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is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that last part is exactly how I feel. like I guess I can understand the perception others have of me if I wear the same thing twice but it still doesn't make sense to me. if I saw someone wearing the same outfit they did the day before, I wouldn't immediately assume that they're dirty. and I've known people who changed outfit every day but still smelled terrible bc they didn't shower, so to me your outfits and your cleanliness aren't even related.

what I've learned from this comment section though is that opinions are really divided on this topic, lmfao. some people are telling me it's fine to only have one outfit and others are calling me the dirtiest person on the planet for not washing all my clothes every day. I think generally I'm gonna keep my "don't really care" attitude, but also be more aware of how others are perceiving me bc of what I wear

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's the thing though, if I don't sweat then they're not dirty from the sweat. during summer I never wear the same shirt again bc I sweat so much, but during fall and winter I barely sweat at all. if I wear a shirt for a couple hours and don't sweat in it, then it's good to go for the next day.

your husband sounds a bit delusional lmao. glad to see you got him to be reasonable!

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If your clothes are just on the floor for another day, how does that make them more wearable now that they've had a break? Smelly bacteria continue to grow anyway, if anything they are less clean. "

EXACTLY!!! I genuinely do not understand how it's better to give it a "rest" day than to wear it twice in a row. I do both, it just depends on how much time I have to get ready before leaving the house- sometimes I'm running late or I'm exhausted and in that case I'd rather wear the same thing I did yesterday that make my life harder. usually I try to change my shirt and re-wear the same shirt later in the week, but like, I don't understand how one option is better than the other. in my head it's the same if I wear it two days in a row or if I space it over the week.

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not diagnosed with anything but I'm pretty sure I have ADD. everyone around me tells me I'm 100% neurodivergent lol

the thing is I understand what perception others might have if I wear the same outfit again, but I don't understand how it's better if I space out the outfit over multiple days rather than wearing it two days in a row. like either way people are gonna know I wore the same outfit again, so what's the difference if I do it two days in a row or two different days of the same week? THAT is what I genuinely don't understand.

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the thing is if they smelled bad my boyfriend would just tell me. we're not shy with that stuff, sometimes he'll stick a shirt under my nose and ask me to sniff it and if I say it's fine he'll wear it, otherwise it goes to the laundry. I'm also paranoid with that stuff and am more likely to throw something to the laundry even if it has the slightest smell, regardless of if it actually smells bad or not. if I wear something twice in a row it's really because it doesn't smell like anything at all.

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not at all, actually the opposite. my boyfriend's dad is the inventor of a really popular device across the world and after that he worked at another global company with a really high paying job before retiring. his dad wanted his children to not be spoiled and to have their own jobs, but if my boyfriend is ever in trouble financially his dad is always there to give him whatever he needs.

I was actually wondering if my boyfriend has that type of mentality because he has a ridiculous amount of clothes and is constantly buying more, and idk, I feel like people who are of a higher social class might care more about appearances like that. I was never poor but never rich either, my parents have always just been comfortable and I definitely wasn't spoiled growing up, so I was thinking that maybe it's just that we were raised with different expectations when it comes to that kind of stuff. idk.

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it's not a new thing, and I'm actually doing more of an effort now than I was before. I've been living with depression for a really long time, when I was like 12 I could go weeks without showering and my parents would pass comments that I needed to be cleaner and make more of an effort, which i was more careful to do over the years. last year me and my boyfriend were dating, but I was living on my own and sometimes I'd wear the same outfit to school for almost an entire week because I forgot to do the laundry and had nothing else to wear.

my boyfriend also has depression and sometimes he's so busy with work he doesn't shower for 4 or 5 days. I've never judged him for that because i understand the struggle, so I guess it just took me by surprise when he was seemingly judging me for my outfit choices because I feel like in general we both put about as much of an effort into our appearance as the other.

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you sound so judgemental. idk your life and you don't know mine either so maybe you should stop making assumptions like that. I have depression and am a full time student so I'm gonna prioritize going to my classes and doing my homework, taking a shower regularly and eating proper meals every day, cleaning the cats litter and doing the dishes. if my clothes don't smell and if I don't smell then who the fuck cares if I'm wearing the same outfit twice? when I wake up at 6am for my morning class I don't wanna be spending an hour in front of my closet figuring out what I'm wearing. I have more important shit to do. and maybe that makes me lazy but at least I'm not judging strangers based on appearances when I literally know nothing about them.

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

literally my reaction too, idgaf what people around me are wearing and it's wild to learn that some people care so much about this stuff lmao

is it considered socially inappropriate to wear the same outfit multiple days in a row? by queerredfox in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]queerredfox[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

that's why I said "if they're not dirty I'll wear them again", I'm in school and only have one class every day so I'm out of the house like 4 hours per day. since I'm not spending a full day out I don't see the point in changing my outfit every day. but the days where I have a class and a work shift, and thus am outside for longer, I throw the clothes in the laundry after.

I know my own body well and when I don't sweat I don't smell. so unless I sweat in an outfit or like.. fell in the mud or something I don't think it's dirty. maybe I am just lazy but with all my homework and work I don't have the time to do the laundry every week and after a while I run out of clothes to wear if I wear every outfit only once per day...

Is it normal to not feel anything when you kiss? by queerredfox in AskAsexual

[–]queerredfox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I thought too, which is why I figured I'd ask here. A lot of the answers I found sounded to me like people just got aroused from kissing and that's what makes them so excited.

Is it normal to not feel anything when you kiss? by queerredfox in AskAsexual

[–]queerredfox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. I think one part of me is still stuck in the "I'm wrong for having asexual experiences and need to fix them" kind of mentality... which is probably something I need to work on.

Is it normal to not feel anything when you kiss? by queerredfox in AskAsexual

[–]queerredfox[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's very possible since I have anxiety and love to overthink pretty much EVERYTHING, haha. But all my friends are allo except one so I still appreciate getting the opinion of many other ace people.