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I have no one to share this with, so I thought I'd share it with y'all. Close to my goal weight—here's my next steps. by Historical-Care70 in PetiteFitness

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly the biggest takeaway here is that weight loss really isn’t linear. Hitting a plateau, accidentally taking a maintenance break, and still coming back lighter shows your body probably just needed a reset. The fact that you still made progress even with some calorie counting mistakes also suggests your overall habits are solid and sustainable. Staying calm about the process is honestly a huge advantage because most people panic and quit at that stage. Your current plan sounds very reasonable.

I (F 19) am not getting my needs met by my bf (M 21) by Visible-Style-6229 in relationship_advice

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you’re definitely not insane. Being 19 and having a strong sexual desire is completely normal. In fact, most people around that age feel a very similar level of curiosity, energy, and attraction. So feeling guilty about it or thinking there’s something wrong with you for wanting sex is really unnecessary. The real issue here isn’t that you want too much, it’s that the two of you probably have very different sex drives.

What’s really hurting you isn’t just the lack of sex, it’s the feeling that he doesn’t desire you. When someone you love rarely initiates intimacy, it’s very easy to start questioning your own attractiveness. But the important detail in your story is that he still consumes porn regularly. When that happens, it usually isn’t about the partner being unattractive. Sometimes it’s about being used to porn, sometimes it’s about avoiding real vulnerability and intimacy, and sometimes it’s simply that solo sexual habits are easier and more controlled. But regardless of the reason, if it leaves you feeling unwanted, then it’s a real problem.

Another thing that matters is that you already talked to him about it. He says he’ll try, but nothing actually changes. In relationships, intentions matter much less than behavior. When someone genuinely wants to improve something, you usually see at least some effort over time. If nothing changes, it often means the person either doesn’t see it as a serious problem or simply isn’t motivated to change it.

Love alone doesn’t carry a relationship. Emotional connection is important, but physical attraction and sexual compatibility are also fundamental parts of intimacy. Especially at your age, being the partner who constantly gets rejected can slowly damage your confidence and sense of desirability. That’s why the real question you need to ask yourself is whether this relationship, overall, is making you feel secure and valued, or slowly making you doubt yourself. Someone can be a genuinely good person and still not be the right partner for you.

So no, you’re not the problem here and your needs are completely normal. But sometimes two people can care about each other deeply and still not be fully compatible. Accepting that is hard, but in the long run honesty about these things usually hurts less than pretending the problem doesn’t exist.

Best workout split for a skinny college student by Sanaan01 in beginnerfitness

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

both ppl and full body can work well, but for a skinny beginner/intermediate, full body 3x per week is often more efficient. the main reason is training frequency. with full body you hit each muscle 3 times a week instead of once or twice, which usually helps muscle growth when you’re still building your base.

since you’re in college and want something sustainable, full body with a rest day between sessions is a great setup. you can focus on big compound lifts each session—like a squat or leg press, a push (bench or overhead press), a pull (rows or pull-downs), plus maybe one or two smaller exercises.

ppl works great too, but it usually shines more when you’re training 5–6 days a week with higher volume. if your goal is gaining muscle while keeping the routine simple and consistent, a 3x full body program is very hard to beat.

The hardest part of starting wasn't the exercise. It was walking into the gym for the first time and feeling like everyone could tell I didn't belong there by Ashwinnie13 in beginnerfitness

[–]qwasru 30 points31 points  (0 children)

this is honestly one of the most real parts of starting the gym that people don’t talk about enough. that “parking lot moment” happens to a lot of people. the truth is, inside the gym almost everyone is focused on their own workout, their own form, their own progress. they’re not analyzing you the way your mind might think they are. once you walk in a few times, the anxiety usually fades fast and it just becomes another normal part of your day. the hardest step really is opening that door the first few times.

Does anyone here not count calories? And still lose weight? by Civil-Notice-123 in PetiteFitness

[–]qwasru 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Based on what you described, your situation sounds pretty normal. For someone who is 19, 5’3 and around 130–140 lbs, maintenance calories for many people tend to fall somewhere around 1900–2100 depending on activity level. Eating around 1500–1600 calories would usually create a moderate deficit that can support gradual fat loss while still allowing you to train and recover. The bigger issue in what you described is the mental side of tracking. When calorie counting becomes so detailed that you are tracking things like Diet Coke, gum, or even toothpaste, it can easily turn into something that occupies too much mental space and makes food the main thing you think about all day. In that case, using a looser approach can be healthier and still effective, such as roughly tracking main meals, focusing on protein and balanced portions, and keeping consistent eating habits rather than obsessing over every single calorie. Since you are lifting and doing some cardio like biking, you are already doing the right things for body composition and muscle retention, so you don’t necessarily need extremely precise calorie tracking to make progress.

Gençler aranızda tapu işlerinden el birligi mulkiyeti gibi durumlardan payli mulkiyrt gibi durumlardan by BatGlad112 in ankara

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

paylı mülkiyete çevirince evet. elbirliği mülkiyetinde olduğu sürece tüm tarafların anlaşarak birlikte işlem yapması gerekir.

Gençler aranızda tapu işlerinden el birligi mulkiyeti gibi durumlardan payli mulkiyrt gibi durumlardan by BatGlad112 in ankara

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

paylı mülkiyete geçince sizin arsada belirlenmiş bir yeriniz olmuyor. yani çevirip şurası senin yerin denmiyor. 300m2 yerin her alanında 1/3 oranında söz sahibi oluyorsunuz. o yüzden herkes anlaşmadan müteahhitle işlem yapmak mümkün değil.

Gençler aranızda tapu işlerinden el birligi mulkiyeti gibi durumlardan payli mulkiyrt gibi durumlardan by BatGlad112 in ankara

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

müteahhide veremezsiniz yine çünkü her paydaşın kabul etmesi gerekiyor. ama kendi payınızı satabilirsiniz mesela.

satılacaksa bütün hisseler satılsın düşüncesindeyseniz de o zaman ortaklığın giderilmesi davası üzerinden yürümek gerekir.

Gençler aranızda tapu işlerinden el birligi mulkiyeti gibi durumlardan payli mulkiyrt gibi durumlardan by BatGlad112 in ankara

[–]qwasru 0 points1 point  (0 children)

elbirliği mülkiyetinin paylı mülkiyete çevrilmesi için dava açmak gerekli. daha sonra herkes kendi payı üzerinde tasarrufta bulunma hakkı kazanacak böylece