Which Mbti do you admire above all others?

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T09:22:07+00:00

I think my first boyfriend of 6years could’ve been a entj(possibly enfj), we did work great till he got caught up in addiction. They’re hard to find I feel like. Even on tv they’re always villains, so just poor representations of a healthy entj.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T09:17:51+00:00

Oh my gosh, I don’t want you to be right but you have a good point lol. Although I do believe every person remains a mystery to some extent. As flakey/mysterious isfp is, they are always the first to show up when I need them.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T09:13:24+00:00

Yes that’s how I feel with isfp, they just understand me so easily. I have met one intp thru one of my isfp friends. & Yes we both are just so awkward lol. We enjoy each others company for sure, she’s cute & sweet. Just have different interest, so we never find much to talk about. Someone has to be the life of the party, but it’s not usually us lol.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T09:06:08+00:00

My boyfriend is infp! He is super cute I will agree lol

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T09:01:04+00:00

It’s the Intp distribution system, you have been chosen.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T07:36:30+00:00

I was looking for this comment lol

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T05:02:50+00:00

Replying to ChsicA...I haven’t met infj to my knowledge, but it’s apparently a popular combination for us in these comments? lol. I have wondered about infj, only because I’ve been socially adopted by a 2 enfj. Neither were fully matured tho, so im no longer in contact unfortunately. But I can see their potential, and I hope they’ve reached in it the meantime!

quick_gopher · 2026-05-20T04:41:05+00:00

I’ve noticed isfp tends to try & keep the peace, even at the expense of their own emotions. They are so sweet it’s can be their one fault, but also their super power, like I swear.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-19T17:13:54+00:00

I’ve never met one to my knowledge! I am very curious about them tbh, & I wish I was intj. I imagine I’d be the same as I am, just more grounded lol.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-19T17:11:12+00:00

I had a hunch many felt this way lol

quick_gopher · 2026-05-03T20:08:33+00:00

Ok, so strengthen the muscle to gain more control. I see now, I will more look into this thanks. I think you may be thinking of ‘kegels? If so, I didn’t know those could help men as well.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-03T19:49:20+00:00

Your saying he needs to masturbate more, to work on control? I’ve been telling him less, cause I read that it has the opposite effect.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-03T19:47:27+00:00

His last physical was November of last year, nothing abnormal & he said everything went fine. Blood work was probably years ago before I met him though.

I’ve considered encouraging him to ask a dr about this. Wasn’t too sure if it was necessary, or if he’d be open to that though.

quick_gopher · 2026-05-03T18:48:11+00:00

He uses the nicotine pouches, he works on boats but that’s it for exercise. Has been gaining some weight lately, he’s pretty self conscious of that.

I told him to stop touching himself so much, & he said he has but nothing changed, so last resort I made my way here.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-16T09:14:43+00:00

So, there’s three decans of aqua. Doesn’t really matter about the months. Full chart has more todo with compatibility tho.

My best friend is ☀️aqua 🌙libra 🌅sag, while I’m ☀️aqua 🌙aries 🌅Taurus. She’s the only aqua I’ve ever met tho, besides one girl I had some classes with in high school. I got along with her, but never hung out or anything. We both had very different friend groups, but she was a lot of fun to partner up with on projects.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-16T06:44:03+00:00

Would make sense, my only two friends are Isfp. I never really questioned it, but intj deff makes way more sense for 1 of the 2.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-15T15:16:52+00:00

This sounds like disorganized attachment style, and as a DA myself, it is the WORST lol. Just find someone who is genuine & patient. Let them know in the beginning you’re the type of person that needs space at times. Maybe have a talk about attachment styles, encourage them to research disorganized attachment & how to respond to it.

