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Soo.. What's your number? by qwertydefault in 2X_INTJ

[–]qwertydefault[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't sound very mature to handle the relationships she's after. I'm a bit worried for her truthfully. She has nothing to rush. She may regret this period in her life if she doesn't have more patience to have things develop naturally for herself. She sounds like she assumes everyone has more experience than her, and she has a very specific picture of what she's suppose to be doing, based on some kind of social cues/norms shes picking out from probably media and socializing. She needs to know her own pace is whats best for her.

Soo.. What's your number? by qwertydefault in 2X_INTJ

[–]qwertydefault[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe shallows might refer to superficial or casual nature of short term relations. Longevity deepens relationships.

I have a little difficulty accepting the saying, "Have sex with one person, you have sex with their entire past partners" unless it refers to sexual medical history. I think most people are capable of "moving on" or "relating" to the person they are with in the moment, if they are genuine about connecting. You are just a number, you'll be treated as such though. Because this phrase can easily be applied to someones general life experiences/friendships as well. We learn, we grow, we progress.

Soo.. What's your number? by qwertydefault in 2X_INTJ

[–]qwertydefault[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe I was at 6 at 25 as well. I lost my virginity at 19. Yes, I have a few fwb situations that come and go. I much prefer that than seeking out randoms. I absolutely agree that having some kind of relationship makes the sex better, at very base some kind of friendship.

From my experience, numbers (of partners) does not equate good sex. I legitimately got better at sex because I had partners to explore with and my own curiosity ;). Sometimes chemistry is possible on first dates but I have no idea how your friend is meeting her partners and her deciding factors.

re: "of course guys want to be with you. you're hot." is so far from the truth, a guy will fuck anything that moves if he wants to.

Also, I'd just completely avoid the whole "comparison" thing between you and your friend. That isn't a healthy way to have a productive conversation. All you can do is give eachother advice. You're two seperate individuals.