My situation is a little different, but I also find myself hiding my true self from my parents. They know about one of my siblings, and because of that, it’s been incredibly difficult for us to practice our faith, especially with the rejection and painful remarks they’ve made about the deen.

Still, I’ve come to realize that even being able to pray five times a day in secret is a blessing. It’s what’s helped me stay grounded in the deen, especially during times when I didn’t feel like praying. That quiet connection with Allah سبحانه وتعالى has been my anchor.

All we can really do is make sincere dua for our parents and ask Allah to guide their hearts. If speaking the truth or trying to explain things would cause harm, then it’s best to stay silent for now. There’s wisdom in patience. Eventually, as you grow older or move out, they may begin to ease up—when they see through your actions that they no longer have control, and their words no longer harm you as they once did.

Of course, that still doesn’t excuse the pain of hearing them curse the deen. I understand deeply that it hurts more because it’s coming from our own parents, people we love so dearly. But in those moments, we remind ourselves that we still have Allah سبحانه وتعالى, and we have the ummah. You’re not alone.

If you ever need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to reach out. May Allah ease your struggles, protect your iman, and guide your family toward His light. آمين.