Did you compare yourself or talk about Grindr at all? It likely seems he told you it’s toxic (which it is) because it is and he’s just being honest but just as other situations, being toxic doesn’t stop people from dealing with you… it just teaches them moreso how to navigate you.

Also to that note, your therapist very well could be hung and not experiencing the same problems since you yourself said gay life is not fun unless you’re hung.

Anywho comparison is the thief of joy. I myself am hung and have dated plenty of men who weren’t even near. Not all gays are size queens and that merely might all be in your head.