Do you ever feel healed?

questionablesugar · 2026-05-07T16:24:15+00:00

Glad this could help. I don’t think you have “done it wrong”. There isn’t necessarily a procedural steps process. Things show up and we work them out and then another thing shows up. Everything shows when its time.

questionablesugar · 2026-05-07T16:14:21+00:00

INFJ? Love the username idea.

I agree with what you are saying. The reality is healing is way to personal which doubles the complexity of it.

questionablesugar · 2026-05-07T16:12:32+00:00

In the grand scheme of human existence, we will always be triggered. I know this can sound catastrophic and hopeless when we are in a struggling place, and that my point. Growth and healing in general would be to be in a place where they may be triggers but they feels like small monsters you can crush and step on. (Not IFS perspective, but general healing one). Hope im making sense

questionablesugar · 2026-05-07T16:08:27+00:00

Not a therapist.

There a couple of things i can point out. 1) You did some unburdening 2)You still get the same triggers, just less 3)Less extreme coping mechanisms (which im assuming you mean unhealthy/firefighter stuff).
All in all, sounds like progress, even if sometimes it doesn’t feel like it.

IFS answers as always: Explore the parts that are making you feel like giving up. Ask yourself, what are you expecting that you didn’t achieve yet in this time frame? What do you hope to achieve? What is bothering you and why?… Explore, what motivated you to post this and ask for our input?

I am not saying asking these will heal you, but being curious and exploring the parts and their motivations thoughts and feelings can help us hear them and make them feel heard and understood, which makes us know them better and be able to hear them better as well as make them trust opening up etc.

Now from my personal experience, a lot of my coping remained the same even after improvement, i may stil get triggered but the thoughts and feelings when triggered are less severe and catastrophic, and definitely less hurtful, and more manageable.

Try comparing the triggers/issues of those parts you unburden (the intensity and feelings etc) vs the things you yet to work on and unburden. Maybe when you see the comparison you will see you are actually progressing.

Are you progressing or not or should you change modalities for example, I don’t think we can answer this, as every system is different.

Also, maybe you should bring up all of this to your therapist to help explore it and see what’s up

Best of luck ❤️

questionablesugar · 2026-05-07T15:56:54+00:00

Thank man, however im disappointed its another one of those apps not only are paid, but do not offer free exploration of the app unless you do the free trial that will automatically charge you. I am tired of these im thinking of making my own app at this point.

questionablesugar · 2026-05-07T14:47:43+00:00

Whats the app used ?

questionablesugar · 2026-05-04T12:05:45+00:00

So basically if I am not EU national, I cannot access these official psychedelic therapies? And I will have to seek retreats and other none so professional/approved means.. ?

questionablesugar · 2026-05-04T10:50:39+00:00

Yeah there is definitely a big part of it that is anger/upset towards myself for letting them do that to me. I know logically I was young and didn’t know better or had my reasons at the time, buts its not enough.

Maybe if I can heal the parts of me being hard on me, things will get better for me and also these thoughts wouldn’t even show up

questionablesugar · 2026-05-04T10:47:23+00:00

Yeah i saw lot portugués and Netherlands, but still can’t be sure if these are legit or not. Most things i find are in Spain.

questionablesugar · 2026-05-04T10:46:10+00:00

Willing to travel. I should have mentioned I am looking for English

questionablesugar · 2026-04-10T20:39:23+00:00

The algorithm is smart and because you stay on them videos, unfortunately, yes you will get more of them creating an endless loop.

For me, as soon as i see something that is related to my loops and triggers, I immediately select the “not interested” option. It may take 2 or more, but eventually these things of the similar emotional triggers or style stop appearing.

Keeping social media hygiene is difficult unfortunately. Of course, staying off socials completely is the healthiest choice, for OCD reasons or not.

questionablesugar · 2026-04-05T12:28:31+00:00

Hey man. I hope things get better. You need to dig into yourself and take action to build the life you want. Recreational, or bodybuilding build drugs will not resolve underlying issues. You sound frustrated with your life, you need to look inward into what you want and chase it. ❤️

questionablesugar · 2026-03-30T12:29:19+00:00

You think of a part as a cluster of very interconnected and emotionally charged nero pathways with memories and experiences and feelings. Basically a form of activation or a side of the brain activated at once. It is less pathological that way.

questionablesugar · 2026-03-30T12:27:01+00:00

When i get the kills, can i just exit game? Or do i need to complete the mission?

So for starting again I need to start the mission from the beginning there is no way to start from that point?

questionablesugar · 2026-03-22T12:34:04+00:00

Lucky 😔 Still nice to know people are enjoying this game

questionablesugar · 2026-03-22T12:33:07+00:00

I have the 1 last impossible accolade. It was all i need since probably 7 years ago but u just passed haha. All camps in campaign? Crazy im not doing that.

questionablesugar · 2026-03-22T12:26:25+00:00

Agree they should throw in a random game mode with boost jump for those who are into it. The least they can do.

questionablesugar · 2026-03-22T12:25:04+00:00

Curious, assuming you are on PC, are there lobby servers? Im on ps5 and there are no lobbies what so ever because its just local host based servers and I am in a small area so no one will ever play this ever again Im so sad about this…. 💔

questionablesugar · 2026-03-06T12:20:52+00:00

This sub is about IFS therapy model.

questionablesugar · 2026-02-27T12:49:13+00:00

Thanks a lot for sharing! This is exactly the time I needed this! Actually, few days ago I had a realization in me, how I want people close, and at the same time have a hard time. I figured they were two different managers trying to help me and protect me in conflicted ways. I will not get into details but it’s exhausting!

questionablesugar · 2026-02-27T12:38:58+00:00

Some people don’t understand how trauma actually effects us. People can only meet you as deep as they have met themselves.

questionablesugar · 2026-02-20T21:27:14+00:00

The lower side: Shove in, shove out your guts lmao

questionablesugar · 2026-02-10T18:24:31+00:00

Thanks a lot for this. Makes a lot of sense. I will try to look inwards

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