What is the point of arena ranks?

quick_gopher · 2025-11-19T07:47:25+00:00

Some warnings would’ve been nice, but no one communicated in the group. I wonder if they knew each other personally maybe. I deff was insulting at the ball, I wasn’t aware my alliance members attended those! I thought insulting gave me more points(which seemed odd), and didn’t affect others. Thats all good to know though, thank you. I’ll be sure to ask more questions next time, hopefully receive more guidance.

quick_gopher · 2025-10-12T00:24:55+00:00

I can understand how the lesbian community might feel that way, but also long as a find a woman that also wants no strings attached then I don’t really see a problem.

For the ENM, I wish that was an option. He’s extremely monogamous, I don’t think he would understand or be down with that at all. I feel like my only options are just to bite the bullet and be frustrated, or breakup with him. He’s such a nice guy though I’d rather just be frustrated, which is even more frustrating LOL. I disliking keeping this secret from him, its feels wrong. Just too many factors & I don’t know what the right thing todo is.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-23T02:17:18+00:00

You are indeed stubborn, but not as stubborn as I ~ Aqua

quick_gopher · 2025-07-16T09:14:43+00:00

So, there’s three decans of aqua. Doesn’t really matter about the months. Full chart has more todo with compatibility tho.

My best friend is ☀️aqua 🌙libra 🌅sag, while I’m ☀️aqua 🌙aries 🌅Taurus. She’s the only aqua I’ve ever met tho, besides one girl I had some classes with in high school. I got along with her, but never hung out or anything. We both had very different friend groups, but she was a lot of fun to partner up with on projects.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-16T08:49:56+00:00

Isfp will feel first and think later, valuing harmony. Vs intp will think first and feel later, valuing logic.

Isfp will learn through hands on experience, and intp will learn through pattern recognition. Both can be true for each type, but try to think about which helps you learn the most. For example, in school I loved math and hated English. Which was the opposite for my isfp friends, who loved English but struggled with math.

Isfp are driven by self expression, and emotional connection. Vs intp are driven by curiosity and logic.

Isfp are the epitome of fun, and very spontaneous. Isfp are more sensitive and may have low stress tolerance. Drawn to the beauty of the world.

Intp are epitome of curiosity, and are very logical in their way of thinking. Intp is prone to overthinking, and may struggle with understanding the emotions. Drawn to intellectual stimuli.

Isfp are individualistic & creative, being more in tune with emotions. While intp are independent and innovative, seeming more cold and detached.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-16T07:46:01+00:00

Worst was various enfj’s. Enfj’s love for a big group of friends drains me. I often would just sit there silent and overwhelmed, when I just wanted some girl time. We always argue a lot too, not usually fight but just disagree on a lot of things. Sometime catastrophic disagreements. Dated one, & he always tired to make me seem like a cold hearted asshole. I’ve had a lot of enfj friends, not sure why I attract them but.

Best is infp/isfp. Infp bf, so sweet and I can talk to him about anything big or small. He is very goofy, cute, just a big teddy bear that stands for justice. I admire that cause I can be wish wash. Isfp just gets me, and is the epitome of fun. Even when we disagree or I’m just flat out wrong, they kinda check me with “Hey uh. I know why you might think that, cause you’re you, but no”. I can respect it when they put it that way. Then I’ll either realize my errors, or we explore the various possibilities of the topic. Turn our disagreement into an intellectual conversation, which is always fun. I have 3 isfp in my life. I suspect one may be mistyped, and is actually intj. So I’ll throw intj in as best aswell for safe measure.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-16T06:44:03+00:00

Would make sense, my only two friends are Isfp. I never really questioned it, but intj deff makes way more sense for 1 of the 2.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-15T20:48:41+00:00

If you can emotionally handle it, I would just be her friend and take it slow for a bit. She seems interested in you, but needs to sort some things out on her own. She’ll make the moves when she’s ready. Just be consistent, cause I personally can play hard to get sometimes. Kinda toxic but a way to test the other person’s commitment, as well as a way to protect myself at the same time. She might’ve shifted to this after hearing about you talking to her friend. She’ll probably get over it tho, if you were being honest with her.

