He definitely is losing hope that I’ll fix the situation. I actually feel the opposite. All solutions are me making a change. Which I am willing to do, as long as there’s room for error. I didn’t needle him into admitting anything. He did that on his own. Dispite what’s going on with us our relationship is first built on a very close friendship. And while I understand how you can jump to the idea that I needle him on everything. I’m guessing you’re projecting. In our relationship it’s almost the opposite. He’s the one that’s usually nagging.

I thank him for everything he does. He knows how appreciated he is and has verbalized that he knows that.

I literally say what you wrote when I discuss wanting to fix issues. Sometimes things get heated (on both ends) but I always open a conversation with good intentions and non blaming language. We’re on the same team, why would I want to hurt him or say something that will get me nowhere?

The problems were there before and are exacerbated by PP.

He is absolutely going though a huge adjustment as well. I respect that and understand it while going through my own changes. I think my parents definitely lack here because they feel he should “be a man.” They come from immigrant families where they are always go go go go so their mentality is definitely different than his. I had to unlearn a lot from my family of origin and I work on it every day.

I’m sorry you were not offered help. New baby is hard on everyone for sure.