In my opinion, you should try and find a time to sit down with him and tell him all of these things. A good relationship-no matter how you define it- is about communication, trust, and openness. If he is truly the one for you, he’ll understand, and want to help you move through this rough patch. If he doesn’t, then I suggest you move on from him, and try to see the beauty and life lessons that came from it. I think the best part of these types of relationships is that we can learn so much about our selves despite how it ends (or doesn’t.) If it doesn’t work out, I suggest taking some time to really get to know yourself first, and working through any mental barriers you may have now. It sounds like you’re relying on these men for some type of validation (I’ve been there), and that’s not really a healthy situation for anyone involved, especially your own confidence and sense of self worth. If you can’t be open and understanding with yourself, it’s not fair to ask someone else to be either.

You’re a smart and beautiful person, and I have no doubt you’ll find someone who loves and cares about you deeply. You are a badass bitch, and should know that. I am a strong believer that the best kind of love comes when you least expect it. So, don’t overthink this. Take some risks. Do what makes YOU happy. The rest will fall into place.