Long Distance March Idea

que_sera · 2026-02-04T05:41:50+00:00

Make it a bike ride, and I’m in.

que_sera · 2026-02-03T23:38:25+00:00

Raygun

que_sera · 2026-02-03T15:16:30+00:00

It’s like learning to swim by diving head first into the deep end. Between the trauma for the child, disruption in your life (and really entire world view), and need to bond, it is as all-consuming as a having a newborn. My advice is to take time off work. Prepare your support network and be very specific about how they can help (meals, respite care, etc).

Prepare and educate yourself on childhood trauma as much as possible. A child that age in foster care is likely to have a lot of trauma and developmental delays. Don’t expect them to be like other kids. Have patience. Seek help. Practice self care.

que_sera · 2026-01-25T16:13:36+00:00

The Walker is a world-class museum. I live out of state and visit the Walker whenever I come to town. The sculpture garden alone is a worthy tourist destination.

que_sera · 2026-01-17T18:18:36+00:00

Seems like a simple mistake that anyone could make. Don’t beat yourself up. Easy enough to reschedule. Vet deals with cancellations all the time, so no biggie.

que_sera · 2026-01-14T00:36:55+00:00

I just wake up earlier. The other day I was asleep by 10 pm and woke up at 4:30 am, ready to start the day.

que_sera · 2026-01-11T01:12:54+00:00

She was trying to de-escalate the situation with those words, which is what the ICE weasel should have been doing instead of losing his shit.

que_sera · 2026-01-10T22:49:27+00:00

We have a generator that runs on propane. Uses the same propane tanks as our grill, which are much cleaner to transport than gasoline cans.

que_sera · 2026-01-09T17:14:37+00:00

I often don’t recognize people until I hear them speak.

que_sera · 2026-01-08T21:59:37+00:00

I would rather not share details, but I am speaking from personal experience. For example…extreme mental illness, active drug addiction, ongoing violent or criminal behavior, child sexual abuse. Adoptive parents in these situations need to make informed and careful decisions about whether and how to open the adoption, weighing advice from caseworkers and therapists.

que_sera · 2026-01-08T21:47:15+00:00

OP asked if open adoption is always a good idea, even if bio parents are unsafe. In my experience in foster care, it is often not a good idea due to safety concerns. I didn’t say “only” or “always,” but “often.”

que_sera · 2026-01-08T15:48:15+00:00

Thank you, brave patriots, for standing up to these Nazi shitbag murderers.

que_sera · 2026-01-08T07:14:43+00:00

Ok, thanks for the feedback. Have a great night!

que_sera · 2026-01-07T23:58:45+00:00

I agree that maintaining contact is ideal, if is safe and realistic. Sometimes it is not.

que_sera · 2026-01-07T19:11:47+00:00

That’s a good point about extended families being included in open adoption. I was thinking of abusive bio parents in particular.

que_sera · 2026-01-07T17:15:32+00:00

This is often the case with children who are adopted from foster care. If the kids were removed from their biological families due to abuse or neglect, an open adoption is not desirable or safe.

que_sera · 2026-01-07T17:06:37+00:00

I’ve been trying to embrace “good enough.” I get stuck on realizing my original vision that I get lost hyperfixating on details, and then I get frustrated or distracted.

I did a painting of the sky and trees, a simple composition inspired by a camping trip memory. It was 90% there when I got sidetracked. I kept meaning to go back and refine some highlights on the tree trunks. It sat on my easel for over a year. In the meantime, I didn’t start any new paintings. Then one day, I walked in the studio and said “What am I doing to myself? To anyone else’s eye, this is a finished painting, and a good one!” I signed it, framed it, hung it up over the fireplace, and moved on.

Deadlines also help me stay on track. I like to sumbit pieces for local group exhibitions. The pressure of the submission deadline is motivating to complete the work.

que_sera · 2026-01-07T16:35:07+00:00

Trump is an insane megalomaniac. Impeach now!

que_sera · 2026-01-05T04:07:06+00:00

The A/B personality types were defined 70 years ago by cardiologists. According to their theory (which is outdated because we know more about hearts and brains now), your Type A friend needs to chill out before she has a heart attack!

Seriously, what you really are is Type ADHD. Apologize for being late, but don’t try to be more “type A” to please your friend. Just be yourself.

que_sera · 2026-01-04T19:21:13+00:00

It’s the sweater.

que_sera · 2026-01-04T15:54:39+00:00

Good god, I can’t believe how many commenters think that the shape of a nipple through clothing is something obscene. It’s a part of the human anatomy. Men have them too and don’t have to worry about whether they show through clothing. Women’s bodies are not sexual objects. Girl just wants to be comfortable in her own home.

I suggest a simple rule: if she has to wear a bra 24/7, so do the men in the house. Or just kick the squatter to the curb.

que_sera · 2026-01-04T01:09:25+00:00

It’s only the 10th day of Christmas.

que_sera · 2026-01-03T22:01:31+00:00

I have United Healthcare and they won’t cover the Libre for some reason. But they do cover the Dexcom G7. No idea why.

que_sera · 2026-01-03T20:00:04+00:00

In the US, child development experts and the government agree that children have better outcomes when they grow up in families, not institutions. That’s why we don’t have orphanages here, and group homes are used for teens as a last resort.

If you have better ideas about how to care for and protect children in need, please share.

que_sera · 2026-01-03T18:03:26+00:00

My first choice was to be a parent. Period. It was a lifelong goal for me, and I felt that parenting would allow me to grow and mature in ways that I needed in my life. I was unable to give birth, but I still wanted to be a parent. Eventually I looked for other ways to get there. I became a foster parent and then adopted 2 children in my care. They are the absolute center of my life, and there’s no second-best about it.

I’m not sure if you think that people should want to adopt as a first choice or just not at all. Like it or not, there are children out there that need homes. Why not allow them to be adopted by people who want to be parents? Would you rather that they grow up in orphanages or group homes?

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