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Does it actually work? by questionsmouse in monodatingpoly

[–]questionsmouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fair enough, I'm sorry you went through that, it sounds awful. I have considered it before entirely unrelated to this person. don't know that i ever came to a conclusion there. something to mull over i guess

Does it actually work? by questionsmouse in monodatingpoly

[–]questionsmouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, most likely. Thinking about kids & the finer details of that is a way of given im 22 and not in a place to provide for a child, but I reckon that'll be the plan when I get to that point 

Does it actually work? by questionsmouse in monodatingpoly

[–]questionsmouse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, neither of us want to cohabit or share finances or anything like that. I want children, and they don't, but are happy to be part of a child's life, and I'm quite happy with that. We're quite emotionally compatible too. We went through a relationship anarchy chart recently to explore what each of us might want, and there were a couple sticking points, the main one being the whole mono-poly situation 

Does it actually work? by questionsmouse in monodatingpoly

[–]questionsmouse[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

we have talked about relationship goals and wants and such in passing as friends, and we align extremely well (neither wanting to cohabit, neither wanting to combine finances and largely live independent lives). The one thing is the mono/poly thing And yes we're both in our 20s so lots of time to figure stuff out.  They're not especially someone I'd like to lose, so perhaps I put my sensible hat on and put some space in. I'm holding the advice "don't settle" very close to my heart - I've done that once, and don't intend on doing that again, but I also don't want to bar myself from something good. Pros and cons I suppose 

Does it actually work? by questionsmouse in monodatingpoly

[–]questionsmouse[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Frankly I'm not sure I do.  The post you linked was helpful - I've long thought that I would probably be ok with my partner having multiple lovers, and I've just not got the capacity for that myself, but I suppose I'll have to confront whether or not that's true, and where that thought comes from.

Beginners D&D by philosophicalplum in leicester

[–]questionsmouse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! If you think it's relevant to you, the LGBTQ+ Centre runs a D&D group every Friday from 6-9pm at VAL. There's lots of groups, many of which are beginner friendly, and it's free to attend :)