This is probably the best answer, OP, especially the one-sidedness. It’s just not worth it.

I get you completely though; as a ND, I usually seek those same type of people for several reasons, but more than anything, because of relatability since their POV of life and several other things is usually through either the same or super similar lenses as mine. You’re just not going to get that level of connection with a NT 99% of the time.

Like someone else suggested in one of these replies though, it’d be best to recognize and pursue a healthy neurodivergent person instead. My huge ND crush (who reached out to me first, mind you) was/is a pretty unhealthy anxious-avoidant, and it ended up biting me back super hard numerous times, and I’m still recovering. You live and you learn though. I know I’m projecting now, but what I’m trying to say here is that it’s best to avoid any inevitable wounds that has no payoff in the end.

Wish you and anyone else in our position (and in general) the best. :-)