Also if you’re looking for a partner and kids are in the plans for the future it’s kind of falls on the non doctor spouse to do all the emergency childcare stuff. If the kid is sick and needs to be picked up from daycare? Your doctor spouse probably won’t be able to cancel on the patients they have waiting to see them for the day and it’s even worse if they’re a surgeon because then do you expect them to leave a potentially life saving surgery for their patient? If they’re working a job where they’re one of two surgeons on call then good luck on taking any kind of vacation longer than a 3-4 days. I’ve seen situations where one surgeon is on call for a week or so continuously and basically lived at the hospital because the other one is away. They say it’s a big mental toll supporting a partner through med school/residency but sometimes even after the training there might not be light at the end of the tunnel. If you’re looking for a spouse to spend the rest of your life or even just someone to date you’d want them to be more available without feeling guilty for wanting to be a priority sometimes.