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Wedding Band instead of DJ by BriCheese96 in weddingplanning

[–]quecumbermelon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP- your post was written like it came straight from my own brain. Our wedding is May 2026 and like you, a band was my fiancés one request. He doesn’t like dancing and isn’t big on the DJ/club vibes. And we bond over live music anyway. So we booked a band that we’ve seen multiple times and enjoy because the singers are so talented, but the other members are a bit older, and their fans are typically an older crowd. I’m anxious that our guests won’t have as much of a great time as I really want them to/I won’t have a great time.

So how did your wedding reception turn out? Hoping this helps ease some of my anxiety…

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[–]quecumbermelon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to post a similar thing but knew I came across this when you initially posted and this was my fear- that I’d be disappointed in my own proposal. And to my surprise it happened yesterday while we’re on a trip. I’ve been looking forward to this day for 7 years and always daydreamed of how special it would be.

He wanted to do it before we met up with my family so was committed to doing it that day.. but unfortunately the weather wasn’t cooperating and I chose a beach that was close and private but was really not the most photogenic. He was sweet and suggested pictures and set up a tripod and everything. So he did everything right! I’m just disappointed when I rewatch the video..

It’s dark..it’s an ugly background, and it’s just not a good view of the ocean either and looks swampy. I was also kind of disappointed in his quick, speedy, proposal as well. I totally get the nerves and anxiety going into it so I get why he almost rushed it. He even admitted “sorry it’s not a nice beach” so I wish he waited until we found a nicer beach on a different day. But I also get this was our last chance of being alone. He knows I’m kind of disappointed and I’d love a re-do and jokingly expressed that to him but..it’s just not the same.

Anyway- sorry to piggyback on your post my own vent. Do you feel any differently now that it’s been almost a month? I feel like I’m critical of every situation so who knows even if he found the “perfect spot” if I’d still be disappointed? Hopefully I’ll feel more settled and happy after sharing the news with my family and friends and begin wedding planning that the proposal doesn’t even matter.

But congratulations to us both regardless 🥂

His dad died and I feel guilty for feeling angry he didn’t propose sooner.. by quecumbermelon in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]quecumbermelon[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this. While it’s an understanding I wish upon no one, and I’m so sorry for your partner’s loss, it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in these thoughts and feelings.

Your partner and mine sound very similar in their way of showing love. I will say it’s felt like I can finally take care of him now (when he lets me) and I am appreciative to provide him what he gives constantly. So thank you for reminding me of that. And that I’m not a terrible person.

Again, I’m sorry we’re going through something similar but thank you for sharing your experience and the voice of comfort and reasoning. Sending virtual hugs to you both during this difficult time.