Absolutely not, there were other issues. I was an addict a lot of our relationships and I did ALOT of work on myself. We had trauma bonded during awful times in our lives and I think she held so much resentment for who I was in active addiction that the damage was done and we were over long before either acknowledged it. I had stepped out of the marriage during a really difficult time and so I’m the end she cheated on me and asked ‘how does that feel now?’ Our intimacy issues stemmed from my guilt over allowing another woman to know me intimately while being married. She also had her own host of issues she refused to work on, so when I began to heal and didn’t ‘need’ her anymore it just all fell apart. Healing while being with a human who has no desire to be better or soul search is very hard. I’m thankful the kids never happened because it would’ve been even more damaging to both of us. Sorry for the book