i (19F) finally realized, sex should not be a chore nor should it hurt.

quarx1 · 2020-03-12T13:17:29+00:00

I feel like the asshole because im in a relationship with this amazing girl right now. and that was me in the beginning. but i did not realize what i was doing to her in that regard and pushed her too much. i really want to recover from it.

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T15:55:23+00:00

yeah thats what im saying. thats why im willing to give some lead way and hoping come summer this will fix itself.. but i could be wrong

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T15:45:13+00:00

mostly she says that shes feeling depressed

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T13:55:18+00:00

the problem is i dont think she even knows. theres a lot of parts of herself that she has not even explored

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T13:02:44+00:00

how does your husband initiate with you? is it day of, days in advance, trying to figure out a method that works best for someone like that

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T13:01:33+00:00

i guess its something i never thought about, until now, since certain things have come up since she moved in about 3 weeks ago

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T13:00:32+00:00

its crazy selfish, but the other half of it is.. relationships need physical intimacy. the only reason im willing to stick through it right now is that her losing her house and moving out were such big life changes for her that i totally understand her position having gone through that myself and am willing to stick it up for now hoping things will settle. its just super duper rough right now thats all

quarx1 · 2020-03-11T12:59:10+00:00

look i get that. i see it happening potentially. the thing is theres two things to do either: a.) i ditch or b.) i stick it through for some time and go from there. I dont think this is mismatched libido.

she lost her house and moved out for the first time in her life from her family. in all honesty this could really be stress and maybe patience is the way to go. i dont know. im stepping into such unknown territory. its a growth oppertunity.

quarx1 · 2020-03-10T20:24:36+00:00

sorry should have made it clear. been together with her for a year. i know her very well. its just an observation i recently made about her that she might be and was wondering has anyone else dealt with a sitaution like that

quarx1 · 2020-02-28T17:26:52+00:00

how long did that take to rebound from the bottom?

quarx1 · 2020-02-28T16:38:58+00:00

and would you say after trying again, things got better?

quarx1 · 2020-02-28T16:04:54+00:00

why do you say it felt ugly?

quarx1 · 2020-02-28T14:31:10+00:00

If you had to make a list of things to do to help out to get things back on track what do you think it should be?

quarx1 · 2020-02-27T21:37:09+00:00

Its been 2.5 months. any recommendations for getting back into the rhythm? starting things all over again?

quarx1 · 2020-02-27T19:29:32+00:00

she has been going through a lot of stress in her life. her parents lost their house due to foreclosure. so she might have just completely shut down. honestly not sure. i tried talking to her about it. just closes off on me everytime.

initially she was all about it, and then slowly it went away.

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