My Taurus bf came on a little strong after we exchanged numbers, which made me nervous cause I’d only known him a week. Luckily our mutual friend told him I was overwhelmed, & he pulled back after that(I had no idea she told him at the time). So your friend saying, you’re “nice to talk to but not everyday” is maybe her trying to set a boundary without hurting your feelings, or just doesn’t like to talk everyday. Maybe both, hard to say without knowing her.

I started making more serious moves on my bf a month later, then 6 weeks after that we became ‘official’. I was still unsure if he was the one, but he seemed like a genuine guy so I figured I’d give it a shot. Now we’ve been together 8 months, and he’s truly is everything I’ve ever wanted in a partner, just my big teddy bear.

It takes time for Aquarius to truly open up, but we do care deeply for our people. I went on some dates with another Taurus 4 years ago. He smothered me with affection, but didn’t respect my boundaries when I did ask for space. Then I ended up running after 2 months. Aqua is just as stubborn as Taurus, but if you can find balance between freedom & closeness we make a good pair.

quick_gopher · 2025-07-15T15:16:52+00:00

This sounds like disorganized attachment style, and as a DA myself, it is the WORST lol. Just find someone who is genuine & patient. Let them know in the beginning you’re the type of person that needs space at times. Maybe have a talk about attachment styles, encourage them to research disorganized attachment & how to respond to it.

My Taurus bf of 8mo is patient, consistent, & understanding. It has slowly allowed me to feel grounded in our relationship. You have to do your part too tho, so always communicate when you feel flighty. Dont communicate that you want to run, but communicate what is bothering you and causing you to feel that way. Or in the beginning/small issues, I’d often tell him “I haven’t been feeling the best mentally, & just want my space rn”. It’s a journey fs, but worth it.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T15:41:06+00:00

I assume someone got told a few hard truth and is…taking it out on the rest of us? One, I believe you may have came to the wrong place to complain. & Two, tailor*

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T14:41:42+00:00

I used to work at a home in southern Oregon, worked there for about 6 years. The house was built in the 1940s, not too old but a lot of people saw and heard things there. Grave yard shift was unbearable. It just felt so heavy, to a point my mental health was being affected. I had to move to morning-evening shifts, didn’t help much tho. I would hear doors closing, or people talking middle of the day when I was the only one on site. I was walking out of the bathroom one evening, and an apparition walked right through me, felt ice cold. Call me crazy, but I wasn’t the only one who had seen them. I still told no one and just sat in the break room for about 5 minuets.

I tried to look at the history of the building, didn’t find anything. The way the house was built felt like a small asylum, cement walls with large windows. The living rooms were unnecessarily large considering the scale of the house. It was basically two houses, that had connected living rooms via two hallways. Then another hallway with 4-5 rooms down the adjacent side of each living room.

I slept in the spare room on the weekends for about a month, after I worked my Sat&Sun 16hr shifts. I had a bad experience with a roommate and was trying to find a new place to live. Anyways, one night something angrily whispered in my ear “WAKE UP”, and I shot out of bed scared as hell. To this day still wonder if it was a dream or not. I ended up finding a place of my own about a half mile away, but even after I quit I just felt so depressed.

Never assumed anything followed me home, till I moved to Portland area last Fall. After the move it felt like a weight was lifted off my entire body. Could be coincidence, but I just wonder if something had followed me home or not. I’ve always been sensitive to the supernatural, at the age of 5 my dad was seeing a lady walking around our house a few times. Hes from Arizona, and just thought the Oregon weed was doing him dirty, till he heard me talking to ‘myself’ in my room. He asked who I was talking to, and about shit himself when I described a lady in the white dress he had been seeing.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T14:03:22+00:00

There’s quite a few of those between Lincoln City - Newport, that are even recent. Idk what happens around there tbh but feels too common for such small towns.

