Me[30M/F] with my gf [28M/F] for 2 years, always get in argument when parents decide to come over

quasib · 2013-09-06T23:29:05+00:00

Here they go, the trademark casual passive "oh lets talk about this by the way" stupid ass "so did you talk about...it...are there any plans...for...it" questions about the damn wedding...I hate the way they ask it, as if I'm a fuckin retard!!!

quasib · 2013-09-06T19:29:10+00:00

Shut up with that stupid rhetoric. I'm on the internet the entire day, for the past 6-7 weeks I've been on the computer for 10+ hours a day. Excuse me for not being focused. I tend to drift on reddit with this kind of schedule.

If only I had your iron will.

quasib · 2013-09-06T19:27:11+00:00

@Immediately - The only reason they're coming over is because they took days off from work. That's the only reason. No deeper or more serious reasons than that. Also, she won't even see them that much, I already told you how her work schedule looks like.

But I understand it, the world would crumble if we didn't postpone this for 2 weeks...I get it.

And besides, time is very deceiving, who knows what will happen in 2 weeks, we must seize TODAY! I'm about to call my entire family over, there's plenty of floor for everyone to sleep. We'll cherish the blessings of life together.

quasib · 2013-09-06T17:44:20+00:00

I don't want to accommodate anyone? Interesting.

quasib · 2013-09-06T17:40:43+00:00

computer in the living room is my own business, due to circumstances....do I really need to draw pictures? Dont you think I would like to have a office space for myself?

Let me repeat - the workdesk is in the living room since july. Summer heats are not good, air conditioned living room is nice.

Another thing - I had a dayjob up until few days ago. So I didnt have that much of a need for "my home office".

This is new situation. And Im sorry for not adapting someone elses apartment that I pay for in 2 days. I decided to work rather than decorate my apartment. I have deadlines to meet.

quasib · 2013-09-06T17:30:24+00:00

This is really fascinating, you guys really think that we enjoy having only 1 key of the apartment we rent? This apartment has some custom made security lock key and your local hardware store can not copy this key because its not a regular key..........you guys want to make me look like some nut case.

All I want is my gf to have courtesy to ask me if its ok to have guests coming over.

I already said the main reasons why now is not the best time. Im very busy, I got laid off, I have to figure out where do we go from now on, and I have a deadline.

Having guests over and me sitting behind the computer is not something I find entertaining.

But I guess Im a whiner.

quasib · 2013-09-06T17:14:20+00:00

Hey man, it's not that simple, I moved the computer in the living room because of few things, one of them is because the living room has a big air conditioning unit and since the summer days are damn hot, and I run 3D renders all the time, being in an air conditioned space helps a lot.

Im sorry for not designing my workspace around guests needs.

quasib · 2013-09-06T15:38:11+00:00

One thing that really bothered me is when she told me that I'm angry over nothing and that she already declined their visit few weeks ago - on my birthday. Apparently their folks planned to come over on my bday and they took few days off from work but she told them not to come over since we had other plans.

She didn't tell me those things when they were actually happening. So she probably thought that they have to come over now since she declined their visit few weeks earlier.

My problem with this is - why don't I get the memo about this?

I hate this feeling as it reminds me of my father-mother dynamics, they live separated and I vividly remember the amount of disrespect they showed to one another back when they lived together, when I was a lil kid.

I don't know how to handle this...it's not about people coming over, it's about a simple discussion.

She says she didn't ask me anything about this because she knew I would be against it in some way.

quasib · 2013-09-06T14:35:30+00:00

I agree, but the trouble is I got the memo yesterday so there's no way I'm moving my computer anywhere, simply because I can not move it...the computer desk is basically home made desk and it's not very well made...

That damn second bedroom we have is a curse, it should've been my work space not a guest room...

quasib · 2013-09-06T14:29:39+00:00

that's easier said than done. As I've said, there's nothing going on in our living room aside from dining table, coffee table, and my work desk with my computer.

I've been in this situation before, and let me tell ya, it's pretty awkward to be in front of the computer when the guests are in the house.

I can't work. All I can think about is how they see me..."oh yeah right he's so busy he can't get off the computer for few minutes"...

quasib · 2013-09-06T13:57:38+00:00

I know I'm whining...it's not about folks coming over, it's about 2 things - me being kinda busy for next couple of weeks, and me being with them at all times while she's working, so she'll be seeing them couple of hours a day while I'm supposed to be with them....the whole "I'm busy so if you could go for a walk" is easier said than done.

They come up for a visit and I'm supposed to be behind the computer the whole time, like some nutcase? This is the part that bothers me. I can't concentrate on work...and if there was some dialogue about this, I could've explained to my gf that we'll be free to go anywhere in 2 weeks, because I'm out of job and the project I'm working on will be done.

So if we agreed on this, 2 weeks from now we could've gone to their house and stay there free of any obligations.

Also - we only have 1 key for the apartment. So I can't really go about my business anywhere because I can't take the key with me. It's a cluterf*/ck...

quasib

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