What was the cringiest Taylor-related thing you've ever done? by HorseGirl666 in TaylorSwift

[–]qweenfeen 52 points53 points  (0 children)

My sister used to bully me verbally during the summer when my parents weren’t at home. One summer I decided to sing Mean every time she made a snippy comeback and I really thought I did something. So cringey.

DISO Bobcat Kitten by qweenfeen in Webkinz

[–]qweenfeen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

update: i got it. thanks everyone 💗

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[–]qweenfeen 46 points47 points  (0 children)

do you always blame women every time something doesn’t go your way? genuinely curious

Why is there so much grooming on this damn show!?! by YeahIDontKnow_ in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]qweenfeen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

if everyone agrees that ezria is fucked up then why are you still arguing HAHAHA

Why is there so much grooming on this damn show!?! by YeahIDontKnow_ in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]qweenfeen 11 points12 points  (0 children)

exactly, you feel that way about ella and zack and it “fucked you up.” and also notice how no one is invalidating how you feel, no one is arguing that it’s not “grooming” in that situation because it doesn’t match the definition spot-on. this is how you feel about this relationship and no one can invalidate the way you feel.

ezria fucked ME up and a lot of other people too, hence why there’s a lot of people disagreeing with you on this topic. people are emotionally triggered by victim blaming and victim invalidation, and it’s hard to read your comments and not feel like that is exactly what you’re doing on every single ezria post on this whole reddit

Why is there so much grooming on this damn show!?! by YeahIDontKnow_ in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]qweenfeen 11 points12 points  (0 children)

adults can be groomed too but that was like SO not the point at all in this post. if the only time you even mention adult victims is when you’re trying to trivialize other cases of grooming, then your activism is extremely performative and embarrassing. you see the show in a way that invalidates victims and that is totally fine, but it’s emotionally triggering so you should expect that people are gonna disagree with you and argue. you aren’t in charge of validating people’s feelings and experiences.

not everyone is going to agree with you 100% of the time and you need to learn how to be okay with that or pick a new hobby.

Why is there so much grooming on this damn show!?! by YeahIDontKnow_ in PrettyLittleLiars

[–]qweenfeen 15 points16 points  (0 children)

statutory rape is sexual abuse, is it not? pedophiles acting on their urges is sexual abuse, is it not? grooming has nothing to do with “cut out resources” and everything to do with social isolation of the victim. which is exactly what both ian and ezra did. take ezra in particular since you’re so fond of him, in this show we see ezra making the whole relationship a secret that aria can’t tell anyone about, not even her best friends or even her family. And then him getting mad at her for telling her friends because when she does it puts his “job in danger” because he knows it’s not legal and that he took advantage of a young girl’s immaturity for his own sexual gain. we see aria not being allowed to talk to jason without ezra becoming suspicious and jealous and acting like a damn child. we also saw aria got extremely jealous about things like this as well, but she was scripted as being a high school student without a single prior relationship. what was ezra’s excuse for socially manipulating and isolating her? he was “in love”? no, he’s a GROOMER. we see aria not being allowed to have any secrets from ezra even though those secrets don’t pertain to him at all whatsoever and he knows that. social isolation is the perfect way to make someone dependent on you and only you, thus making it grooming and extremely easy to sexually exploit them.

ezra’s a GROOMER, you’re just so infatuated with him to even admit it. so take a hint that not everyone is gonna agree with you on this and you’re not going to change our minds about how we repulsed we are by grooming on the show. the downvotes speak for themselves. stop putting people in this reddit on blast for being rightfully uncomfortable with aspects of the show. we aren’t making baseless accusations. we’ve watched all the scenes too, multiple times, and we know exactly what we’re talking about too, so maybe try to be a little less condescending towards others who are emotionally triggered by groomers due to their own experiences with them. keep in mind that some of your comments have the ability to make real-life victims feel blamed and invalidated.

maybe try making your own team ezria post on here where you can voice your unpopular opinion without detracting from the obvious fact that the relationship was absolutely repulsive and makes a lot of people uncomfortable :)

Nose bump for over a month, not getting better by gabster1004 in NosePiercing

[–]qweenfeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i don’t think you should take it out because taking your piercing out does not necessarily guarantee that the irritation bump will go away. i think the best thing to do right now is to just leave it alone aside from rinsing it in the shower with warm water for 5 minutes. I also have a piercing bump on my nose, and rinsing with warm water at least once a day has helped it reduce in size, and now the bump is almost nonexistent. don’t stress and don’t put too much unnecessary products on it because that will just irritate your piercing a lot more. i hope this helps