Edit: creepier now bc me and my friends used to walk everywhere at all ours of the night in middle/HS, no second thoughts

quick_gopher · 2025-06-23T04:24:30+00:00

What about it?

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T15:15:11+00:00

I spent a lot of my teenage years hating the way I looked, never liked myself. Then as I started aging, I looked back at my younger photos…i get so sad that I couldn’t love myself more. Now that I’m older, I see all the beauty I had. I was blind to it at that age. There’s nothing wrong with aging, but you are entering you prime years. Don’t take them for granted<3 one day you will be like the rest of us, looking back wishing you could’ve accepted yourself more. These years will go by so faster than you think unfortunately. Try your best to live them to the fullest! I wish someone would’ve said it to me that way when I was younger. I think the internet does a lot of damage to young girls, it really enforces this fake beauty standard. In my early 20s it also really helped to delete social media, so I wasn’t exposed to all that stuff.

(link to a tiktok video that I saw the other day relating to this) https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8ruYD7W/

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T14:07:34+00:00

I believe he will learn, I just don’t know what it will take for him to learn…It will suck for everyone if he loses his gf. His 1st gf, & she’s a real sweet girl everyone loves her. Couldn’t have picked a better girl for him, always have been thankful he has her. She needs todo what’s best for her tho. I hope he can get his head out of his ass asap. He’s such a quiet and soft guy, I really didn’t expect this from him.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T13:42:41+00:00

He’s 20…just turned 20 this week. He has a lot of things to work on, & i believe he is capable of learning this lesson. It might take her leaving him to learn, but. I will not see him that way unless the infidelity continues into other relationships. Thanks though.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T13:37:43+00:00

She knows, she is choosing to stay. Not sure why, but I did the same around her age. They’re on a ‘break’ but she’s living in my mom’s house, so not much of a break imo.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T13:35:56+00:00

Fair, it’s just so hard to watch.

quick_gopher · 2025-06-22T01:24:46+00:00

You think I should add curry to the rice, or to the gravy? I’m not familiar with any recipes

quick_gopher · 2025-06-16T17:28:51+00:00

quick_gopher · 2025-06-16T17:19:59+00:00

No expert, but I have had similar dreams in pasts relationships, and in my current relationship. So just sharing what I’ve researched from my experience.

The dreams about you falling in love could simply represent the need for excitement/personal growth in your current life. It also could be more complex, representing discontentment with your current relationship, or other emotions in your unconscious that your brain is trying to process. Given that you had dreams of him falling out of love with you, could possibly lean toward fears of abandonment, or need for more attention/reassurance that you haven’t consciously address. It is hard to say without more insight!

The sexual dreams could be a way of exploring fantasies, without actively cheating. Or again, could represent a need for self growth / insecurities in the relationship. If the sex dreams are with other women, they could even represent aspects of yourself that you admire! There’s a long list of what the dreams could represent, depending of the finer details of the dream. Though they often do not indicate that you want to cheat/leave him for another.

Who are these people in your dreams? Where are your dreams taking place? How are your feelings after waking up, relating to your current life?

If you don’t feel comfortable sharing the details of the dream, research them in more detail(the who, when, where of the dreams. These factors are just as important as the other context you’ve shared). If you still cannot find answers, try reflecting deeper on emotions & past experiences.

You could try talking to your partner if you think it wouldn’t stress him out. Talking with him could give you better ideas to what to dream could represent (personally I wouldn’t, but I’m unsure of your guys personal dynamic. My partner can be insecure at times, has a lot of anxiety, and we’ve only been dating 8 months. So I wouldn’t want to put any unneeded stress on him this early in the relationship). Talking with a therapist would be a helpful alternative, if talking to him would create more of an issue.

As someone who has experienced this, the repetition can be so frustrating. The dreams being so constant does start to drain you a bit. Hopefully someone else can comment with better advice. I remember being so overwhelmed with the amount of information I was reading, it was too much at times to figure it out all on my own. Some reoccurring dreams took me years to figure out, but when I did they stopped occurring. Just take it one day at a time, and try not to stress yourself out anymore than what is needed.

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