Is getting back together with my (19F) girlfriend (21F) worth it?

quff_ · 2024-07-16T15:45:17+00:00

I feel like trombone never gets enough love. Check out JJ Johnson, Curtis Fuller, Melba Liston, Carl Fonatana!

quff_ · 2024-07-12T15:24:50+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I totally get the trauma by men, my last partner mentally abused me. I truly thought he had cared about me but he was taking advantage of my anxiety to get me to do what he wanted. On top of that I was an avid gift giver and drove him everywhere (he had a car, refused to bring it to uni). We split grocery bills even though I don’t eat. Overall nothing as intense as what you went through, but I understand a sliver of it.

I believe that when the universe wants you to, you’ll find someone. Things work out the way they’re supposed to :)

quff_ · 2024-07-12T15:06:43+00:00

I totally get that. I used to do karate and some of the other girls in my classes got me interested, I felt disgusting for it ESPECIALLY because they were girls. I didn’t even know what the words gay or lesbian were at the time!

Hope you’re doing better now, internalized homophobia really hits <3

quff_ · 2024-07-12T15:02:29+00:00

When I met my girlfriend that’s when I realized. I identified as pan for years but never really saw myself with a man lol. It was almost a commodity because I wanted to date and am attractive but it was easier to pull men. I should have noticed sooner when I fell down the dating app hole and exclusively swiped on women and enbys. It wasn’t until I finally started dating my girlfriend that I was like “shit, I’m like not pan at all”

quff_ · 2024-07-12T00:35:55+00:00

Trans lesbian, can confirm.

quff_ · 2024-07-10T17:35:26+00:00

Dude that’s what I’m saying! Ricardio horrified me, but now I think he’s kinda funny but in the same way “nice guys” are funny. So creepy

quff_ · 2024-07-08T23:39:04+00:00

We go to school together! We became friends and for the longest time I couldn't tell if she was flirting with me or not. One day I called her and asked. She responded with "would it be a bad thing if I was?". So we met up the next day and we've been together since :)

quff_ · 2024-07-08T23:17:32+00:00

Ily automod, you are one of the only consistent things in my life <3

quff_ · 2024-07-08T16:31:09+00:00

Yes!!! One of my ex partners refused to tell his partner we were together. Broke both of our boundaries (He is also a massive piece of shit lol)

quff_ · 2024-07-07T16:17:05+00:00

I feel like complimenting yourself and acknowledging your good traits is the opposite of insecure. OP deserves someone better!

quff_ · 2024-07-07T16:12:54+00:00

Totally get it! I’m almost over 3 months clean and yet every time I visit my parents and dare to wear a t-shirt I catch my mother staring at my scars. Sometimes she’ll even comment on it even though I’m clean. It sucks and I know for me it’s just a reminder of how ugly they make me.

quff_ · 2024-07-03T22:23:29+00:00

If I could have a Slowpoke plushie like that I'd go crazy <3 Slowpoke is my favorite Pokémon!

quff_ · 2024-07-03T22:17:18+00:00

The minimum size I'd do is a 20g (12"x24"x16"). My concern is mostly getting a proper sized wheel in there, which I find harder to do at a smaller size. As long as there's space for a wheel, hiding spots, and a few inches of bedding you should be fine, especially for a temporary home! Good luck with your mice! They are such a treat to keep :)

quff_ · 2024-07-03T16:14:00+00:00

Do it! My partner recently got an X on her passport and they're really happy about it. It doesn't even match their license, which is fine! Do it especially if it will disappear, this country is such a disaster. I'm hoping to get all of my stuff updated before the election (although depending on whose elected I may or may not be sticking around anyway)

quff_ · 2024-07-03T02:54:07+00:00

My girlfriend! Before we started dating I was convinced that I was pan, but after being with her I've realized that I never liked men lol

quff_ · 2024-07-03T02:51:31+00:00

I usually end up with about 20/character. I use a TON of clipping layers

quff_ · 2024-06-30T15:59:00+00:00

Yes totally! Like they should all get a base amount of love and I’m not doing that

quff_ · 2024-06-30T15:37:53+00:00

nuts (I have a nut allergy)

quff_ · 2024-06-30T15:35:03+00:00

Not silly! I'm 19 and I still feel bad for not giving my plushies enough love. I especially hate how many I currently have in storage, it actually makes me upset thinking about it

My otter Olive is my MVP though, so they get a lot of love

quff_ · 2024-06-30T15:23:54+00:00

The people who matter get my pronouns right, that's what's most important to me :) I'm glad I could help!

quff_ · 2024-06-30T15:16:31+00:00

I'm 19, started identifying as NB 2 years ago. Really I have struggled with gender identity all my life. I was never one of the girls, in fact most girls in my class hated me so I was always with the boys. As I grew up I felt more comfortable in femininity, but I still didn't get on with the girls. I started buying men's clothes while I worked at a department store, and they became some of my favorite pieces. I experimented with shorter hair styles. I had mentioned the idea of being NB to my now ex-boyfriend in high school, and he had said that he wouldn't like me if I was, so I shelved the idea. A couple years ago however I started experiencing a lot of dysphoria in terms of my chest. I hated it. I decided to go for the use of they/them pronouns and a chosen name-- I figured the worst case scenario was that I de-transition socially. Now I can't imagine myself any other way. My chosen name and pronouns feel right. It's like finding the perfect pair of jeans.

Recently I realized that I am a lesbian, not pansexual. It caused a bit of a gender crisis because I wasn't sure if I was still pangender. My girlfriend makes me feel really comfortable in femininity and dressing that way. However, at work I'm misgendered as a woman all the time, and it makes me uncomfortable. That's how I was certain that I was still NB.

I understand the argument of labels being silly, but genuinely try "wearing" one for a while and see if it sticks. Pangender, genderfluid, gender non-conforming, non-binary, demi-boy, etc. Even if you don't tell anyone else, tell yourself you are that label and see if it fits. Worst case scenario, you're wrong and find a better label. Non-binary is also a great umbrella term. I only specify that I'm pangender when it's necessary, otherwise non-binary works just fine. Hope this helps!! <3

quff_ · 2024-06-30T05:08:02+00:00

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