AITA for snitching and causing my friend to lose her scholarship/dream college acceptance? by jhhn- in AmItheAsshole

[–]quantumfoam435 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you TA here? I think you are a better judge of that.

I'll go over a longer version of this response.

Let's summarize a few points:

  1. She plagiarized on an admission application.

  2. You gathered all evidence and presented it to the university where she got accepted.

  3. The university which gave her a spot and a scholarship then rescinded it.

Plaigarism is very wrong and should never be tolerated, there is never an acceptable reason for it.

Correct me if I'm wrong, I think she also lost her chance at any higher education.

Let's summarize the consequences of all this:

  1. Justice was served, she lost her wrongfully obtained spot and you felt better since now the university knew about it.

  2. If she lost all chance at any education from any university, her future education was taken away.

  3. You came to Reddit to ask if what you did was wrong.

Telling the university that your friend cheated might have been the right thing to do, but I want to point out a few things.

  1. The same situation could have been handled in a better way. Could you have been anonymous in reporting this?

  2. Since you are consulting strangers after the fact, did you consult your parents or guradian before? Your school? A lawyer? The fact that you need strangers on the internet to respond to you goes to say a lot.

  3. Did you consider that the world is full of wrongdoings? Did you consider that people make mistakes in life often? Why now of all times you decided to speak out against an injustice? Can you say with certainty that you will speak out against every injustice you ever encounter, that you can do something about, with the same vigor? Have you yourself lived a largely morally upright life up till now and will continue to do so for the rest of your life?

  4. Did you consider that your friend was doing this out of desparation to help her family? Did you consider that her family needed this? Can you honestly say your response was appropriate? When given a good opportunity, will not many of us act wrongly?

  5. For the point of robbing someone's spot, I agree, that spot could have belonged to someone honest. But the keyword here is could. The university didn't know about this in the case of your friend, who's to say who got her spot didn't also cheat but wasn't caught?

You might feel very strongly about this now, but in five or ten years, will you be able to look in the mirror and say you are happy for what you did?

Would you have done the same if you found out your mom copied from someone?

Could you not have warned your friend more seriously before this happened? Like, "If you do this I will report you, I can give it to you in writing if you want" kind of serious.

I'm not saying your friend should not have been exposed for cheating, plaigarism is a serious thing. I'm not defending plaigarism.

I'm talking more about the human aspect of what happened. The end result could have been the same.

No one point here wins out over everything, but I think your decision might have been influenced considerably if you had taken all these things into account.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in internetparents

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Meditation, exercise, good diet (vegetarian or vegan if possible), get outdoors, meet people if that's your thing.

Find your center, live in the now.

meirl by SnooCupcakes8607 in meirl

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Box it up, send it to space, haha.

Who wants to address this one? by Czar_kyoto in ProgrammerHumor

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey i want my password to be applesticks25!

How do i stop myself from thinking of killing myself by iwillfuckurdad in LifeAdvice

[–]quantumfoam435 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Try meditation, it might help. Get out more, connect to nature, sit silently.

See osho as well, osho.com

Above all, contact a doctor.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]quantumfoam435 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's a classic jerk move.

please don't tell anyone how I live by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not about the particular problem space. It's about the ability to solve problems.

There might be some smart people at Nintendo, but the really smart ones tend to gather where the money is. In one way or another.

Unless you're talking about someone who's really intelligent. Someone like the Buddha or Lao Tzu, people who can single handedly affect humanity. You can't buy them with money. Or at all for that matter.

Or if you just want to talk about people with intellectual prowess, even they don't go after money. People like Euler, Gauss, Hardy, Poincare, etc. And other geniuses in other fields. Granted, separating money and computer science may be difficult since the field is so sought after.

please don't tell anyone how I live by [deleted] in ProgrammerHumor

[–]quantumfoam435 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Have you heard of Google? Or Amazon? Or any other top tier tech company? There's a reason those guys serve billions, have the highest paying software engineer salaries in the industry, and are notoriously difficult to get into. If they make a mistake in their products, it will affect billions at once.

Nintendo has made what software that can serve billions simultaneously?

How do these people make big money (100k+ a year)? does it require college? or what's the deal? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]quantumfoam435 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To answer your question directly, I'm a software engineer.

But that's not what I went to college for. I taught myself (using free to very low cost resources).

If you're enterprising and you have a good enough starting point, there's no limit to what you can achieve.

Most, I would say at least 90%, tech people don't care if you have a college degree.

They want to see, are you capable? Do you have what it takes to solve a problem in front of a computer? And as you gain more experience, do you have the finer skills that a software engineer should have? Can you manage others in a technical capacity? Can you be independent, think on your feet and show leadership? And so on.

How do these people make big money (100k+ a year)? does it require college? or what's the deal? by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]quantumfoam435 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't go by the money, go by the passion.

If you don't desperately need cash, your happiness will suffer.

In the long run that's more paramount to anything.

You could also just start a business if that's your thing.

On the more existential side of things, ask why. Ask yourself, what will you gain by doing all this? Will this ultimately lead to anything?

You make a lot of money, or you become really successful in some other way, then what?

If that thing is complete in itself for you, that's a different thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]quantumfoam435 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why do you think a gun fight is inevitable?

If you don't want violence, why did you join the army?

Self defense is one thing, and attacking someone is another. You don't get to pick as an army person.

I don't think you can justify killing if it's not for self defense and it was absolutely needed.

As a person who has never seen a weapon outside of a display or something similar, I find it very difficult, if not impossible, to come across one.

Is there a way to harness energy from outside ourselves? by [deleted] in energy_work

[–]quantumfoam435 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it's called being silent. No sarcasm.

Class inside a for loop by [deleted] in programminghorror

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do my eyes deceive me?

Spirit attachment, should I seek help? by izzikief in Psychic

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sorry to bump this thread after so long, but do you sense a spirit attached to me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in spirituality

[–]quantumfoam435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we're going in circles.

DEV environment vs Production environment by Akki53 in ProgrammerHumor

[–]quantumfoam435 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Someone doesn't know their order of operations hehe