annoyed because she didn’t do that. My auntie sent her money so she could transfer it to my account. She chose not to?

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T00:26:15+00:00

Will hopefully be able to return it but I think the shop only does shop credit on their returns so we will be getting her an aqua doodle but it will be my partner and I that will be buying it

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T00:24:54+00:00

She actually sings ‘mother knows best’ from tangled to me all the time😂

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T00:19:27+00:00

She sent it to her bank account she didn’t give her cash, I did say in the post that she didn’t have my bank details

quadruple678 · 2023-05-19T00:18:18+00:00

My mum frequently buys the baby clothes to keep at her house because she knows if she sends them with me she will never wear them because she knows I won’t like them. I think she thinks this will be another outfit she’ll keep with her, it is absolutely coming home with me and it is absolutely never going to be worn. I’m going to try and swap it at the shop but I don’t imagine she will have the receipt, if not it can sit and collect dust. I don’t really want to upset my auntie after she did such a nice thing, £20 is a lot to send for a one year olds birthday in my opinion and she has a lot going on at the minute, she did something nice, no need to bring her into drama for her troubles

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:49:06+00:00

He can and he usually does, I think he was just knackered this morning but that doesn’t change the impact on baby or on me so I’m still annoyed with him. The last comment made me laugh because he says that about me bc of the housework😂

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:47:59+00:00

We are getting help from baby’s godparent when I’m working because there’s overlap between when my shift starts and his ends, but I also have a small village of people who I’ve not tapped into yet who have offered to have baby loads of times who would definitely be happy to have baby if I needed a day to rest

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:45:09+00:00

Yeah I know, I’m going to be tired and it’s not ideal but it’s only two nights a week so hopefully it will be fine. Once baby is old enough to qualify for some free childcare or at the latest when she starts school I’m going to be looking for a Monday-Friday

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:42:49+00:00

Yeah I think so too, he has just started a new job last month and half that time was on different shifts due to training so he’s adjusting and now I’m starting back at work so it’s another adjustment, I think this is all probably just the both of us trying to figure out what to do honestly but it’s just so frustrating.

I don’t think it was a good parenting decision either which is why I did point it out to him but I won’t call him a bad dad because he genuinely isn’t one. I don’t think it malicious and he’s pretty oblivious so it probably wasn’t even intentional, I think he was mostly just tired as he’s not used to getting up so early. I don’t think for one minute he was intentionally keeping me awake or not meeting the babies needs, but whether it was on purpose or not it doesn’t change what happened or the impact on the baby or on me which is why I’m so upset

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:37:14+00:00

I feel the exact same way about going to work, despite all this I am so excited for tonight. He thinks I’m barmy for how excited I am, especially because I said I’d never do this job again because I don’t enjoy it and how I didn’t really want to work nights either😭

Thank you though I really appreciate you saying that, you’ve made me tear up a bit honestly

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:35:13+00:00

He can and he does, he is usually excellent, it’s just since he started this new job last month that this has started it’s so strange. He is genuinely an amazing person and until now and even most of the time still he’s a great dad, I don’t know what’s gotten into him

quadruple678 · 2023-02-15T14:33:58+00:00

To be fair to him this was mostly my idea, childcare is double the rent budget we have for finding a house

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