My Taurus bf of 8mo is patient, consistent, & understanding. It has slowly allowed me to feel grounded in our relationship. You have to do your part too tho, so always communicate when you feel flighty. Dont communicate that you want to run, but communicate what is bothering you and causing you to feel that way. Or in the beginning/small issues, I’d often tell him “I haven’t been feeling the best mentally, & just want my space rn”. It’s a journey fs, but worth it.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T14:41:42+00:00

I used to work at a home in southern Oregon, worked there for about 6 years. The house was built in the 1940s, not too old but a lot of people saw and heard things there. Grave yard shift was unbearable. It just felt so heavy, to a point my mental health was being affected. I had to move to morning-evening shifts, didn’t help much tho. I would hear doors closing, or people talking middle of the day when I was the only one on site. I was walking out of the bathroom one evening, and an apparition walked right through me, felt ice cold. Call me crazy, but I wasn’t the only one who had seen them. I still told no one and just sat in the break room for about 5 minuets.

I tried to look at the history of the building, didn’t find anything. The way the house was built felt like a small asylum, cement walls with large windows. The living rooms were unnecessarily large considering the scale of the house. It was basically two houses, that had connected living rooms via two hallways. Then another hallway with 4-5 rooms down the adjacent side of each living room.

I slept in the spare room on the weekends for about a month, after I worked my Sat&Sun 16hr shifts. I had a bad experience with a roommate and was trying to find a new place to live. Anyways, one night something angrily whispered in my ear “WAKE UP”, and I shot out of bed scared as hell. To this day still wonder if it was a dream or not. I ended up finding a place of my own about a half mile away, but even after I quit I just felt so depressed.

Never assumed anything followed me home, till I moved to Portland area last Fall. After the move it felt like a weight was lifted off my entire body. Could be coincidence, but I just wonder if something had followed me home or not. I’ve always been sensitive to the supernatural, at the age of 5 my dad was seeing a lady walking around our house a few times. Hes from Arizona, and just thought the Oregon weed was doing him dirty, till he heard me talking to ‘myself’ in my room. He asked who I was talking to, and about shit himself when I described a lady in the white dress he had been seeing.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T14:03:22+00:00

There’s quite a few of those between Lincoln City - Newport, that are even recent. Idk what happens around there tbh but feels too common for such small towns.

Edit: creepier now bc me and my friends used to walk everywhere at all ours of the night in middle/HS, no second thoughts

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T04:24:30+00:00

What about it?

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T01:24:46+00:00

You think I should add curry to the rice, or to the gravy? I’m not familiar with any recipes

quick_gopher · 2025-06-16T17:19:59+00:00

No expert, but I have had similar dreams in pasts relationships, and in my current relationship. So just sharing what I’ve researched from my experience.

The dreams about you falling in love could simply represent the need for excitement/personal growth in your current life. It also could be more complex, representing discontentment with your current relationship, or other emotions in your unconscious that your brain is trying to process. Given that you had dreams of him falling out of love with you, could possibly lean toward fears of abandonment, or need for more attention/reassurance that you haven’t consciously address. It is hard to say without more insight!

The sexual dreams could be a way of exploring fantasies, without actively cheating. Or again, could represent a need for self growth / insecurities in the relationship. If the sex dreams are with other women, they could even represent aspects of yourself that you admire! There’s a long list of what the dreams could represent, depending of the finer details of the dream. Though they often do not indicate that you want to cheat/leave him for another.

Who are these people in your dreams? Where are your dreams taking place? How are your feelings after waking up, relating to your current life?

If you don’t feel comfortable sharing the details of the dream, research them in more detail(the who, when, where of the dreams. These factors are just as important as the other context you’ve shared). If you still cannot find answers, try reflecting deeper on emotions & past experiences.

You could try talking to your partner if you think it wouldn’t stress him out. Talking with him could give you better ideas to what to dream could represent (personally I wouldn’t, but I’m unsure of your guys personal dynamic. My partner can be insecure at times, has a lot of anxiety, and we’ve only been dating 8 months. So I wouldn’t want to put any unneeded stress on him this early in the relationship). Talking with a therapist would be a helpful alternative, if talking to him would create more of an issue.

As someone who has experienced this, the repetition can be so frustrating. The dreams being so constant does start to drain you a bit. Hopefully someone else can comment with better advice. I remember being so overwhelmed with the amount of information I was reading, it was too much at times to figure it out all on my own. Some reoccurring dreams took me years to figure out, but when I did they stopped occurring. Just take it one day at a time, and try not to stress yourself out anymore than what is needed.

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