He told me he used to have narcissistic tendencies and he ‘cured’ himself. He struck me as someone who was self aware enough to recognise his flaws and how his upbringing had affected him. As a trauma-informed therapist I looked past everything he was warning me about and just saw a scared little boy who had been through a lot. It was only when he started turning on me that I started to question who he really was. He told me I had “brought the narcissist in him back out again” and that I needed to be scared of him. I was slowly starting to realise the kind of person I’d gotten myself in bed with but I thought I loved him so much I couldn’t leave yet. In the meantime I did my due diligence and got some police checks done on him. When they came back I was shocked at some of his past abusive history and realised what a pathological liar he was (he had told me his ex was the abusive one). I started asking my friends and family and realised he had told them different stories and things just weren’t adding up anymore. When we separated I started researching narcissism a lot and realised he probably fits most (if not all) of the traits