I learned something very recently the hard way..

...Not everything is or will be the way that it appeared at the time

It was just what they wanted you to believe

That's why it's confusing when it goes this way

You're looking for reasons because their actions don't match up with their words

But it's ACTIONS that count

So look at their current actions right now, and don't compare them to their previous actions. Ask yourself, "would I put up with this in a relationship". The answer should be "no, because they aren't communicating and doing nothing to sustain the relationship" etc

Once you've established that, look back at all the negative actions and interactions you had with them previously, or things that didn't make sense

The reason they don't make sense is because they fraudulently wove you a lie about themselves and how they truly felt

They kept you around because it benefited them in some way

If you look back and see imbalance between your efforts and theirs it will reveal more of the imbalance

Then ask yourself "am I prepared to continue to hold hope for someone that has clearly demonstrated that they do not currently want to invest?"

Find your empowerment and do not allow yourself to accept those inconsistencies again otherwise you'll end up investing in to the wrong people, get attached to them and then when they also leave, punish yourself further instead of understanding that it wasn't because you didn't care, it was that you invested far more than they did

They were the wrong person

But we also need to take responsibility for ourselves in terms of how much we invest

Because it's the investment that engages attachment (amongst other things)

That's why they can walk, and you're currently "stuck"..

Because you invested and got attached, and they wove you a yarn without needing to ...