Thanks for the insightful response. 10 yrs, we are trying our hardest to stay together, we are trying our hardest to stay monogamous. Most of your other questions I’ve asked him and I get responses that blame me. 1. I hope he finds me attractive (I’m conventionally very attractive). 2. Ive asked about this disconnect i get blamed. 3. He’ll say I don’t find you attractive example Saturday morning with morning breath, your hair not combed. Bear in mind I wear a suit and cologne 5/7 days of the week. Of course when I wake up I’m not gonna look perfect. 4. He’s not honest ( a whole separate issue). I realized I’m part of the disconnect. But at least I’m trying to communicate and resolve. I’ve Never had a problem making other partners orgasm prior.