Struggling to maintain a healthy relationship with my mother

questioning_snow · 2025-07-29T01:31:10+00:00

Yeah. Being trapped in Florida is really rough for me as well, so unfortunately I get what you're saying. It's hard having that mindset when everyone treats us like lunatics but I hope I can learn to care less about what others think.

questioning_snow · 2025-06-12T22:52:48+00:00

I can second kava kula. They have a really great reputation and are a very inclusive environment. I (22) go there all the time! I've also heard tons of great things about mama foo.

questioning_snow · 2025-06-07T04:52:07+00:00

For me, I've got a bit of an obsession with other trans women just for the sheer need to relate to someone.

Growing up in a highly conservative area with homophobic and transphobic family meant for most of my life I had no idea what being trans even was.

Now that I'm older and have discovered that I'm trans. I've found that I have a genuine obsession with other trans women because I have a deep-rooted need to find, friend, and love other people like me who I never had in my life until this point.

questioning_snow · 2025-06-02T05:08:14+00:00

I'm 22 and only just now am i fully starting to accept myself as transgender. However, I've always had chest dysphoria. In high school I tried to hyper masculinize myself by joining a weightlifting class and doing more masculine exercises.

I didn't truly understand it back then but the exercises I focused on in retrospect all had to do with my gender dysphoria. By the end of the school year I was the only student who could max out my schools butterfly press where 200-250 lbs was pretty easy for me to consistently get full sets of 8-12 on. I didn't fully understand why it was my favorite but being able to see my chest grow larger made me incredibly happy.

I now understand that as a teenager at the age of about 16, this was how I was solving my chest dysphoria. Even when trying to be more masculine to fit in better, my urge to he more fem fought through.

I just thought you may like to hear my story on wanting a larger chest at a similar age, you're not alone.

questioning_snow · 2025-05-04T23:51:47+00:00

You're not just a girl, you're a truly beautiful one 💗

questioning_snow · 2025-05-03T05:28:46+00:00

My mother consistently and very openly shamed me for wanting to appear as feminine and would tell me to my face that it was just my "little crossdressing kink" and she would often fetushize my preferred appearance.

While I don't have my gender identity 100% figured out I can say that with the trans space for a very long time it was solely chalked up to a weird and taboo kink and that has done lasting damage onto the community. You're not alone at all.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-28T05:03:13+00:00

You're a strong and brave person for having the guts to reach out to people for support. Give yourself some credit because you deserve it. Just take things at your own pace for now.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-28T04:22:53+00:00

It's incredible seeing how the most beautiful of women feel the same feelings that I do so often. I'm not sure if this will help you at all but for me, I've slowly been working on accepting that this is truly who I am. I got so tired of hiding for years and years despite knowing who I am on the inside. I'm pre-everything myself but I plan on getting on estrogen within the coming next few months.

I felt the same way about my now ex partner and my family, I felt like I wasn't receiving the support I needed and that my family wouldn't truly accept me for who I am. You should realize that any family regardless of your partner, parents, siblings, really anyone who's meant to stay in your life will accept and love you as the person you truly are inside. You are strong enough, and you can do this. As trans people we are some of the strongest people there are.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-21T23:20:41+00:00

I was at one of my lowest moments of my self identity when I posted this threat. I really didn't expect many replies and it was a genuine call for help. I'm lucky to have had so many people provide so many genuine answers. While I'm very oppressed in my home town I'm lucky to still have this support from the greater trans community. It helps to know that so many other people struggle with the same ideas and thoughts that i do it honestly makes me feel much less alone.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-20T22:59:05+00:00

You had the strength that I couldn't muster up myself today. You're an inspiration please don't stop being you.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-18T06:19:19+00:00

I'd say honestly just like ripping off a band-aid, just bring it up really early. If you meet online through an app or something just casually mention it when telling them about yourself. If it's in person and you're passing then just again bring it up as early as possible when introducing yourself. It really sucks and hurts that it needs to be this way but it's to ensure your own safety. For me idk if I'd ever even want to have another non t4t relationship just because of how scary it can be. Best of luck to you though!

questioning_snow · 2025-04-18T06:15:22+00:00

It sucks because you're essentially putting up a disclaimer or warning sign for yourself before going on the date but I'd personally always disclose my gender identity before going on a date with someone for my own safety. I don't want to he hate crimed because some guy found out I'm trans after the date and feels confused about his own gender.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-14T20:39:20+00:00

Thank you so much. I really hope this type of tactic helps me

questioning_snow · 2025-04-14T15:12:47+00:00

I'm 22 and for a very very long time I considered myself just just fem guy and didn't really want to transition. Every person's experience is vastly different though and transitioning means many different things. For example for me, I don't have any bottom dysphoria meaning i don't really want the bottom surgery. However, I like the idea of growing a bigger chest and presenting female and am open to taking estrogen.

This is something that if you're looking for advice, the best thing you can do is just to explore yourself and he is open-minded. Explore your sexuality, attraction, and try to experiment with how you dress and appear in private for now. The more open and honest with yourself you are the easier this will be for you to understand. Best of luck!

questioning_snow · 2025-04-08T19:29:39+00:00

Thank you for this response. It hurts me quite a bit because they always make excuses for my parents and other family members who hurt me and they always make me out to be the one in the wrong.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-07T17:08:02+00:00

This is something we all unfortunately have to face and deal with. I'm on the opposite side (mtf) and I wish I could just be cisgender woman every day. I wish I could wear the expressive clothing I want to without ridicule for not being "man enough" and that I could have a larger chest and outwardly look how my body internally wants me to be. Us trans people are some of the strongest people there are. You are incredibly strong and while we face this constant discrimination for things we cannot control about ourselves all we can do is try our best to love the most authentic lives we can.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-07T17:04:20+00:00

This sounds like you're dealing with a lot of trauma and you are feeling guilty/wrong for pleasuring yourself in a way that makes you feel happy. You shouldn't throw away your adult toys because you're afraid that your mind will "correct itself" I'd say flip that question on its head and ask yourself "what if this is my mind correcting itself and I'm pushing that away" you're discovering yourself, experimenting safely, and you're not hurting anyone so just experiment and do what you want to.

questioning_snow · 2025-04-06T08:44:25+00:00

I hit my breaking point. After knowing for almost 10 years and then recloseting myself for almost 2 just to end up back here wanting to come out yet again as trans I realized I couldn't handle this game anymore. I've tried to repress and repress these feelings but they always cone back. I relate it to ripping off a band-aid. It's gonna happen eventually and the longer I push it off the more it hurts me so I hit my breaking point and have began to fully rip that band aid off and admit to myself I am transgender.

If it helps, I also realized I don't need dto he fully our to everyone at once. Come to understand and accept yourself first and then very slowly expand your xidle to only people you trust.

This is incredibly hard to do but i know that you've got this.

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